As I was playing with my boyfriend's cell phone I click on his text folder by accident and to my surprise found some text from a number without name I couldn't help it but to read them I was really upset to found out that he was flirting with some other girl he told me that he didn't cheat on me that, that was just an ego boost please we are not in high school any more!!! I'm trying to be open minded to this hold situation but should I trust him after it was him who started the whole flirting BS???
Guys feel free to leave your coments I want to understand this from a guy point of view!!!
2007-08-27 08:38:08 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hahaha, that one made me laugh......
2007-08-27 08:43:19 · answer #1 · answered by Andy's Mom 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's considered emotional cheating. Who knows the truth as to whether or not he actually cheated? Not to play devils advocate, but if he knows that you will never find out that he cheated then of course he's going to tell you that texting is as far as it's gone with this person.
I've learned from past experiences to always trust your gut. How do you feel? Can you get past this and trust him? If you are going to always question whether or not he's telling the truth, or whether or not he's "text flirting" with someone else, than you should get out of the relationship now. Unfortunately, only you know what's best for you but I'd be careful about this guy... the fact that he's been flirting behind your back is not a good sign.
2007-08-27 08:50:00 · answer #2 · answered by jackibear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the relationship as a whole. Its not the fact that he is text messaging I would say it depends on the contents of the messages that are being sent to and from. I would watch with a close eye. Small things can become big issues in relationships, and sooner or later breaking up is the end result. I am not saying to stalk or smother him. I am saying to pay attention, if you notice a sudden change in his attitude, affection , or anything like that you will know without a doubt something is going on. This situation can lead to non trust and trust is a big thing in a relationship. Talk to him about it, let him know that you dont like it , and you feel that he shouldnt do it. You dont need to be with someone who has to boost his ego by associating with other females . Thats plain BULL **** sort of speak.
Good Luck.
2007-08-27 08:50:02 · answer #3 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it's true. It is a kind of... backup. The goal is to attract the other female. So if a guy lose his current spouse, he already have another girl to hook up with.
But hey, that's the worst possibility. Try to ask him again, and also try to trust his answer. If he's lying, it's his loss. And you should get over it. It should be do-able. You are a human, aren't you? then it won't be a prolonged problem. But this answer only applies if he was really lying.
2007-08-27 08:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by voice.from.above 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very wise woman that I married once told me that if I couldn’t tell her about it, then I must be doing something wrong.
Through personal experience I can tell you that it starts with simple texts or e-mails (what have you) and it gets progressively more daring. It’s only a matter of time before he moves on to IM chat, cyber-sex, phone conversations, and then little discreet meetings while you’re away.
But that’s all symptomatic of the larger problem at hand: Why is he not texting you? What is it that he gets from this other woman that he isn’t getting from you? The only way to hang onto this guy (if you still want to) is to satisfy him, and you’re not getting the job done right now.
Harsh, but that’s the reality of it.
2007-08-27 08:51:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. We guys flirt (texting, by phone or live) because we want to get something. That's our nature. We were designed by Nature to mate with as many as possible, but only if we could prove we're worth going for it. Females, human or not, were designed to mate with the Alpha or Beta males, once those A or B Males proved they're worth going for it. Moral and societal restraints and refrains will mask the underlying intentions by different degrees. Economical, moral and societal rules also give C, D, E... males a chance to mate.
But the genetic power will always be there. And it is strong.
2007-08-27 08:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mile66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is def not cheating in my oppinion, just a bit hurtful for the partener. I understand how easy it is to do something like that without really thinking about the other half as its unlikely they will ever know or you will ever act upon it. Its little more than harmless flirting with a friend. However he did find out and you felt awful about it, and now you don't feel morally comfortable doing it and are sorry good for you!
2016-04-02 02:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guy here! lol Sure, I would have to consider it cheating, but only if the context of the messages are either sexual or not appropriate. It's really no different than e-mailing or instant messaging on your pc, is it? Cheating doesn't always mean sex. Maybe it's not a really big deal to him, but it seems to be to you, and if he truly cares about you, he would either stop, or he would have never done it in the first place. He's going to tell you that it's no big deal and nothing to worry about and that's it's just harmless fun. But if it bothers YOU, than it MUST be a big deal. I can't think of ONE reason why you should continue to trust him.
2007-08-27 08:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by goldenbear733 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is flirting and meaning all the trashy things he is sayin.. he may not be physically cheating but he is emotionlly.. if the girl were there with him what would he be doing.. He point is while you aren't around he is getting into another girls head and tryin to get a lil further how far will it go before he considers it cheating.. Put your foot down you deserve better than that..!
2007-08-27 08:45:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any time you or your significant other lavished romantic attention onto anyone else it is a deprivation of the attention that you should have. If he is either text messaging or e-mailing another woman with romantic content (sweet talk, provocative statements, romance advise or divulging personal information), when he should be doing that with you is cheating in the true sense of the definition. The OTHER person is receiving the intimate attention you deserve.
If you were doing what he is doing, would you feel guilty?
2007-08-27 08:55:32 · answer #10 · answered by whiner_cooler 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough call. As a guy, I can see innocent flirting, but I'd be mad as hell if I found that on my girlfriend's phone. I would let this be strike 1, for sure. Just keep tight reins, because if that goes by without any real problem, next time it'll be "innocent" face to face flirting.
So next it'll be a bljob and it'll just be "for his ego" - why do people justify inappropriate behavior???
2007-08-27 08:44:49 · answer #11 · answered by Pat Smear 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋