how can you go to school and make "GOOD" friends and do everything and come home and still be a cristian?? There are so many temtations in the world.Am i right or wrong?? Plz speak your mind.
2007-08-27 09:26:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
and im 14 in jr. high
2007-08-27 09:26:54 · update #1
i was like you in 8th grade! but i'm in 9th grade and i only have one best friend! in 8th grade i had 20 or 30 best friends! i become a stronger christain and i lost them all because i was turning bad but now i'm a good, sweet, innocence girl!
2007-08-27 11:33:21 · answer #1 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's no doubt about the fact that the
world has all kinds of traps in it; you just have to be "wiser than the serpent" -
Think things through and don't be a follower;
This is where you need to have your head
clear and know what you're doing; thats not saying you should listen to bs, either.
Your brain will NOT fry like an egg if you smoke a joint, but by the same token, don't be stupid and get into a car with some idiot who can't stand up straight, ya know?
You know what the immediate dangers are:
dope and alchohol
people putting pressure on you to be high
unprotected sex -
drinking and driving (if you make the mistake of drinking, stay put, don't drive and don't get in the car with any of the others - be smart)
You don't have to walk around professing yourself as a Christian, or preaching to people in the halls - you are there to learn,
and so are the other folks, so go there to learn, not to preach.
Show other kids that just by your good character you hold a high standard for those you call "friend", and that you do that because you hold a high standard for yourself. If you conduct yourself as if
you are a confident, cool guy, thats exactly what people will think of you. Remember that even though they will never admit it,
all the kids at school are insecure.
You'll meet nice friends, just don't ever settle for hangin with people that are just gonna end up in trouble.
2007-08-27 17:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Christianity becomes your life style. It becomes part of your character as a Human Being.
If you have learned something about what God expects of you as you live your life, you now have a good foundation for your character. You can evaluate all of your options and make choices with more and better information.
You are at the age now where you are maturing, and ready to become accountable for your choices. You are still young, and you will make mistakes, but that happens to all of us. Heck, I am over 50, and still make mistakes. God forgives. Just ask for that forgiveness and then move on.
Perhaps your "friends" invite you to do things you know you shouldn't be doing, then rip into you if you decline.
Understand that real friends want you to be happy. They do not want you to get into trouble. They rejoice with you when things are going great, and they bear your sorrows for you when things are bleak. Anything else is just an acquaintance.
It takes a brave soul to be different. But then, the Bible tells us that God did not give us a spirit of fear, but one of boldness.
You don't have to stand up and preach the gospel to be different. All you really have to do is discern whether your "friends" are offering you a good idea or a bad one. If it is a good idea, go ahead. If it is a bad one, just pass on it. You don't need to make any excuses or give a list of reasons. Just say no and move on.
Over time, you may come to realize that these "friends" are not really friends at all, and they may drop away. On the other hand, your influence may rub off on them, and they may start to think of better things to do. In reality, probably a little bit of each will happen.
Other actions to take would be to involve yourself in some church activities. Go to Bible Classes and participate in youth activities. If you local congregation doesn't have any, look around for another group that may offer some.
I don't know if you practice any particular denomination, or if you are more like me, just a plain Christian. Either way, most Christian churches are fine for these kind of things. When you get to Bible Classes, you are getting into the doctrines, or the traditions of that particular congregation.
If I were you, I would consult with my own church people on those kind of things. If your parents are practicing, consult with them first. The last thing you want to do is cause disruption at home! It would seem to me that if your parents are Christians, too, then they would be pleased that you are trying to give yourself the best possible chances in life.
I hope something I said here was helpful. I will add a prayer or two on your behalf, just for good measure.
2007-08-27 17:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Barry F 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First of all you are judging people already saying "Good Friends"... Are you saying you won't make friends with someone that isn't Christian? Ok let me stop asking you the questions.. lol..
Don't worrie if people you meet are not Christian.. Just because they don't go to church every sunday or pray at the dinner table doesn't mean they are not "Good People" You can learn alot from them..
Good Luck..
2007-08-27 16:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Element 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yep, there are lots of temptations out there! But Jesus can get you through it all just fine. Hold on tight to His hand. Remember He's with you every moment of every day, and He'll hold you up when temptation weakens you. He knows you'll stumble and sin at times, but He's always ready to forgive you and help you get back on track if you are sorry for the sin and do your best to avoid it in the future.
As Christians, we aren't sinless but by God's grace our sins are forgiven in Christ Jesus. They are washed away *completely* by His blood.
God bless you. I hope you have the best school year ever!
2007-08-27 16:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by words for the birds 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just pick friends who are not trouble makers. That doesn't do drugs, doesn't drink alchohol, is polite to teachers and other students, and listens to their parents if their parents ask them to do reasonable things. Don't let religion even enter the picture.
2007-08-27 16:46:22 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Such is life. You are in a good place to learn, continue to grow and reflect like all of us. It is not going to be easy--but who siad it is supposed to be.
2007-08-27 17:51:59 · answer #7 · answered by Leorita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but if this is only for christians you shouldn't have asked it here. Just make friends that aren't in gangs, don't drink or do drugs, or anything like that.
2007-08-27 16:36:42 · answer #8 · answered by Blackbird 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Being a Christian means being faithful to God before and after school/work/personal time, temptations are there but if we use the example Jesus gave us we can defeat temptation and please God. Its not easy but the blessings are beyond words.
2007-08-27 16:42:23 · answer #9 · answered by Commander 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
What do you mean by "good"friends? Make friends and hang out with people that respect their parents and teachers, do what they are told, don't drink or do drugs.
The other person who answered is wrong about morals being around before the bible. The bible is not poop. I would definitly read it for yourself.
2007-08-27 16:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by Summer B 5 · 5⤊ 4⤋