What are some tips for keeping a relationship fresh fun romantic and exciting?

Question

Iv'e been with my boyfriend for 2 years and 4 months and i'd love some ideas :-)

Answer 1

its not always about what you do but ur character. like are u being fun and exciting? are u being nice and generally positive towards him? when i watch scrubs or whatever and i see how fun they are and mostly silly, it rubs off on me and my boyfriend is so much happier when im like that. Its all about how u act in whatever you do. be fun and it'll keep ur relationship fun. dont be afraid of being all crazy and silly from time to time, surely its enough to spice things up by just showing that ur enough on ur own. its amazing how fun one can be when they stop stressing. are u still fun??

Answer 2

Make a conscious decision to be romantic together. Go for candlelight dinners, make promises to each other.
Call your spouse during the day and say something romantic - it's an instant energizer.
Leave a romantic love note for your mate to find.
Going for long romantic walks together. Hold hands while you walk, and try and reminisce the last time you did something as lovely as this.
Remember to give a lingering kiss for no reason at all.
Say 'I love you'... many times... over and over again.
Watch a classic romantic movie together.
Send a romantic card.
Plan a romantic candlelight dinner.

Schedule an evening to have a romantic date with one another.

Hug. Kiss. Touch... Go play
Playing games together is an important part of keeping the romance and fun in a relationship. Without either of these key ingredients, the relationship will slowly starve to death leaving the partners feeling resentment and disappointment. One of the best ways that I've found to keep a little excitement in the relationship is to role play in the bedroom.

There are a LOT of toys and props out there for this form of intimate partner play, and I would highly recommend looking around and seeing what sorts of things interest you and your lover. I think you'll be pleasantly surprised by how much fun you'll actually have!

Answer 3

Wow...tough one. Sometimes we do become comfortable with our relationships. After 20 something years of marriage I can understand that. But, understand there is nothing wrong with being comfortable. It's another chapter in the book of love.

Travel is aways fun and romantic. Seeing new things/places together for the first time provides memories that you'll always have.

You might consider taking a gourmet cooking class together. It's something you both could enjoy together and continue to reap the benefits for years to come.

Dance lessons. That's romantic and still something you're doing/learning together.

Think about new sports. Do you guys bike, play tennis? If not, take up a sport that you'd both enjoy.

Most of all...spending time together is where you make all your memories. Never loose sight of that.

Answer 4

It's not realistic to expect a relationship to always be fresh, fun, romantic, and exciting. Relationship is life shared, and as such there will be responsibility, work, and up and down cycles, as well as sometimes fresh, fun, romantic and exciting. Relationship is looking toward common goals hand in hand, striving for the best in each and the best in life. Most of the time it will be working together, and sometimes it can be playing together. Set goals and be willing to work hard. Take time to play. Maintain balance between fun and responsibility, always with the highest good of each at heart. Try new things, both in and out of bed. Be children together. Be adults together. Find the balance.

Answer 5

Ok this may SOUND high school, but trust me it works. Play silly board games, twister, spin the bottle (kinda hard to do with only two ppl), strip poker, dice, dominoes, truth or dare, etc. You can make it naked twister even. If it's a sexual spice you need maybe one of those games like sex dice or sexual truth or dare. Most of all you should ask HIM what he wants to do as well. Don't just assume if it amuses you it amuses him. Neither of you should be selfish after this long of being together. A decent but cheap motel with candles is a good way to spark romance. Make love don't just 'have sex' anyway, anywhere, any postition you can think of. Don't be afraid to talk about ur sexuality if that's what is needing a spice up. You can do things like tie each other up loosely to where you CAN get out but make him NOT want to get freed. Whip cream, chocolate, strawberries always spark up the bedroom. If you have children ask a family member or friend to sit (even if just for a few hours) and just spend time together and let whatever happens happen. The fun in a relationship comes with remembering where your relationship STARTED! Not where it is now. Have fun and ask about trying anything that comes to mind. Most generally straight men won't like you doing back side play on them though. You'd be surprised what he may be thinking of doing to you. Most of all don't be afraid to talk about your sex-life or romantic life. It's the two of you not a bunch of ppl on a computer who make those type of ideas come to a spark of desire :-) Good luck!

Answer 6

I suggest that you both find something you have never done before and learn how to do it together. Such as take a pottery class at a community college, or some other similar class.
If thats not your idea of fun, then maybe start taking Karate together.
Or set a date every week/every month depending on how busy you are to meet at a park to walk while holding hands and just looking at nature. Maybe pick a different park every month. That would be fun to do online searches and maybe make a day trip out of going there.
Just use your imagination a bit and you will think of something. :o) Good Luck!

Answer 7

Always have something planned. My husband and I always have things to look forward to. It is so much fun planning, then once you have done what you have planned, schedule something else! Even if it is just an overnight somewhere, or a dinner somewhere new. Then, if it is something really exciting, like a vacation, we have a count down until the time arrives. Also, we celebrate lots of anniversaries, like the day we met, day we got engaged, 'firsts' of things that happened. Then we reminisce about what happened. It sounds corny, but it is so much fun!

Answer 8

It's the same story with me and my man. I've found that since I take the reigns on planning most evenings out and he takes the reigns on some other things, it was fun to swap places once in a while and let me take charge of the things he normally took care of and let him get a taste of what it was like planning a get-away (no matter how big or small) for two. Other things that kept him on his toes were for me to randomly act different (in the good way) one day. Sort of like if you're normally very quiet, try to be talkitive one day, or if you're normally safety-oriented, be bold and adventurous one day. Also, if you're normally the type to dress conservatively, surprise him one night with something he wouldn't think you'd ever wear. Bottom line is that if you randomly do something different, it'll keep him on his toes.

For fun, there's also some games that are out there that one can play on a date to randomly spice things up. My favorite is for you to choose a word (any random word will do but the more it comes up in conversation, the better), not tell your guy, and kiss him each time either of you say the word during the night out. For something that lasts a little longer (and if your guy isn't really the romantic, shake things up kind of guy), write some ideas (be it fantasies or sweet things you'd like your sweetie to do for you, but without being asked) on small slips of paper, toss them in two jars (one for your notes, one for your guy) and have you two to pick a slip of paper out of the jars each morning and see if you two can do what the paper requests. Be a little vague to allow room for the personal touch.

To be romantic, if you're ever up to it, you can always randomly make his lunch and show up at his work during lunch time or (if you two doesn't live together and you don't do this already) have dinner made for him when he walks back in the door.

To keep a relationship fresh, I've found it to be most useful to do something different, no matter how small the difference or how silly or insignificant the change is, every day (or at least every time you see your guy) to keep him guess. If you fall into a repeditive pattern, things tend to get a little boring.

Answer 9

My fiance and I spice things up a bit by often trying different sexual positions and new techniques here and there. We try to get out whenever possible, we work a lot. Sometimes going to parties and meeting new people. It really helps a lot. I know how you feel, I've been there and you don't wanna stay in a rut. Try going out and meeting new people. Maybe you can get together with other couples and go on double dates. Dinner, movie, etc. It could help. Best of luck!

Answer 10

While most of the answers that I have read seem to be really good advise, it's a matter of combining them all. I don't know you nor your mate, therefore, my advise to you is to find and work on what works for the 2 of you. The main thing is to keep the lines of communication open along with acceptance of different different ideas. Remember, you may realize that it's something that is not working for you...express that in an intelligent and honest manner and move on to something else that just may work.

Answer 11

such a question !!! such answers!!!!
honey you have recieved lots of ideas all are good you have to know that there are million of tips for that but you choose what go with you both and what your man like you only know which tips could be helpful for your love enrichement
first i can tell you in love relationship you must win your man's heart be his colse friend and his mom his sister his partner his queen his lover his passion than you will be his saulmate forever you will never feel bored of being togather
work with him ====serious companionship i mean share him your proffessional ideas and experience get involved with his business so you will be closer and have time for work and time for fun
play togather all the silly and funy games and ideas that have been mentioned above by sweat yahoo contributers they were lovely and generous they gave almost the best tips ever
==disscuss all the themes togather have cultural share ===disscuss history politics society not boring but you should change the atmosphere of your life always fun needs some serious time and wise debates to have psiritual and cultural contact
==have crazy love laugh cry scream play have fun do all what makes you feel cheered up togather go for walk dance sweam cinema theatre help people paly with kids .........
=romantic hot bedroom and lovesex where you share all your crazy passion do it anywhere and anytime just follow your desires outside and inside wherever and whenever be free
==read books togather play games truth and dare
==the most important things that you change things from time to time that 's the way you feel freshed and dexcited
==you have lots of tips so you sure are so excited to do them all ...................
==and you will have something new each time just please your man he will never stop missing you he will do his best to finish work early to spend more time with you he will wish nights and days get longer
====important.....tell him you are happy to fall in his love +he is your hero +you are proud of him nonstop love expressing
===fight with him from time to time then ask apologies and forgive him love war ==peace forever
===Good luck ==reveal your first emotion first date first kiss remember all the nice days and laugh about your stupid actions be frank and honest be yourself