My boyfriend hit me. Help?

Question

We were in an argument and he hit me. It really hurt, and I started crying, he told me he was sorry and he didn't mean to, but I'm afraid he will do it again, what should I do?

Answer 1

i've been there. my ex hit me, i stayed. he hit me a second time, i told him he had to leave. he cried, said im sorry, i'll never do it again. i stayed. time went on, our relationship got rocky. one day he snapped, wrecking our house, and when i tried to take off, he pulled me out of the car by my hair and threw me to the ground, hitting me.

i wish i had left the first time, it would have saved me all those years in a bad relationship and i could have had the right bf sooner.

but honestly, this is one of those things you have to decide on your own. no matter how many times i heard from my mom and aunts not to stay in an abusive relationship, i still stayed.

You may not lsiten, just thought I'd sahre my story. I feel lucky and blessed he didnt kill me that day, and I'm sure if I had taken him back, he would have eventually killed me.

Answer 2

So, what he's saying is that he has no self-control? that's a bunch of hooey! I'm sure he is sorry...most abused women will tell you that their men are the sweetest guys after they beat them. But there will be another time because your boyfriend has anger and self-control issues. Break up with him and don't look back! If you invest any more time in this relationship, you will just be a punching bag for him. Please listen to the people who have been there and know what they are talking about. Do not be blind and say, "Not my guy, he's different". There are thousands of women that thought that and ended up in protection shelters. Don't let this escalate. Make a clean break.

I cannot BELIEVE there are people who say "stick around and see if he does it again" The next time may be the time he knocks you out! or breaks your nose or jaw!

Answer 3

Gather all of your confidence and strength and tell him what he did was absolutely wrong and tell him not contact you for at least a week (if you even want think about re-connecting with him). Take the week break to think about whether you can trust him; if not, tell him you are done with him at the end of the week. He will probably apologize, don't give in - take the week and think about it and discuss it with your friends or family. Odds are he isn't worth it, and you are just seeing a part of his personality that will grow darker over time. Being single is much better than being with someone who doesn't respect you. If he doesn't take no for an answer calling the police and getting a protective order is a smart move and lets him know that you are serious. You deserve better.

Answer 4

Your insight is correct. He WILL hit you again, if you stay with him. By staying with him, you are giving him the message that he can get away with his behavior and that he can get away with it again.
You need to protect yourself and future people in his life.
Call the police and file a report. If he turns out to be a nasty person who abuses women, a paper trail will help put a stop to him.
Break up with him. One hit is no small thing. If you forgive him now and he does it again, it's easy to say, "well, I forgave him before and it didn't hurt as much this time..." and the abuse will escalate from there.
Let him apologize but don't give in. That "I didn't mean to" stuff is crap. He did it and he meant it and he will do it again.

Answer 5

Absolutely leave him. Don't you even think for a second that he won't do it again. He will. I was with a guy that hit me once and then joked about it later like it was no big deal. We were together for a year and a half. He's gone. The person you are with is supposed to be the person that takes care of you...not the one that hits you. I'd leave him so fast his freakin head would spin. Get out now. Find yourself a decent person that acts like a gentleman instead of a two year old.

Answer 6

A man can only hit a woman once, there are no second chances with that. If you are afraid it will happen again get your stuff and yourself out of there, if it leaves a bruise or cut or anything go somewhere to have it photographed and officially documented.

It also goes vice versa.

Answer 7

My view is that if he can do it once he can do it again...

I dont know the background between you two but i would deffinatly end it now. A man under no circumstances would hit his loved one. It is unacceptable and if i as a man did that i couldnt live with it.

Get out now before its too late, it will happen again... another man will treat you better.

Im sorry that happened, and if it was quite bad... call the police.

Answer 8

Jen,
HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN. No man that raises his hand to hit a woman will just turn around and not do it again the next time.
Get away from his ASAP. You deserve better than this. And do not tell me he loves you. If he loved you he never would have hit you. He loves himself which is why to him it was Ok to hit you.

Answer 9

if he was sorry and didnt mean to then he would have never done it. and yes i would be scared he would do it again to cause they always say "im sorry i didnt mean it, i love you" but he next time yall get into an arguement it will happen again. i know cause my moms went through the same things ive watched my dad hit and then say sorry and he didnt mean to and would never do it again and then turn around and do i plentymore times....finally she left him.......and moved on. Good Luck

Answer 10

Break up with him immediately and tell him that if he ever bothers you again , you will press assault charges.
People don't change, especially when there is no reason to change. In your case, your b/f will get the message that it's ok to hit you if you forgive him and let it go. He will continue to be violent towards you as long as you are with him because he knows that you won't do anything to defend yourself.