I just broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years. I'm 23 years old and I'm devastated. Basically he went home to get the engagement ring (his hometown is 1000 miles away) and when he came back with the ring he broke up with me. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with his twins and am on antidepressants, but i can't get over it...I can't let it go...I feel horrible all the time, and the fact that he dumped me because "physically i would never be his type, but he still loves me"...is confusing, and killing me...I don't know what to do..I feel lost and scared and alone and I just want to die...I know this isn't normal...and I need help...
2007-08-27 10:57:30 · 8 answers · asked by Katie C 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
A break up is devastating to anyone with a heart. 1st thing I would do is distance myself from him. Your not physically my type but I love you is....BS. He got you pregnant so you must have physically appealed to him and his hormones at one time. He doesn't want to take responsibility for his actions so he is making excuses for his cowardice. There are other men in this world that are decient and honest (with you and themselves). You may find that man someday. Realize that it isnt you or your looks but the chicken sh** that got you pregnant. Time and attitude will help get over someone who is not worthy of your love. If he really loved you he wouldnt be making up such lame excuses. Realize that your too good for the louse.
2007-08-27 11:18:48 · answer #1 · answered by toetagproductions 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. First, he sounds like a coward and a selfish ******. Second, you are normal, your feelings are normal, and everybody goes through it! Maybe not when they are pregnant (what a jerk), but trust me, heartbreak is a fact of life.
You can't really do much to get rid of it... I've been through it and only time really helped. Talk about it to someone who will let you go on and on and just get it all out.
The reality is - life goes on. Your life will go on, you will meet other people. There really isn't only one person on earth that you are capable of loving.
Anyway, how can you have any respect for someone who leaves you while you are pregnant? WHAT A COWARD!
2007-08-27 18:06:59 · answer #2 · answered by carmenPI 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey, I am so sorry. Do me a favor, please.... go speak to your Doctor ASAP. I can tell you from experience that you can make it through this, but you will need help. Unfortunatly, since you are pregnant your hormones are going to be in overdrive, dispite the depression.
You can and WILL make it through this. Think about the life that is growing inside you. You are creating life.
Do you have family that you can go stay with for a while? Friends, maybe? You need to surround yourself with something so that you don't overly stress yourself, and the babies.
2007-08-27 18:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by under pressure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. First off, he sounds like a complete jerk if he left you because you are "physically his type," and second you need support. I reccomed stay with your friends/family for a while.. it will all be okay in the end.
2007-08-27 18:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by Kristy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talking to a group in therapy helps some and getting a new hobby and changing your daily routine.
2007-08-27 18:17:00 · answer #5 · answered by countryham729 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worry about your children and 4get him fall in love with a real man instead of a immature boy!
2007-08-27 18:10:17 · answer #6 · answered by redhotgermangrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
17 weeks? I'd get an abortion. A jerk like that isn't going to help you raise those kids you know.
Move, a new environment helps you to forget.
Give yourself time.
2007-08-27 18:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
keep busy with friends, and not friends that you usually hang out with when you were with him
2007-08-27 18:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋