Should i stay with my boyfriend? he got a girl pregnant when we broke up and she's keeping it do i stay or go?

Question

My boyfriend and i have been together alomost two years back in february we broke up for like a month. although we thought that was the end it was NOT. But he got a girl he barely knows pregnant. Now the crazy bimbo says she is gonna keep the baby.I love him an awful lot thgough , But im not sure if i want to be around for that. Should i stay or go?

Answer 1

I reluctantly say go. Get out of there. It sounds like your love is deep, so don't expect leaving him to be easy. I think it will be better for you in the long run because you already, if you're smart, know that you will have to deal with two other individuals who won't ever have to regard you with any great worth. The possibility for resentment and harsh heartedness have already been set. Let's just say you and he get back together. He's gonna have to pay for this child to live. It's difficult enough for a man to raise a family these days, even more so when he's got to take care of another woman's child. She doesn't have to consider you or your children when things get tight. Most often all the other woman wants is what she can get no matter how it affects a man's wife or other children. I mean if he wasn't responsible to wrap it up while you guys were broken up, then what makes you think that he will be responsible to you in the future. You don't need that. If you go back to him you may find yourself left by the way side while he (and possibly them) move on into the setting sun. I believe Love is always worth fighting for, but it is also wise and respectful. Some might say that he just made a mistake; well, to me some mistakes should be left for the ones who make them to deal with by themselves. You don't need him, I mean dang, you already know he's gonna have problem for at least 18 yrs. Close and lock the door then through the key into a raging volcano. If you're gonna be with someone and have to deal with alot of mistakes or problems then it's better to get with someone and deal with problems you come across or make together. If he doesn't take care of his child then you still don't want to be with someone like that. Well in the end you'll have to make the decision and live with it. I hope that whatever you decide you are aware of all of the possible consequences and find happiness with your choice. It may be hard, but you'll get through it...take care...

Answer 2

Well, most people will tell you to leave, but they're not you. Obviously you have time and emotions invested in him. If you got back together obviously he has some too. Don't think that just cause he let his hormones get the best of him one night, or two, that that has anything to do with his level of commitment towards you. If you want to stay, stay. Remember, if you stay you have to be prepared for all the "baby momma" drama. Also remember that you can't hold the "bimbo", the baby or anything to do with that situation against him. He slept with the "bimbo" at a time when he wasn't committed to you. If you leave then leave. Don't continue to call him, text him, ask people about him or anything like that. The best way to deal with someone you still have feelings for that you are breaking up with is to cut them off completely. Truthfully, you have to make the finally decision. Don't let anyone make you do something you don't want, because in the end you have to live with the decision.

Answer 3

If you don’t feel comfortable with the situation then I’d say go. If you decide to stay then you have to keep in mind that you are not only his girlfriend anymore but you are now a step mother too. This is a lot of responsibility and a hassle. Some of the young women these days can be pretty trifling. She may not want you around the baby so that she can get some alone time with him and etc. So just know you need to have a really open and well functioning relationship with this guy if you are going to stick around. Also you all broke up for a reason, has things really changed that much?

Answer 4

i was in a similar situation.. good advice... leave the relationship... 1.. you were broken up for a month and not only did he sleep with someone, but he slept with her without protection... where is his head at? 2. she is having his baby... face it.. she will always be apart of his life...3. why is she a bimbo? he obviously didn't feel that way when he slept with her...4. whatever he is telling you must be good because you are falling for the famous trick "tell them what they want to hear" 5. Most importantly you have to be able to handle the situation and don't play the Victim roll.. so in a year or two don't say oh he was just with her and that's all it was and we are now together and happy... not all but some guys do go back and sleep with their babies momma's (that's true) but the choice is yours... if you stick in it...make sure you will be able to handle all of the emotional ups and downs that will come with it.. if you don't have to stress out about it .. then why stay in a situation that is going to be stressful?... good luck !

Answer 5

That is a question that only you can answer because you are the one who will have to be in the relationship, and you are the only one who will know if you can truly be happy with him given the situation. If you feel that you can look past the incident and move on as a couple then go ahead. In reality you really can't hold someone accountable for their actions if you aren't in a relationship. Often times we do want to though because we just feel that our ex-partners should act in a certain manner if we still have feelings or if the breakup has only been for a short period of time. It was very irresponsible on his part to get someone pregnant that he does not really know. With that said mistakes happen.
I hope you make the decision that is best for you and not based on what anyone one else thinks you should do. Whatever your choice is I wish you much happiness.

Answer 6

If you love him like you say you do then you should stick it out cause you never know.. that is a part of him and you will love that baby as if it were yours and maybe it will make yall stronger knowing that you are helping him take care of his child because you love him so much.. She may give it up and he has to raise the baby by himself so he will need you to support him and help him in anyway you can.. You know that alot is going through his mind right now too. He can't just break up with the baby and never see it again because he has a responibility now.. Its easy for you to break up with him and leave all of it behind but would really want to lose the man you love or gain the love of a child and the man that you love.. A child is a special thing and it wil help you both grow up and grow together.. I wish you the best..

Answer 7

Just my opinion...People say run but if you weren't together I dont think you have a right to be angry about it but you do have a choice to make. Either you can deal with it or you can walk away. Like you said, both of you thought it was over. If you are going to hold it against him or the child the best thing you can do is walk away becuase other then that you are going to have some inner animousity towards him and/or the child. Not saying you would do anything to hurt the child, dont get me wrong. It is a tough decision but only you know if you can handle it or not. You've got to feel betrayed but if you guys were really broken up I dont think you can hold it against him especially if you really love him.

Answer 8

You should go. Encourage him to grow up.
You like this guy and he likes you. There will be others you like and who like you. But the baby he conceived with this 'crazy bimbo' had to have him be the dad and her be the mom. And that's just the way it is. Use your imagination: whatever he told you, he didn't use protection and neither did she. He however did care enough to get her all the way into the sack, do the deed and conceive the makings of a living breathing being who will grow up calling him 'Daddy' ALL of his friggin life so here's advice for you: get used to the idea.
I know it's painful. I know you'd like to think that his sex act with another woman was like blowing his nose or scratching his butt - that inconsequential - but it was not. Not by a long shot. In fact, his aim was pretty good. Let him realize that himself. He'd like to abort that pesky little thing? Well, he's not Mommy, is he? And neither are you.
Don't try to get 'knocked up' now just to show you can compete. Try to be the adult. Someone's gotta be!
(I know this sounds extremely harsh. But darlin', the person who should be asking the questions and pulling himself up by his own bootstraps and being a man about the responsibility of parenthood is your boyfriend. What does screwing around mean but the possiblity of conception and new life and a whole life of dealing with new life. Not just entertainment and 'feel good' fun! He and his friend - she was definitely a friend for him to get in bed with her - and this baby will deal with it; you can be along helping and supporting but your life will never be the same either.... Good luck to both you and him...)

Answer 9

I feel you already know the answer. But at least it's not because he was cheating on you that she became pregnant. It's going to be hard to work things out. Plus the baby momma drama is going to make things even harder. Sometimes love is not enough of a reason to stay. It sounds like even without the baby there were problems, this will definately compound the issue. Good luck.

Answer 10

My opinion is break up with him. You might love him loads at the moment, but think about the future.
The fact is he's going to have a baby with another woman. He is going to be responsible for that child and they will always have to come first.
It may seem like a selfish question to ask yourself, but are you going to be able to cope with being the second most important person in his life? Are you ready to be a parental figure to this child? Are you going to be able to cope with having to have another women in your lives? If the answers is no to any of these, get out now rather than later down the line when it may be even more difficult.
There is nothing wrong with being selfish now to avoid jealousy and pain in the future. Put yourself first and find another man who can make you his number one.
Good luck. x