Why do people feel that everything that was good for them as a baby is good for their baby?

Question

I see questions on here at least weekly about putting a baby on their back to sleep or giving milk or not using a bummper etc. There argument is I was given x or my mom did y and i am fine. Yes you are fine but 1,000 if not 1,000,000 of babies were not fine. They died, developed allergies, got sick etc and with research they found out that what parents were doing were not right. Yes you may be ok but the best science we have today says don't do it. Why would you want to chance your child life because it was good enough for you?

Answer 1

We have gotten smarter"evolved "so to speak.I slept in a lead base paint baby bed,didn't have a car seat-but I have enough sense to understand that those things aren't good for my baby.God gave you a baby to love and protect--if you know its not good for them DON"T do it!!!!regardless of how you were raised..........

Answer 2

Do a little research. Theyre finding that SIDS is caused by an underdeveloped area of the brain. Of all the children who died of sids 90% of them after autopsy exhibited the same defect. It causes them to not move their heads in search of air when theyre face is covered, or else it causes them to sleep and not breathe.

Certain positions are safer, but in the end its caused by the development of the brain.

My son rolled over from birth, up and over positioners. Some parents dont have the choice of placing a baby on their backs to sleep, unless they wake every 5 minutes and roll them back over.

As for allergies, those tend to be hereditary, some children are predisposed to have a harder time with certain food allergens than others. In just about all cases of a child getting a food allergy from having a certain food too early, the same allergy was found in both or one side of the family.

So in most cases, because it worked for the parent is grounds enough to do the same for our children.

Obviously the goal is to provide the best, but you have to realize too that science and medicine are not final factors. 30 years ago placing your child on their back to sleep was said to be the worst thing, since so many were choking on their vomit and dying. A few years ago everyone was sure that giving babies solids at a fwe weeks of age was the only way to stimulate proper growth of the digestive system. All these things were backed by science AND medicine.

We do what we believe to be right for our children based on our knowledge and experience.

Dont judge others. Your own child could drop dead from any number of things that you do with the best of intentions and directions of the medical field.

Answer 3

Um...get over it.... my i followed what my mom did b/c she did what her mom did..it was a big chain...all of us are fine and healthy...I mean..I did lay my son on his belly...and I didnt give him reg milk until about 11 1/2 months old...but i gave him cereal at 6wks and started food at 4 1/2 and solids at around 8 1/2 he is healthy like all me, my sister and my brother and healthy like all 8 of my grandmothers childrens....obviously these days people are on a rampage and freak out about the baby, but the way i see it the human race has survived since the dawn of time and trust me things are a lot better these days then 100yrs ago or whatever and yet, somehow babies still survived!

Answer 4

I think you are more ranting then asking a question. But I agree that you should just do what is medically best for your child regardless what your parents did back in the day. There are medical studies for a reason. I'm Pro-Prevention.

Answer 5

Well what else is one supposed to know other than their own personal experiences? I don't think anyone saying those things isn't purposely trying to risk their own or someone else's child's lives. Those people's intentions are in the right place and I think that's what counts more than anything. It's up to the asker if they want to take certain advice or not.

Answer 6

I agree. Always better safe than sorry. Another "I did it" or "my parents did it" and I'm ok thing that I hate is smoking while pregnant or around pregnant women. Things like that or too much coffee..wine anything that can risk your babies health...when someone does it they always have a story about so and so did it and their baby is fine..Well I ate healthy avoided smoke or anything that ||had potential to harm my babies..I wanted (and got) wonderful, great, healthy, perfect babies not just....ok babies!

SAFETY FIRST

Answer 7

I think people should worry about their own kids and not worry about what other people are doing...*hint, hint*. I don't even know what my mother did with me cause she was murdered when I was 4 and my dad was already re-married and has no clue....so I can only do what I feel is correct and so far my kids are very healthy, active kids. My son is 3 and my daughter is 14 months and YES I gave them both cows milk before they were 1yrs old.

Answer 8

I think my problem with doing what researchers or current doctors say to do is they all tell me different things! So I do ask my mom about what was done when I was little and if it complies with one of the suggestions with what his doctor or researchers said then I do it for my son. Some examples are: one doc told me to give my almost 8month old juice, another said not to so I asked my mom and she said to give him a little in sippy cups so he gets to switch to sippy cups happily. I don't think anything is going to kill or harm my son that I am doing, but when I have different doctors telling me different things that I do go to my mom.

Answer 9

because of what was done for them as a baby, and they lived old enough to have a baby fine, why change it? they can ask there parents, which is much easier than buying books or anything, cause you trust your parents judgement on what to do with everything, especially babies.

Answer 10

Ignorance.