Is it wrong that I like my girlfriends best friend? Im real good friends with her and if I had the choice i would be with her, but she dosnt like me like that. I like my girlfriend though, just is it wrong that I may like her best friend more?
2007-08-27 13:06:09 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes and it's not fair to your gf
2007-08-27 13:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a 'grass is always greener on the other side of the fence' thing? Intimacy may be scaring you and this best friend is an escape fantasy. Things would be soooo much better with her, right? Especially since she doesn't seem interested in you that way. How could being with someone who doesn't want to be with you be better than someone who does? Well, IF she liked me and IF I wasn't going out with her best friend etc etc. There are too many unrealities here. Not impossibilities. Just things that aren't true right now. Which makes it a fantasy.
Try to think about why you're unhappy right now. Why is this fantasy so powerful? Am I angry at my current girlfriend and can't admit it? Is she really boring to me? Am I afraid of getting closer to her? I don't know the right answers to these. Only you do. But I think it's well worth a look.
2007-08-27 13:17:26 · answer #2 · answered by LG 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong. You can't help how you feel. But that should tell you something about your relationship with your girlfriend. When you find the person that is right for you, you won't find anyone else more interesting. It sounds like maybe you are fairly young and haven't had too many girlfriends. Just take your time in the relationship. Over time, you may realize that what you have with your current girlfriend is great and it may grow into something where you don't want to look elsewhere or you may realize that she just isn't someone who will keep your interest for the rest of your life. Either way is fine but if you realize after a while that she isn't who you want to spend the rest of your life with, do not settle just because it is comfortable and do be honest with her. That way, throughout your life you can feel happy with how you have conducted yourself.
2007-08-27 13:19:59 · answer #3 · answered by Shine! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually no this is not wrong, but your attraction to her is not the same as she views you. You are her friend, and you should remain that way until things change. If you have a girlfriend already and do not feel she is the right one for you try for a different one. Not the one your attracted to since she already has a boyfriend. Just be civil and nice.
2007-08-27 13:11:42 · answer #4 · answered by vanallenbelt1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help the way you feel, or what makes you happy. But you can deny your emotions and do the right thing. Don't ever date your girls best friend, cuz then not only are you taking away her boyfriend, your taking away her best friend, too. On the other hand, if you're not really into the girl you're seeing, end it before it gets more serious. The longer you wait, the more it hurts. good luck
2007-08-27 13:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by sskstru 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong, you can't help who you like; but you shouldn't drag your girlfriend along as a toy. That's wrong!! And by the way you phrased you're question, you don't like your girlfriend that much. And if you do you need to dig a little deeper. That would be stupid to risk you relationship with someone that doesn't like you. Don't embarrass your girlfriend like that.
2007-08-27 13:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by chels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy point aveiw. It is not wrong. As long as you don't cheat on your girl. Liking someone else just tempts you. You are kind of stuck in your situation though. So you either have to break it to her and her best friend, or just live, liking someone that you dont date.
2007-08-27 13:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Southern Comfort 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen up. I was the other girl once. My friends boyfriend and I liked eachother and shortly after they broke up we got together. It wasnt what it looked like, but try telling everyone else that.
I think its an easy question seeing as you know her friend doesnt like you. When someone doesnt like me..i dont go after them. Since your even thinking about the other girl, you must not REALLy like your GF. It is wrong, in my opinion. Do something about it. But remember...what if you were in your girlfriends shoes.
sorry for attacking you...I just hope that your gf isnt in love with you- you sound like a heart breaker.
2007-08-27 13:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by rendology_101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side. Yes it's wrong. If you are not interested in the girl that you are with enough to keep your mind from wandering to her friend, you should break up with her. You are leading her on. Leave them both alone and go on your way.
2007-08-27 13:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by alikat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya, its wrong. You gotta think about your girlfriend. If she saw this question she would feel horrible! You should probably break up with her. But don't date her friend either, try to separate yourself from them, and maybe you'll just forget about the best friend.
2007-08-27 13:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by aligatorrx3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hay! it is what it is and if you really like them both, even though in different ways, then you should be up front by walking away from both of them. After all you would never be satisfied and more importantly why be the cause for ruining their friendship.
2007-08-27 13:14:11 · answer #11 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋