last week my hubby and i went to his moms house for birthday (hers). we bought her a brand new computer and i wrapped it really pretty and we got her a comical crad to go along with it. well before we got there she called my husband and told him that she did not want me there and my hubby said look mom where ever i go she goes...she is family mom she is my wife. so she said ok but she needs to stay outside during the party. mind u the party was indoors...and me n hubby wanted to set her computer up for her etc..well later on in the night i was standing by the sliding glass window because i was exchanging phone # with one of our cousins well the mom in law saw me and our 7 yr old daughter right by the door and she shouted loud GET OUT NOW!! BOTH OF U GET OUT I DONT WANT YOU 2 IN HERE LEAVE! so i got all embarrassed and i left with our daughter and baby son.i never did anything to provoke her. she has always been mad at me for marrying n taking her son away and gave me grief about that..
2007-08-27 10:41:55 · 10 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yrs ago she gave me greif. the holidays have been roguh cuz she wants her son there for xmas n thanksgiving but she does not want me or our kids there. mind u the kids are her biological grandbabys too. i asked him what (hubby) i asked ...what he was planning on doing for thanksgiving and xmas and if he was spending it over there with her ? cuz if so then i feel left out and lonely eating thanksgiving dinner alone and xmas dinner alone too. i did that last yr n that sucked. what would u guys do in a situation like this? when she calls our home to chat with her son my hubby she makes sure to tell him for him to tell me my moms on the phone so dont say nothing and keep ur mouth shut cuz she does not even like the sound of ur voice. i feel like walking on eggshells. cuz she talks 2 him 2 to 3 times a night and i hafta walk around all quiet n al it is weird to me. what do i need to do or say or should i just leave it alone?
2007-08-27 10:46:03 · update #1
This is your husband's problem to deal with it, and he should deal with it! His mother is being disrespectful to him by treating you this way. Here are a couple of sites to help you:
http://www.ihatemyinlaws.com/index.php
http://www.motherinlawstories.com/
2007-08-27 14:56:19 · answer #1 · answered by PLDFK 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all your hubby needs to stand up to his Mother, and let her know that she can't speak that way about you. He married you, you are now his family as well. She needs to accept that and be civil, because it isn't good for the kids to see that either. By him not saying anything to his Mother about the situation, she will continue to do this. He needs to show her that you are a part of the family now as well. If he doesn't do this it is going to cause tension in the marriage.
2007-08-27 10:52:10 · answer #2 · answered by nikic64429 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Darling, its time your husband stood up for you. He is the only one that can control her behavior towards you. She is playing this game with the two of you and she is winning. He needs to end it now. No way should he have allowed you and your children to stand outside while he was inside at a party, that is unacceptable. Tell your husband to set things straight with his mother.
2007-08-27 10:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by ofsoundmind 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should take your side. You are his wife. You and kids come first. Mom should come second. I think he's got his priorities messed up. Maybe he wants something from her when she dies. Tell your husband that he has to make a decision. If he chooses mom then I would start my own life and live it the way I wanted to. Good Luck.
2007-08-27 10:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by IamwhatIam♥♥♥♥♥ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No dont leave it alone you need to stick up for yourself and your kids dont put them in a bad position. No child should be treated like that. What your husband needs to do is tell his mom hes not going to talk to her until he can except his family. You excepted them! She needs to get her head out of her *** and grow up shes an adult!!
2007-08-27 11:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by nichole l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa. is she mentaly unstable? i have a problem not only with her behavior but your hubands a well. why on earth would he tell you what she says while on the phone? that just adds hurt. she's kind of nuts if you ask me. normally, i'd let things roll off but in this case, your husband needs to get some b a l l s and tell his mom off. if she refuses to change her behavior, i'd not see her anymore.
i'm real sorry you're dealing with this.
all my best.
2007-08-27 11:05:30 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are saying you did nothing to aggravate her and this is how she acts, then you have a very sad excuse for a husband who keeps seeing her. You definitely should never see her again, but if your husband wants to and, as I said, you have done nothing that you need to apologize for;; I would say you need a divorce
2007-08-27 10:57:56 · answer #7 · answered by barthebear 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His mother is a complete mess. Don't let her in your home until she can respect you, stay away from her and put a stop to buying her expensive gifts.
2007-08-27 11:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once he committed himself to you and had children his place on holidays became with you and the children.
He needs to grow up. You are allowing him to emotionally abuse you and your children.
Please put your foot down and move on if he won't change.
2007-08-27 10:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget her she is bad news
2007-08-27 10:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by swollentoe68plusone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋