i have alot of step sisters from my dads side and the oldest one is getting married 9.08.07 and i am a jr. bridesmate and my aunt (moms sister) is getting married and i am also a jr. bridesmate, but it is on the same day! just my step sis is getting married 45 minutes before and they both want me there! but of course my loud mouth mom had to go to my step sis and say that i cant go because of my aunt, and my mom and dad had a big argument and it ended up being a worst problem than it was before. so they told me to pick, i am so confused i have till tomorrow to pick. what should i do? here is so more info about the weddings my aunt has 345 people, my step sis has 100, my aunt has 40 people in her wedding my step sis only has 15. my aunt is getting married in a big cathedral my step sis is getting married in a yard. my aunt is getting married in nyc my step sis is getting married in oaklahoma my aunt is 30 and this is her 1 marriage my step sis is 24 and is also her 1 what should i do?
2007-08-27 12:04:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
my aunt lived with me but she left when she got engaged to Chris her fiance and Rachael step sis we just met each other when i went to my fathers ranch this summer
2007-08-27 12:17:03 · update #1
If it were me i would choose the person I am closest to, know best or have more day to day contact with. If that's your step sis, them I would go with her. Also, sounds like your aunt has tons of other people going to her wedding, and she probably won't miss you as much as your step sis would in her much smaller party. Whoever you pick, don't worry, it's not your fault - you have to pick one or you would have to say no to both!
2007-08-27 12:14:33 · answer #1 · answered by daisy mcpoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just met the step sis recently? You lived with your aunt for years? I don't see the decision problem. You've got "alot of step sisters" but not so many aunts.
What about travel? Has anyone actually bought you a ticket to travel to one or the other of these places--the time is really close? Look at travel time and expense. If there's a big football game in Oklahoma, you may not be able to get fly there.
2007-08-27 12:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a really hard one. It sounds like you and your aunt have had a close relationship for a long time. i would talk to your step sister and try to find out just how important it is to her for you to be there, as you have only known each other for a short period of time. if you and your aunt are still very close then i think you should be there on her day. As they say blood is thicker than water. let your step sister know that you are sorry that you can not come and that if you could be in two places at once, then you would be there in a heart beat.
i would get her a present that had a lot of thought put into. to try and make up for not being able to be there to share in her special day.
2007-08-27 13:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by vanilla e 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In your heart, you probably know which to pick. A few things to think about
-Whose feelings will be more hurt if you don't go to their wedding?
-Which one will cause more family fights if you are not there (i.e. are you going to be hearing about it for the next ten years)
-Which one do you truly want to go to?
This is really an unfair position for your family to put you in. Not that the wedding dates should revolve around you but no one should be blaming you for only being able to attend one.
2007-08-27 12:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Phoebe Finch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regardless of what your mom/dad think or the information about the weddings you need to pick who you feel closest to. think about the aunt and her future husband and your sister and her future husband. when you are older and you look back are you going to regret not going to your sister's wedding or the aunts? I know you would go to both if you could, but you need to consider the people getting married and pick them based on your relationship with them.
2007-08-27 12:14:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 16:18:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a closer relationship with your aunt. I would probably choose her ove a step siser I just met last summer.
If they love you either of them should understand if you choose the other one.
Good luck!
2007-08-27 17:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by newlywed&luvin'it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
40 people in her wedding party? wow. I have 4. haha.
I think there are two ways you can pick. Whoever asked you first or whoever you are closest to. Do what you feel is right and don't let anyone influence your decision.
2007-08-27 14:06:45 · answer #8 · answered by Cindy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
after reading every word of your information that you wrote out i would strongly tell you to be part of your aunts wedding, not your step sisters. trust me. even tho your aunts wedding would be bigger you would be missed at that blood ( not step) family event. go to that one. blood is thicker than a new stepsister every time. you wont regret it.
2007-08-27 12:23:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would pick neither, I think it's unfair of them to force you to pick between both people that you care about a lot. I hope it works out!
2007-08-27 12:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by Reba 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋