do She told me she wan'ts to have sex I'm not sure what I want We've been dating for a while now and she say it is time for us to take are realationship to the next step How do I tell her i don't know yet.
2007-08-27 12:20:54 · 14 answers · asked by BringThe Pain 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
DONT have sex if you're not sure you want to, or if you don't feel ready. If you feel those things, you aren't ready.
2007-08-27 12:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that sex is something you want to be ready for before you do it. There are all kinds of issues that come up once sex is involved and the main ones are pregnancy and STDs. Now if you're both virgins then the STDs shouldn't be a problem, but you definitely don't want to have a kid at that young age, so if you do go through with it, use protection.
Tell her that when you're both ready it will be great, but if you're not both ready, then it won't be very good anyway.
2007-08-27 19:27:57 · answer #2 · answered by JohnB 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are unsure than you shouldnt be having sex. And if this girl is 15 too, then she shouldnt be either. Your nervousness about this should be enough to tell what the right thing to do is. There are other ways to be close to your girlfriend. And as far as telling her that you dont want to have sex yet tell her point blank that you dont feel like you are ready, that you care a lot for her and when the time is right then you will both know.
2007-08-27 19:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by KickinHottie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, don't get yourself involved to that point at 15. You probably are not a christian and so taking God into the equation is not top of your list. As a Christian I can tell you it is a sin to have pre marital sex, it is called fornication. Stick to your guns and don't let her control you life. I would encourage you to find out more about life in Christ and all that it offers, try reading in the New Testament the book of John. I'm proud of your decision making, hang in there.
2007-08-27 19:29:18 · answer #4 · answered by Steiner 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her you arent ready if she wants to be with you she will understand and respect your decision... you are only 15 you have the rest of your life to have sex...be careful and dont let her pressure you into doing something you arent ready for...there can be a lot of consequences that go along with sex stds aids pregnancy...understand that if you have sex you need to be ready and prepared to handle the situation should anything happen...best adivce i can give you is go with your gut...make sure you truly like the girl....and wrap it up when you ready
2007-08-27 19:30:50 · answer #5 · answered by girly27 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are smart. Tell her that you have made a commitment to yourself long ago that you would wait until you were older to have sex and that's the way it is. Personally, I think that is more attractive a quality (and you are going to end up looking pretty damn cool as a side effect. ;))
2007-08-27 19:29:45 · answer #6 · answered by Hello 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me sex is like the next big step kinda like marriage and for me is wait until you your married cause if you do it now what would have to offer your wife other love and the best way to show is by making love..so to be honest you should or you'll be like me regretting it and its not something you can undo..hope that helps a lil bit
2007-08-27 19:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first think with the right head and next if you dont, realize that age of consent is that for a reason and despite her opinoin or readiness you can and probably will go to jail.
2007-08-27 19:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by koalatcomics 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do Not give in to her pressure to take any steps you are not ready for. if she really cares for you she will not try to force you to go beyond what you are comfortable with.
even if it means losing her, be true to yourself.
2007-08-27 19:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by waterlin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you aren't ready. If she can't understand that then she isn't the one for you right now. Trust me, it's the best when you are ready and into it.
2007-08-27 19:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by Man Ace 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋