I am very outgoing. I am very "politely" friendly. I mingle well. In fact I go out of my way to let people see that I am friendly...approachable! I do a lot of things, go a lot of places by myself because my close girlfriends are married and the other women that are single go out and go home with anyone! So I don't associate myself with them. I take pride in my appearence and am pretty trendy but men do not approach me. I see men approach women that are sloppy or present themselves not very nice...yet...they just say "Hi" to me. I have married "male" friends and they tell me I intimidate men...(and women).
I am in my 50's and in good shape. Younger men will approach me...but I am not into dating way younger than me!! I am kinda old school so I am not one that thinks it is ok to ask a man out!!
I am feeling like I should not do my hair, put on a pair of sweats and an oversized t'shirt and see if I can get a date! Any advice?
2007-08-27 12:33:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, I love my little lipstick and my blush and fashion short sassy haircut and I am 5'7"...so with the answers I have gotten..."which I so much appreciate"...do I become less than what I am to get the date...then when we go out DRESS UP THEN??
I really do appreciate the answers. I am going on 7 years divorced and had maybe 10 dates in that time. I am really tired of holidays alone, birthdays...just living alone!!
2007-08-27 13:18:42 · update #1
too bad were not in the same area, or I'd appoarch ya, you sound wonderful to me
2007-08-27 12:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now days a pair of boxers and a white T would be sufficient to get lady picked up in a club.
Could also be the way you carry yourself, when you go to the ladies room, to the bar to get a drink, or what ever. People have asked me how it seems I never have a problem getting ladies to dance at the club. My X-fiancee told them that it was the way I carry myself. I never thought of that, I just walk and that's me. Maybe you are tall and that does scare some guys. Maybe the makeup or jewelry that you are wearing. Think about it and see what YOU can come up with..
2007-08-27 12:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by psycho magnet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I congratulate you on your high standards! But I think your male friends are right. You are pretty intimidating. If you want to get more men to approach you, you might want to be a little more flexible; I am by no means telling you to go home with "anyone" but give more men a chance. You might just find a pretty good catch.
2007-08-27 12:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way... except I'm 20!
I also go out a lot and try and be friendly, but men don't respond.
I'm not exactly "ugly" - in fact people tell me I'm really pretty.
It makes me wonder what's wrong with me...
I guess men just must be a bit intimidated... I guess it's up to us to make the first move eh!
2007-08-27 12:39:58 · answer #4 · answered by cosmicmoon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 54 and i think at this age if a man is intimidated by a lady then you are mixing with the "wrong" crowd ---- at this age we have or should have got rid of all the baggage in our lives and be enjoying ourselves ---- why not break out of the mould and approach a guy that you are interested in??? its not even old fashioned --- my ex wife asked me out to start with and that is 36 years ago ---- best wishes
2007-08-27 12:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you said it yourself - you are intimidating. A lot of men, especially ones your own age, probably think you're already spoken for - or that they don't think you'd be interested in them. I think you should get involved in some sort of singles event - that way, at least everyone will know that you're available and looking.
2007-08-27 12:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, dress down.
Though still being able to intimidate guys in your 50's means something, also being able to go out on ya own also. You really are showing us up.
2007-08-27 12:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by ChAtMaN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nobody likes rejection. Most guys like to approach someone who looks pleasant and nice and not stuck up. Make eye contact and smile alot more. Make them feel comfortable enough to approach you.
2007-08-27 12:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by Dciple 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 52 year old male, lonely too! Wanna meet?! I live in Southern Wisconsin.
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2016-10-09 08:40:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been told that guys assume that the most attractive ladies already have somebody, so they don't ask. I have been guilty of that behavior myself.
2007-08-27 12:44:46 · answer #11 · answered by Christopher C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋