obviously u shouldnt b together so is it so wrong of me to break off an engagement when i feel like the relationship is goin no where ?
2007-08-27 09:02:55 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if the realationship isnt going anywhere and youre thinking these thoughts why wouldnt you break it off??? you cant make anyone else happy until you are happy yourself. there is nothing wrong with breaking off a realationship if it isnt meant to be!
2007-08-27 09:08:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your gut.
If you feel like your relationship is rolling fast downhill, and you two are constantly fighting over the same thing(s). Then I would have to say YES that I think it's a good idea to break it off with him.
There is no reason you should feel obligated to stay in the relationship simply because you're engaged to him. If you're not happy and things just aren't working out, then maybe it's time to take a break or just call it quits.
*I don't think that excessive fighting is a healthy relationship, or part of one anyways. A little bickering here and there is ok...but when it's constant, and nothing ever gets solved...then there is an obvious problem.
~So I think that if you've done all you can, and you just feel like you can't stand it anymore, then yes...I would cut off the engagement. Until you two can solve your issues.
2007-08-27 09:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Murphy's Law 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you constantly fighting about? If you're engaged you should be deciding 1) is this issue important enough to break off your engagement for and 2) is your future together more important than this issue.
If it's the same thing then something is wrong, other than the lack of communication.
2007-08-27 09:09:29 · answer #3 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your man have the same fight over the same issue all the time and neither is willing to compromise in order to find a 'middle ground' then that does not bode well for your relationship. If you really feel it is going nowhere, then don't do it. Marriage is way too big a committment for you to be uncertain. Break it off now and permanently. Wrong would be to marry him if you aren't sure that your relationship can work, it is an injustice to him as well as to yourself.
2007-08-27 09:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by Juney 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is how you feel you should talk with him about it, and see what the end conclusion is... Dont get married if you feel this way then you will always look back at it and regret it...Even if you were to stay married for 20 years, you will always wish you had said something to him ,and you would wish you were happier on your wedding day...
Talk to him and see what the outcome is, and make it genuine, if your engaged to be married you should have no reason why you 2 cant talkabout it, your supposed to be in love, and life for each other, so find out, and then make a decision..
And dont get married until you think you should, if your doubting it there are legitimate reasons for it. THINK about your life, and how you want to live, you dont want a divorce, or to be unhappy so talk it out...
2007-08-27 09:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by rockgirlfury 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all we all go though things an fighting over the same thing each week is telling you something, I will tell everyone you have got to be on one accord and i am happy that your not married yet there are a lot of things you need to find out about one another before you marry. Do what makes you happy
best of luck
2007-08-27 09:09:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! If you cant get along now you should not be married. Its not wrong to break off an engagement for any reason - if you dont want to be married that's a good enough reason, you dont need anything else other than that.
I've been married and divorced and its not a fun thing so dont do it if your not sure!!!
2007-08-27 09:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends what the problem is and why you're fighting. Are you two fighting over 'little things' such as who does the dishes, or dirty socks on the floor? Or are you fighting because he cheated on you and you don't trust him anymore. You have to examine the cause of the fighting to see why its happening before making your decision.
Ultimately, if you feel that the relationship is going nowhere, this could be the cause of your fighting. You could be upset that you're stuck, wanting more. You two need to sit and talk and figure things out. But I have to agree, sometimes time apart is best. But you have to figure out whats best for YOU.
2007-08-27 09:11:07 · answer #8 · answered by RLBeanMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two loved each other enough to get engaged then you certainly love each other enough to try therapy. It worked my husband and I and we have been together for 13 years now. Do you really want to break it off and then wonder if you did everything in your power that you could have to make it work?
2007-08-27 09:10:30 · answer #9 · answered by dizzygrltoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is this so called fight about??
If its ridiculous and it makes no sense then yea i would so break off the engagement i mean think of it do you wanna have this same fight while married?
2007-08-27 09:08:33 · answer #10 · answered by LadyD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋