In my world, you get married once. If your marriage ends through death, divorce or annulment, you get a do-over. Ceremonial services are a crock.
If you eloped, a subsequent church "wedding" is not a wedding. It's a party in a church. If you're churchgoin' folk, you should believe God was watching the courthouse when you got hitched.
If you had a civil ceremony, same thing. The church do-over is a party in church. If it was that important to wed in a church, you should have done so.
If you can't decide whether to have the wedding in State A or State B because you and your spouse to be don't know who to burden with travel...and you split the difference with a second "wedding" in State B, see above.
How many times can you have this solemn occasion? Is this just a big chance for Bridezilla to get her Queen for a Day groove on and rack up some (or more) presents, even though she jumped the gun and already married Prince Charming?
2007-08-27 07:07:02 · 16 answers · asked by Bill 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I couldn't agree more..... It's OK to have a party afterwards or for a anniversary but don't go running around in a white dress with your 5 kids after 3 years of marriage pretending to be a blushing bride, it's just sad....
Lets just start having redo for everything!! I didn't like my 30th birthday party- redo, my first kid's baby shower wasn't as fancy as I wanted it- Redo.... My house warming was lame-Redo.... No one made enough fuss over me when I graduated from college- REDO!!! LOL
2007-08-27 07:15:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 4⤋
A little bitter at the ones who say "having a party after a destination wedding is a crock and the couple just wants money"...
We are having a destination wedding (just the two of us) and we ARE having a celebration when we return. Neither my fiance or I wanted the party in the beginning, but about 80% of our family and friends said "You're at least having a party when you get back, aren't you?!?" Also, both sets of parents really want it...and are paying for it. This isn't a ploy for gifts...it will be nice and catered, and it will give our families the chance to mingle and get to know one another. A ploy for gifts would be to throw a birthday party every 1-5 years and expect presents. As someone above mentioned, you never have to accept an invite or give a gift. If one of my friends went away to get married, I would gift him/her whether or not there was a party....so a celebration would just be a bonus.
2007-08-27 17:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by WorldTraveler 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people do the church wedding after to feel like they have had their marriage and vows blessed and reaffirmed by God or their church...some people want to make the commitment to each other but can not afford the formal wedding they have always dreamed of or are not in a point in their lives they can take the time to plan it so they make the commitment and celebrate it with all at a later time
2007-08-27 07:21:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I completely agree. I have a friend who is going to elope in California (her 2nd marriage)- and now since I have been planning a nice wedding (both my fiance and I's FIRST)- she is all of a sudden going to throw this Asian themed party so she can get some of the bridezilla treatment and gifts as we are doing...... it's the most ignorant party, they want to do wrestling matches, etc. I just cannot believe how ignorant.
2007-08-27 08:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
hi. i think of particularly some the others could have misunderstood. I do understand what you assert....after the BBQ you may ALL bypass bowling to get to understand one yet another extra advantageous. Hmmm.....besides the fact that I do want to bowl, i'm no longer thinking that the bowling alley is the best place "to get to understand somebody." Why no longer in basic terms stay at your sister's living house and chat and chortle? additionally.....i'm no longer attempting to be nosy, yet have you ever checked on the policies on marrying a distant places citizen in this u . s . a .? it is not as common as 2 U.S. voters getting married. i could examine into it in the previous you're making any plans, except you have already finished so. reliable luck to you.
2016-10-09 08:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree.... with all of the above.
But I had a hard time choosing a dress, so I want to have a do-over every 5 years so that I can have a chance to wear all of the dresses that I liked. Is that ok?
And while I am at it, when my son was born, I had to have a c-section after 29 hours of labor. Can I do that over too? It wasn't the type of birth that I wanted for our son.
But to be honest. I almost considered the quicky civil ceremony to be followed later by the church wedding, but someone reminded me why that was stupid.
2007-08-27 07:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by Proud Momma 6 · 4⤊ 3⤋
Seriously - what do you care? If you are invited to one of these "cheesy...reenactments" - DON"T GO!!!
See??? simple.
Who (or anyone else here with an attitude about it) are you to judge what other folks do about getting married? Some people think that their churches are on sacred ground and want to have that special blessing for their marriage - even if they did marry earlier in a civil ceremony.
Friends of mine just eloped a couple months ago - and I can't wait until the reception they are planning in a few months. I think it will be a wonderful celebration and a great time to see old friends.
I find it especially interesting that you refer to the second wedding as being only for a "Bridezilla" jumping the gun and marrying her Prince Charming - just a teeny bit misogynistic aren't you???
Yes, I was a bride for one day but it wasn't all about me. It was about me, my husband, our families and friends celebrating together.
Get over yourself and climb down from your high horse. You are obviously a bitter & thoughtless person right now - you feel really burned by what she did to you, don't you?
2007-08-27 07:44:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mirage 5 · 3⤊ 6⤋
Wow!!! Yipee!!!! I am sooooo glad many people agree with this statement, and, thank you, Bill J, for speaking up for all of us! I do love weddings (as my user name)....but all of these "do-overs" as you call them are ridiculous. I post on other sites --- go to PartyPop.com - it's a hoot. Everyone saying "I didn't have a real wedding, just a JP, and now I want one." The problem being, the first one WAS A REAL WEDDING!!! It seems LOTS of people are doing this. I, personally, have not been invited to such a shindig, and, if I did, I would not go. You can't turn back the time. You made your decision on your wedding, now live with it. I do agree with the other poster who said you can have a vow renewal in Hawaii for your 25th if you want...but leave it at that!!!
2007-08-27 08:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 5⤊ 3⤋
I get what your saying. What I find funny is those that say,
"I want to get married next Friday in the Courthouse. Just me and my Fi. But then, next month we want to have a party for our friends and family. How should I do this? We want to keep it real simple" or people that elope b/c it's less hassle, but then throw a huge party.
It's crazy. It's like, you want to "keep it simple" yet you complicate it. Your wedding day is one day. In that one day, you get married (have the ceremony) and then have the reception.
If you have a destination wedding ( you don't have a party when you get home) The only expection is if someone else threw it in your honor. But, after a destination wedding; don't plan/throw your own.
2007-08-27 07:16:37 · answer #9 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 4⤊ 4⤋
You forgot to add the "destination wedding with elaborate reception afterwards!" to the list as well - While I may stand alone on this, I think it's a slap in the face - not good enough (or rich enough to pay $3k per person to fly to some island!) to see you get married, but my checkbook's okay when it comes time for the gifts!
Basically, yes. It's an opportunity to have "MYYY DAAAYYY!" over again, and to rack up more gifts. I couldn't agree more.
2007-08-27 07:15:08 · answer #10 · answered by sylvia 6 · 6⤊ 4⤋