How do I ask someone to be my maid of honor without hurting everyone feelings. I have two really good friends - one has been there for me recently but not in the past, but knew here since sixth grade. She said she would have asked me but I did not have a lot of money then. The other one I am her daughter's godmother and she asked me to be her maid of honor but her wedding got called off. Then I will have a future sister-in-law. What do I do? Can I just have all bridemaids and then still have the best man give a speech?
2007-08-27 09:02:05 · 13 answers · asked by Kelsy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The decision is really up to you. If you are planning to have a big wedding, the maid of honor will have many duties besides just giving a speech. She will be the one that is there for you through all of the stress, she will probably host a bridal shower, and she will probably spend more money than your other bridesmaids. Look into your heart, this person should be the one that you depend on who is closest to you now. Don't worry about who did or did not pick you to be their maid of honor. Also, if you have a married friend and an unmarried friend, I have heard of people having both a maid of honor and a matron of honor. The decision is really up to you.
2007-08-27 09:07:10 · answer #1 · answered by jml167 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do what YOU want, and although sweet that you don't want to hurt any feelings, this is not about them. I don't mean that to sound mean, but you want the Maid of Honor to be your very best friend. Only you know who that person is. You can't base that on who asked you to do what, but who is really your best friend, all of the time? You can then ask everyone else to be a bridesmaid. They should all be honored that you even ask them in the first place. If you don't think that is a good option, then just don't have a Maid of Honor. Explain to them that they all mean the same to you, and you didn't want to have to choose just one.
2007-08-27 09:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by CuitePie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether or not you have a maid of honor, you need to have two witnesses to sign the marriage certificate (usually the best man and maid of honor). But you can probably just designate someone else who will be attending the wedding -- maybe your mother -- to do the signing. Check with the celebrant to find out the law in your area -- maybe you only need one witness, then your problem's solved.
2007-08-27 09:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do anything you want. If you dont want 'one' maid of honor, then talk to them about it tell them they all mean a lot to you and you consider them all maids of honor and all bridesmaids, so not one who is going to stand out. Or, you can have 2. I have 2 sisters and in each of our weddings, the other 2 are both maids (or matrons) of honor.
2007-08-27 09:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by ellie_jb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get them together, and ask them to pull straws, whoever has the shortest starw gets to be the maid of honor, and the rest get to be brides maids. Im being so serious, and it would make them feel a little better for the simple fact that u didnt choose on your own, so they wont feel like you like one better than the other.
2007-08-27 09:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by yogurlmsbunny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pick the person that YOU want to be your maid of honor. The others should just be honored to be your bridesmaids. Or, you could just call them all your maids of honor =]
2007-08-27 09:05:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jennifer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your day. You do what is best for you. If you are closer to one of the girls, go ahead and ask her to be maid of honor and the others can be bridemaids. They should understand that it is your day and your decision.
2007-08-27 09:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by clg1975 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your engagement :)
Consider having 2 Maid of Honors - it can be done, it's your wedding, if you want both of them in that role, go for it!!
2007-08-27 09:11:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do whatever suits you.
If you want 3 bridesmaids, ask all 3 to be bridesmaids.
For maid of honour, ask the most reliable one. The one
that is most likely to be there for you and help you.
2007-08-27 10:42:55 · answer #9 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the person you want at the MOH. If you can't decide between two, then I think it is okay to have two. If you don't want a MOH, that is okay too.
Personally, I wouldn't ask a future in-law of be in the wedding party unless you were close to her.
2007-08-27 10:06:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋