2007-08-27 08:21:09 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Its always at the back of my head but i never bring it up and it drive sme insane some days i hate him 4 it and others i just want to cry . Has this happened to any one ?Is it ok ??
2007-08-27 08:22:55 · update #1
he joined an online dating survice and posted naked pics of himself and classified himself as single
2007-08-27 08:24:25 · update #2
WE have a one month old together
2007-08-27 08:29:28 · update #3
is that cheating?
2007-08-27 08:31:52 · update #4
If you truly love him you must forgive (don't forget it) but do forgive so that you can let it go. You haven't forgiven him for what he has done and that's why it plays in your mind/heart. Once you forgive him (it could be in your own way/time not necessarily direct) you should feel different about it. Forget is impossible so that IF it happens again or with someone else you'll know the signal ASAP. Forgiving only lets you move on passed the pain of what you're feeling now soon it will heal and you'll become stronger for the next time he hurts you again. I say again cause no one is perfect we all hurt people direct/indirect it's up to one to take the ownership and apologize to change with effort once the mistake or flawed character is recognized/exposed. Good Luck!!!
2007-08-27 08:32:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. The fact that he took time out to not only display naked pics of himself but to join an online dating service portraying himself as single suggest to me that he has a very low regard if any at all for you, his relationship with you, and your child. Once u have life and your memory an emotions are still functioning effectively then yes you will constantly think about it, and don't for one second think that it's abnormal cause what he did is inexcusable and the fact that you're still with him is a miracle cause if it was me, he would've been sent packing a long time ago, child or no child. He should spend everyday of the rest of his life compensating for his wrongdoing by treating u like a queen and the fact that it's still bothering u so much is telling me he isn't and judging from what he did, may never so u need to make a decision. Are you going to remain with him and limit yourself to all his nonsense or will u let him go and in so doing, open up the way for new possibilities? The choice is yours.
2007-08-27 09:08:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One position that is not good is you on all fours. Stay away from that position because if I remember correctly it puts strain on the uterus and baby and could also cause baby to get into breech position if done frequently(don't quote me on that tho).Also you shouldn't be too rough...that is why they tell you to not do very strenuous things when you are far along and not to do vigirous excersizes and what not...same with sex...I mean sex is not bad at all when you are pregnant as long as the doc says so and you don't have any complications already and even gettin a little friskier(rougher) then slow sex is alright from time to time just make sure he isn't banging your head into the headboard and whatnot... IF you are still worried I would call your doc....and even tho these kind of things can get embarassing to talk about it is worth it for you to ease your mind on the subject.Just tell the doc kinda how rough he gets and ask if its ok to do such...they are really the only ones that can tell you for sure how rough you can get because they know the statistics of your pregnancy. good luck
2016-04-02 02:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Shane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. My now husband had females calling his phone and telling me that they had an intimate relationship. My husband always denies this. It hurt alot and I know that there was something more there than what he is willing to admit to. I let it go though. I forgave him but I will never forget that. We had just had our first child and just got engaged. The baby was only like 6 or 7 weeks old at the time. I was devastated. We had no connection for like 2 months. This happened like over a year ago but every time I think or talk about it, I just want to break down or kill him. It is hard but if you love your partner you have to try to get over it to try to move forward. I had to really weigh everything out.
2007-08-27 08:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by PuCcI 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to communicate with him. You will destroy your relationship by holding it in and letting it boil. If you both really want to fix the relationship you will sit and talk about it and find a way to fix the problem together. It wont be easy but it will be worth it.
After reading what you said he did...
Its completly up to you if you think you can trust him again. You should try couples conceling. He may have an online porn addiction. He could get help for it if he is willing. Or he could just be a jerk who doesnt care about your feelings. In wich case you should leave him. Only you can decide which you should do.
2007-08-27 08:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by Dreams 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow...sounds like a real dumb-dumb move on his part. It is normal after such a short time for this to be on your mind. The important thing is to discuss what happened and do your best as partners to determine the cause. Keep the lines of communication open and talk about your feelings..even if you are still angry and hurt. If the trust is broken, it may take quite a bit of time to mend. Hang in there and good luck.
2007-08-27 08:34:37 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continual hurt comes from not having resolution. Whatever he did, didn't get resolved. You need to calmly and rationally think about what was done, what is he going to have to do to show you it has changed, etc. Then sit down and talk abou it. Don't point the finger, but say things like, when you did...I felt like.... If he loses it and starts freaking out, I think you may be better off finding someone else. If not..then I think you'll be on the road to recovery. Remember, forgiveness is not for the offender, but for you. So, choose to forgive regardless or else you'll waste more of your life dwelling on it. It simply isn't worth it. Good luck.
2007-08-27 08:27:38 · answer #7 · answered by Brain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i hate to say it being a man myself but men tend not to dwell on something as long as a woman does (maybe if we did we would be more sensitive and understand women better) but anyway I'm not sure because as the other answers i read indicated there really wasn't enough information to really come to an objective conclusion. If he broke one of your favorite possessions or something along that line then i think you should probably be over it,unless he hasn't apologized yet. But, if he say got drunk and slept with your best friend id say no you wouldn't be over it yet.
That took me so long to write i didnt get to read your edit on your question ......my first thought was find a better man...but i guess you could try to work it out if only for the child.
2007-08-27 08:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by demon_lord_essedess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, you posted the reason while I was typing.
Let me revise.
You clearly have trust issues and what he did cannot have justifiable reasons. If he admits doing it, then clearly in his mind.. you're not enough.
Dump him. Go out and find somebody for whom you are everything and more.
After all, you can't find Mr. Right when you still seeing Mr Wrong. Right? er... hmmmmm.
REVISE: Also, it's not cheating.... But it sure as hell shows intention.
What was his excuse? Curious? ... WITH NAKED PICTURES! COME ON!
I'm curious about lots of things. But I wouldn't get my kit off to try it!
2007-08-27 08:29:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal to still be upset about certain things even down the road, however if you want the relationship to last your going to have to get over it and put it behind you. If you don't your goign to either be mad and sabotage the relationship yourself or your going to unconciously treat him poorly becaue your mad and he will leave you. Not sure what the situation is but with cheating and stuff like that you either have to decide to accept the apology adn move forward or get outa the relationship.
2007-08-27 08:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋