i've been friends with this girl for 3 years and also dated as well, is it ok for me to ask this girl to get married. i just feel that there is no real good or perfect time. have anyone out there been asked by your best friend for marriage? We've been together itimately and its been great we've shared a lot of things, her kids love me and i love them. I'm there for her whenever she needs me and we are like best friends. We've never had the title of boyfriend and girlfriend, but more and more i do not want to let her go, i do love her more than anyone else in my life before. I can't see my life without her. So on my part i am certain of that. i just suddently realized that i want to be withher all the time, am i doing this to suddenly where it would shock her, or being sporactic like this ok, besides when do you ever really know when is a good time, i've known people theyve known each other 2 months and are engage, but i'm not sure about this any ideas?
2007-08-27 08:40:51 · 10 answers · asked by jack a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think it is a beautiful thing when someone realizes that they have found the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. I have some pros... and cons regarding this situation -
You have known this person for 3 years and have developed a very close relationship, although you never mentioned that you are currently initmate with this person, I'll answer your question as though you are.
Loving relationships that evolve from friendships are special in a way that is different than other relationships, particularly because you spend time actually trying to get to know that person as a person and not as a lover. When that is made clear to both people in that situation, they tend to open themselves up more so as they would to a friend. I think often times our little tics and bad habits that were always there, begin to reveal themselves unexpectedly for our lovers to see. And unfortunately that can stale things. The two of you, starting off as friends, probably have revealed those things early on and are comfortable with eachother... even your imperfections. That is a foundations for a strong and lasting relationship HOWEVER, As beautiful as it may be, I have seen more friendships end in situations like this than those few that move forward. Often times there is a miscommunication in expectations in the relationship. One person may be falling madly, blindly in love, whilst the other is enjoying casual, convenient sex with a friend who seemingly wants the same. I feel it is important to both involved to know exactly how the other feels. You need to know where she stands and she deserves to know where you stand... YOU deserve to know where you stand. I think that once you have established this then you will truly know in your heart, the right thing to do.
2007-08-27 09:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by gelfling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are probably several correct answers to this question. Some men, do love their wives but won't admit it. It seems to be the male thing to complain about "life at home" be it family or sex life they are discussing. Marriage , the title of which , gives respectability to a person. Some companies will not hire single people. And there is always the children, husbands are attached to the children and don't want to lose them or be separated from them for any period of time. The finances enter into the equation as well. Having to pay alimony and have to rent and keep an apartment is just too costly to allow divorce become the question. Some even stay together because of the image portrayed by being divorced and how this looks to other family members. And then, some realize that they made a commitment before God and these witnesses, and realize a need to honor that contract.
2016-04-02 02:04:26 · answer #2 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if she feels the same about you? Talk to her, express your feelings, be honest. Ask her if she feels the same. I don't think it's time to "get down on one knee" yet - make sure you two are on the same page. There's nothing wrong with wanting to marry your "friend" - it doesn't matter what title you give that one person you want to spend your life with. In a good marriage, your spouse IS your best friend. But I think you need to have a talk with your girl, and express how you feel. If you are "tongue-tied", write her an e-mail and explain your feelings - then follow up with a phone call. Good luck.
2007-08-27 09:42:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you still dating her? Have you talked to her about the future at all? If you haven't talked to her about it then you should start. It doesn't have to be serious and all. Do you have any friends who are married? Then you can bring it up and talk about how they met, etc and how they decided to get married. See her reactions to it. It is wonderful that you love her and you want to be with her. But you have to make sure that she wants the same thing as you. You can take the next step from there.
2007-08-27 08:56:02 · answer #4 · answered by Caitlyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me that your pretty sure in what you want. If you really feel like she loves you and wants to be with you she'll say yes. I did have a best friend like yours once. He is now passed away from an accident. we just had this connection. We always said that if neither one of us were married by 30 we were going to marry each other. I would have loved to married him. Because he was my best friend and I am a true believer in that theory that they make your best mate. I think you should ask her to marry you. Good Luck and much happiness.
2007-08-27 08:51:23 · answer #5 · answered by Tessie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to her about your feelings to make sure she shares them first. Maybe "date" for awhile. If you propose and she isn't feeling the same way it would be very hard on the friendship.
2007-08-27 08:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Throughout life you will meet one person like no other. they know everything about you and you to them. They love you unconditionally. they are always there for you. that person is your friend, your soulmate.
yes marry her. I am engaged to my bestfriend and i couldnt imagine life with out him
2007-08-27 08:52:46 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Uwish ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep it cool, depends on the person for the timing.
if you are young, i would wait though.. mid to late 20's is good.
2007-08-27 08:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately dont ask her to marry you just tell her how you feel about her nd tell her you want to start a serious relationship or somethin
2007-08-27 08:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by K-Ho 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2007-08-27 08:47:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋