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i was so excited to leave for college, i was so ready to get out of my house. i've been at college since friday and i have cried every single day multiple times. not in front of my roommate or anything, just kinda by myself. i don't even really get along with my dad and when he called me today, i almost started crying. i almost start crying when my mom calls because i miss her so much. i'm making friends and everything; it's just the whole experience is really overwhelming. i'm just really homesick and i want it to go away soon. is this normal? can you please give me some advice?

2007-08-27 12:21:40 · 26 answers · asked by BEBE 1 in Family & Relationships Family

26 answers

Same thing is happening with my girlfriend. She is able to come home some weekends so that is her plan. Just try to enjoy yourself, I know its hard.

2007-08-27 12:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Bless you, sweetie, you're a parent's dream. A teenager who admits to missing her parents is a rare thing to find. (I think many do miss them, but won't admit it) You are normal. But don't miss this opportunity to tell your mom just how much you really do miss her. It's a treat she needs to hear, and as the days go by, and you are less and less homesick and more involved in college, you will forget how much you are missing her now. Just hang in there until classes get in full swing. Eat right, take care of yourself, get plenty of sleep, keep a regular schedule. You will soon find the rhythm of the school and all these things that seem so overwhelming now, will be little blips later on, and you will wonder why you ever got so upset about it. It takes a few weeks to begin to feel like you really "own" a place. In the meantime, email and telephone your mom OFTEN. Believe me, she won't get tired of hearing from you. Have a wonderful time at college; it's a great time to be you.

2007-08-27 12:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by claudiacake 7 · 0 0

Being away from what you know is really isolating and can be lonely. Calling your friends and your mum every day will create a routine that you can look forward too. Don't be afraid to talk to the college counsellor - they know techniques and tips that will help you. Make sure you know all your enrolment options in case you decide to go home, and if you can afford to, go home for the weekends. There is no shame in needing to be at home. I always went home on the weekends when I was away at college.

Try to keep yourself busy - being still makes you think about the things you normally would be doing at home. Make sure you establish yourself a daily routine, so your life can feel normal and not so overwhelming. Make sure you attend all your classes - you will get to know someone there and routine will come easily. Write down a reminder to yourself why you made the decision to come to college, and list the positive reasons why being away is a good thing (eg: freedom, new places...) also invite your friends and family from home to visit you, and think about the other times you were away from home, and how you coped then might help you cope now.

2007-08-27 12:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by Puss in Boots 4 · 1 0

Honey this is normal once you start classes and get into the swing of things at college you will have less time to think about it. Start a journal write to your parents. This will help.
Do not give up it will get easier. It will seem like an eternity but you are doing the best thing for yourself. I am online all the time if you need someone to chat to. I am a 30 year old female with two children myself so I know how you feel I moved out of my parents house a little over 2 years ago and I was ready to go back !!!
hang in there

2007-08-27 12:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Don't worry this is known to happen to almost every college student when leaving home for the first time. It might seem hard at first, but after a while you get the hang of it. When i started college i didn't go through this, but i know a lot of friends who did, perhaps because i have been independent of my mom for a while now. However, believe me that you learned to appreciate the people you had around you, both family and friends, once you are apart from them, escpecially for a very long time. My advice for you is to go out, make friends and enjoy college life, trust me, it is great! Good luck!

2007-08-27 12:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by lady butterfly 2 · 0 0

I think that you are going through normal separation feelings. But instead of spending your time asking for help on Answers (and I'm not trying to be mean) - why don't you pick up the phone and call your mom instead. I'll bet she'd be thrilled to hear from you! You will probably feel better as time goes by and you have more studying to do and make more friends. Then you won't have the time to sit and dwell on how much you miss your family.

Good luck!

2007-08-27 12:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by monkeymom 5 · 1 0

the main honest piece of advice that i ought to offer you is to make stronger up, persist with the school and connect some form of recreation, club, and/or activity that the school provides. you will make acquaintances no rely what you do in case you get extra in contact with the school. The extra issues you do, the extra advantageous risk you have of coming up acquaintances. yet you won't be in a position to infant your self at this evaluate existence, you should be waiting to function independently, remember that it incredibly is college, no longer complication-loose, middle or extreme college. So, do no longer go away the school, it is going to easily make issues extra stable the subsequent time you attempt going. the main complication-loose factor that I pay attention approximately college is "college is what you're making of it.", no one is going to artwork for you while they are busy attempting to pursue their own desires. you should artwork for the journey as you may once you get out into the working international. additionally remember which you're there for an guidance in besides the fact that activity you're pursuing, if the school provides what you elect academically, stay and artwork alongside with your social concern. reliable luck and take the initiative.

2016-10-09 08:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

yes it is very normal and I know from being a mom, it's very hard on your parents also. It's like baby robin who finally gets to fly on his own. That is what you are going thru. It is now your turn to spread those wings and fly. Call you mom and dad as much as you want, and go places with your new friends and roommate, and don't be ashamed to cry in front of them, because they are probably going thru the same thing or have gone thru it. In time you will be better.. Good luck in school .

2007-08-27 12:47:20 · answer #8 · answered by lynda 5 · 0 0

Being homesick is one of the worst feelings there is. Almost everyone who leaves home will experience it. It will go away but it make not happen as quickly as you wish. Stay busy ,talk to your mom often and go home for a visit now and then but stay around school as much as possible. That will make it go away faster.

2007-08-27 12:27:47 · answer #9 · answered by mimegamy 6 · 0 0

That's what happend to one of my siblings.
She called us every single day for the first 2 weeks. And she would cry alot too.
Try and go home for the weekend.
Sometimes you'll be soo busy that you're gonna forget about missing them.
If you can't come for the weekend and you live sort of close, maybe they could visit.
Some colleges have like Parent Weekend where parents come to visit and stuff.

2007-08-27 13:04:11 · answer #10 · answered by SNLfan52 3 · 0 0

this is a normal reaction, l'm sure they miss you too but this is the next step in your life and an experience you will most definitely enjoy. Give yourself a little time and being "homesick" will disappear and you will be in the swing of things. Just enjoy everything. Best wishes to you!!!

2007-08-27 12:26:40 · answer #11 · answered by edie 7 · 1 0

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