is it time to lose the tongue ring... help me decide?

Question

i'm 25, married with 3 kids.
sometimes i feel people look at me different because of it.
i also have 5 tattoos, they are all hidden.
i keep my appearance clean and neat.
I have had it for about 4 years now, i got it done with my brother, who was also my best friend. he passed away 2 years ago and i keep it as kind of a reminder of that time.
i'm debated over what to do.
i know i'm the only one to decide.
but whats everyone think?
thanks!

Answer 1

Tongue rings are tacky. The ONLY reason people have them is for shock value or so they can perform oral sex better. Any other reason is bogus and probably a lie.

I'm sorry your brother is gone. Tell yourself that he probably would have taken his out by now, and he'd be okay if you did the same.

Answer 2

If you are otherwise neat and you have still been able to get a job, I wouldn't worry about it. Enjoy it while you are still young enough to get away with it. Why spend so much time worrying what others think, unless it hurts you professionally? If you are worried but still attached to the ring's sentimental value, you could wear a smaller, more understated one. For instance, you could just pop in a simple silver stud to go to work or your kids' school activities. Unless you stick your tongue out to California when you talk, it won't be extremely noticeable.

All things considered, I think that if you still use it as a remembrance of your brother, you should keep it until you're ready to let his memory live on in your heart. If that time is now, then great. If not, don't let others pressure you into removing it before you feel comfortable.

Answer 3

I think you need to do what is going to make you feel more comfortable. I am 25 have over 30 tatts and 5 piercings I'm also married with a family and I don't feel like it would make a difference if I had or didn't have those items. I love each of my piercings and tattoos. I wouldn't take my tongue ring out unless it was for me not because of how other ppl look at me. Good luck.

Answer 4

Thats a tough one. People should not judge you based off your tounge ring but the bummer is that may people will. I have my lip pierced and when I wear it I to get treated different, I have tested it out. Try a using a clear piece instead of silver one for a while. It is up to you honestly. If it reminds you of your brother I think that is sweet and you should keep it but if you can part with it maybe take it out once in a while but keep the hole open.

Answer 5

I'm prpbably not the right person to answer this question since I think tongue piercings are gross but I think I can help.

Traditionally tongue piercings were a proud badge to wear, telling everyone what kind of sexual activities you are into and what the tongue stud is good for. Is that now the message you are trying to give out?

You are a mother of 3, and a mature 25 year old woman. What kind of story could you possible give your children for why your tongue is pierced? Do you think that they will NEVER find out what they were supposed to be good for?

Even if you got your tongue pierced for different reasons, the world-wide message is still out there. Time to grow up and start protecting your reputation and self esteem.

Answer 6

I think the question you should be asking yourself is if *you* like it. If you do, keep it. If it makes you feel closer to your brother, then definitely keep it!

I mean, I dunno, maybe it's just me, but I've never really cared what people think of me. I make people who can accept me for me friends and I don't worry about the rest.

As far as professionally speaking, if you're neat and clean and your tattoos aren't in places that draw inappropriate attention, then I don't think your tounge ring is bad. If you were working for me, I wouldn't care one way or the other. I'm the kind of manager who cares more how my employees work than I do about stuff like tounge rings, but I also know managers who think appearance is more important than work ethic. If you have a manager like that, then I'd say quit your job before losing your tounge ring because the person's probably a bear to work for anyway!

Jewelery isn't a determination on maturity in any case. Keep it if you like it, lose it if you don't.

Answer 7

I would keep it. Your still young, and if people are going to give you a problem or judge you then thats on them, you know the real reason you have it. If anything you can always keep it somewhere, on a chain or a box. What you said it true, your the only one that can decide, do what you feel is right, if you feel like you've out grown it, then take it out, if not keep it.

Good luck!

Answer 8

I have 6 tats (mainly hidden if need be) tongue ring, nose ring and several ear piercings.
Me personally- I got my tongue done about 10 yrs ago. I refuse to take mine out. I have had my tongue, lebret, eyebrow, belly, cartildges done and by far for me my tongue was the worst pain! But everyone is different. I have 2 kids myself but i can careless what people think of me. If a tongue ring lessens their thoughts of me- they need to get a life!

Answer 9

i think u should loose it. its about time. i think u have passed on ur early life. tattoos never go away wich is a bad thing. i stare at people with any peircings besides earings. You really should lose the tongue piercing. I know it might be hard to get rid of it because it reminds you of your brother. you have to let go of your brother, but i'm not saying that you can't remember all of the good times you had with him. Anyways what are you going to say when your kids say "I want to look just like mommy!" and when your kids are begging you to get there tongue pierced when they are like 13 or 14????????? I hope this helps you decide :)

Answer 10

YES LOSE THE TOUNGE RING

u have kids now
there are ways to be a rocker ma with out looking totally embarrasing to your children

you can keep the actual tounge ring just not in yo mouth