Self Confidence boost?

Question

I am always told that I am a pretty girl. But like any girl i have doubts at times. When I lose myself I diet for a day or two...or just fell crumby for myself and put myself down. The other day (my dad owns a restaurant) and i asked him if i could take home a cookie and he said "do you really think you need it?" well i took that as your fat... I weigh 116 lbs. and i'm 5'3. then the next morning at work i was eating a plain donut and he said "you eat alot of garbage" . I really am not a big junk food eater. but a donut and a cookie once in a while wont hurt me. well these comments just make me feel fat and that everyone else sees a chunkers. what should i do? should i work out to start boosting my connfidence? and if so what are some good workouts that you recomend?

Answer 1

To a very high degree, you should weigh as much as you feel happy with weighing.

As long as you are at a weight where you are healthy, the most important part is that you are HAPPY with your weight... not that you "should be X pounds", but that no matter what you weigh, you are happy with that instead of striving to be a size 2 or something like that

That being said, if you want to lose weight, exercise is a really good (and safe) way to lose weight. In addition to that, I would recommend meeting with a nutritionist or dietitian to see if there is something else that may benefit you more.

Oh, and you're at a very healthy weight.

Answer 2

First of all, if you're 5'3 and 116 lbs you are NOT FAT! You are slender. I'm sure your dad did not mean "you're fat" when he commented on what you're eating. Donuts are junk food! But eating a cookie or sweet occasionally won't hurt you.

To boost your confidence, make sure you exercise most days. Ask your friends what they think are your best points, and believe what they tell you. If people always tell you you're pretty, they're probably right!

But also, don't worry about your looks so much. "Beauty is skin deep." It's what kind of person you are inside that counts the most.

Have faith in yourself.

Answer 3

The people who say these things are only concerned about your nutrition, not your weight. From what I hear, their comments are only trying to let you know to eat balanced, not give up cookies and donuts forever. 116 lbs. sounds like a really healthy weight, and if you gain a few pounds, who cares?!? Don't freak out and try to diet too much, because it can backfire. But eating right (meaning getting the right amounts of the right foods) isn't hard...and doesn't mean you have to give up cookies and donuts too. Every once in a while, have a donut and enjoy life.

Answer 4

You know what, your Dad is probably not trying to tell you that you are overweight, because you're not. There is so much in the news about eating healthier nowadays, your Dad isi probably seeing you eat cookies or donuts and thinking it's not healthy, and that's why he said "do you think you need that". Working in a restaurant, there must be a lot of temptation of good food around to nibble on. It is much healthier to really limit how many sweets and baked goods we eat. I don't think you need to change or do anything different. As long as you realize that it's important to eat healthy - if your Dad says something next time, just tell him you know it's important to eat healthy but a donut or cookie once in a while won't hurt me.... exactlly like you said ...

Answer 5

Working out might help boost your confidence, but first I would sit down and really think about why the opinions of others matters so much to you. If YOU are happy with how you look and you are physically healthy, then it shouldn't matter what others think. I am no psychiatrist and not qualified to give definitive answers on this, but from personal experience I can tell you that if other people's opinions are tearing you down, you probably have very little self esteem and will need to figure out why you think so little of yourself. Or, why you are unhappy (which sounds to be true)? Working out can provide direction, provided that you know why you are doing it. If you are doing for yourself, great. If you are doing it to improve your image in the eyes of others, good luck -- there will always be someone to cut you down, no matter how you look. The key is, being strong in the belief in yourself, so strong that those remarks won't matter. There are plenty of great workouts out there. You might want to consider hiring a certified personal trainer and a nutritionist -- it is a worthwhile investment. Again, before that, think about what you want and why you want it. Be sure these decisions are good for YOU and YOU alone. Good luck.

Answer 6

There are some people that say and do heartless things without thinking that there may be consequences, which can and sometimes does lead to eating disorders in those that they affect. My advice is ignore him. Perhaps there is obesity some where in the family and he thinks he is doing a good thing (which he is not), but more likely, he is either "joking" or simply not thinking about what he is saying. You are not over weight. Yes, it is good to eat healthy food no matter what size you are but really, junk food in small amounts will not kill you. If any one's comments get you down, remove yourself from that situation and realistically think about yourself. If you would like to work out and/or exercise, it is good for you, if you do it right and continue to eat the right amount of food, but do it (or don't do it) for yourself, not for what anyone else carelessly says!

Answer 7

You don't need to worry about your weight. And as for his comments take a min to think who made them. Your dad and I'm sure he didn't make them to hurt you. I bet he made them because he worries about you. Remember both times he's seen you and commented you had some junk food in your hand. And as a restaurant owner he should know a thing or two about whats good to eat vs what isn't. If his comments really do upset you talk to him and tell him so. I'm sure you can work it out. As for workouts simply try walking and cut back on the amount you eat for a start.

Answer 8

No, if you are 116 lbs and at that height you are perfect. Please do not feel that way about yourself. You cannot focus on that sort of thing. Your Dad should not be saying those things to you. He does not realize the damage that can do. Eat whatever you want, but do it in moderation that is all. Eat when you are hungry. Don't worry about being fat or gaining weight because that can have severe effects on you. There is too much other stuff going on in the world to worry about that. Good Luck!!

Answer 9

I would approach your father and tell him how his comments hurt your feelings. Be honest and believe in yourself. People who give other people good comments say them because it is true. It is hard to believe in yourself when the people you look up to make such negative comments, this I know from experience.

Sometimes, parents make these comments because they do not know that it effects the kids in such a way. Be honest and open with them and maybe they will get the picture. If they are truly aware that their comments make you feel this way then there is a problem with them, not you. If that is the case, you are better off talking to someone else like a counsellor or someone you can trust. Do not bottle up your feelings about this, trust me, it will only make matters worst. Draw positive energy from the ones who make the good comments, those are the ones who are usually right.

Answer 10

I suspect your father was more concerned for your nutritional health than worried about your weight, you are by no means overweight. exercise is always good for you, but it isn't going to do a lot for your self confidence, that comes from inside your own mind. you build that by setting goals in your life and then achieving them...even small goals to start make a difference, like resolving to walk a mile a day for a month, at the end of that month you have achieved a goal you set and you met, that is very self confirming and boosts your confidence. Any goal that is worthwhile to you will do the same once achieved.