Me and bf, 24 years old, 1 1/2 year relationship! He offers this info. A girl at work confessed her feelings for him and he said he is in love with his gf and now he tells me that he is confused cause he has thoughts about being with this girl and had the balls to ask me what he should do! He also talks to this girl about our relationship. He says he has been thinking about this for the past three weeks and at that time I needed him and he wasn't there for me! Any thoughts or advice?
2007-08-27 12:23:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Drop him. He doesn't care about you because he's not there for you when you need him. He wants to have his cake and eat it too.
2007-08-27 12:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two possibilities:
1. He's really not so good at keeping himself just for you and having a relationship with only one person. This would be a lack of commitment, and that is not good at all when referring to a boyfriend or girlfriend.
2. He may have really stepped out on a limb and let you know that he was struggling with something. He doesn't know what to do with his feelings. (I'm sure it's hard to have someone of the opposite gender show interest, but just ignore it... imagine being in his position.) Maybe you should actually talk to him about it and say how you feel.
I personally think that it was very wrong of the girl to tell him that she is interested in him when she knows that he already is committed to you. I would tell my boyfriend that if he was going to be committed to me, he would need to squelch this relationship completely, because even if he doesn't have feelings for her, she has feelings for him and probably won't do so good at setting those boundaries.
I also think that if he decided that he is committed to you, he needs to really tell her that, and tell her that he wants her to leave him alone because he does not want to even be a part of someone who would want to disrupt his relationship.
2007-08-27 19:37:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you guys need to break up. It isn't healthy for this to continue. It will ruin your relationship. He wants to feel something new and exciting. It isn't right for you to have to deal with the emotional termoil that that will cause.
It is a sure tell sign that it is time to MOVE ON.
2007-08-27 19:28:11 · answer #3 · answered by Man Ace 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
i agree, time to move on. as painful as it is. but he is obviously not proving his faithfulness to you by going after another woman. do you think this could be his way of trying to break up without coming right out and saying, hey i think we should see other people?
2007-08-27 19:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he doesn't want to commit, it's time to break up.
2007-08-27 19:29:31 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Break up!
2007-08-27 19:31:09 · answer #6 · answered by candy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are the other one? Are you from TX?.....Just kidding! You need to dump him!!!!!!
2007-08-27 19:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by TexasGirl 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋