Cheating Girlfriend?

Question

I have a girlfriend who is currently married....I know what goes around comes around and that I shouldn't be with her. But the same thing she's doing to her husband with me, she's doing to me with someone else. She's currently deploying to Iraq and will be here with me tomorrow for 4 days. How do I know so much? Well I have a General POA and passwords to all her accounts and emails. Her phone bill tells all. Should I say something to her, or just drop her and tell her it's been nice and fun, but I'm not the husband and cheating on me is not something i'll except. Or should I just let her make a fool out of herself and just keep lying?

Answer 1

let her go...sounds like trouble.

Answer 2

You could let her make a fool of her self by gradually showing her up. But any satisfaction you get from that, will only be temporary cause after you, she's just going to play the same game with some other guy. You should just drop her and move on cause it's obvious she's not ready yet, she's sharing herself with all sorts of men who may or may not genuinely love her, plus she's married so that alone should tell you something. You're not completely innocent in all this either cause you've been dating her inspite of the fact that she's married when really and truly u should be taking responsibility for your actions and encouraging her to remain manogamous with her husband. Making excuses to justify your actions is not going to change the situation, so I would suggest you let her go. If you really care about her, you could consider telling her husband. Chances are it may get ugly but the fact is, no one (no matter how bad they are or what they've done) deserves to be cheated on and when the person being cheated on has and continues to do everything to make the relationship work, it hurts even more, so that's something you could seriously consider.

Answer 3

I hate to tell you this, but you are not the first guy to get busy with a married lady. But realize that you are playing with a live grenade, excuse the pun, but really that is what it is. This girl is trouble, and I can guarantee that is what she is going to get you into. First off all she can play the husband against you, and or someone else she is doing. So I can tell you without knowing you, that she is making you the man in the middle, and really that is not the place you want to be in, and all the while she is getting off from watching everyone jump through these hoops. Honestly just call it a game and get away from that. You had your cookie payed the bill and now it's time to leave, not sit for drinks at the bar. Plus there are plenty of army babes who are free from baggage. So I suggest you head in that direction. Hope this helps.

-Ty

Answer 4

dude, seriously...did you even read what you just wrote. In case that you did, and it doesn't remind you of a Jerry Springer episode let me give this advice:

If you're going to be single and play the field then do with other single girls. This is a waste of your time not to mention just ALL wrong in so many ways. You have ABSOLUTELY NO reason to be upset with her for "cheating" on you. If that's what you wanna call it, b/c technically she has been "cheating" on you the WHOLE frickin' time you were dating...with her husband. Hello! So what's the difference if she's getting some somewhere else also. I just feel bad for her husband..if he's at all faithful to her.

If you're worried, upset, hurt or emotional distraught over someone cheating or getting a little somethin' somethin' on the side then you need not to be dating married women. Look at this way...A married women can NEVER be faithful to you...why? b/c she's married to another man. She will have to preform her "wifely duties" sometime.

Answer 5

Guess it depends on what you want out of the relationship, if you can call it that, sounds like she uses you for s*x and a good time. If you wanted more, well, you made the mistake of seeing a married woman. She does not care about the making being a fool, that why you know what you do. Women are smarter than men, and if she wanted to mess around and was worried about you knowing, you would not know.
Face it, she is what us military guys call the Army Slut, we all have them, the question is do you want to keep her around, is your self esteem that low, I don't think so. Move on the a Lady, not the tramp.
MO

Answer 6

You should get out of this relationship now... why would you ever be with a woman who is married anyway... you know it could never go anywhere... and even if it did you know you could never fully trust her because if she cheated on her husband to be with you, why would she not cheat on you too, as you think she is doing? Having a relationship that isn't based on a foundation of trust, like this one, is a recipe for disaster... guranteed!

Have some self respect, dude... get with a woman who can actually care about you. If you want more than a quick screw, that is if you want a real relationship you need to be more than a woman's "guy on the side". There are millions of chicks out there... you can do better than a cheater!

Answer 7

O man where do I start... 1st run don't walk away. I was in the military and I can tell you first hand allot of people know how to kill you. And put you self in there place when they find out they fell life life is over so nothing else matter excpt getting even. And he won't blame her he will come after you. 2nd you can't xpect her to be fail to you after you know her situation. 3rd get a STD and AIDs test so you can go on. Next time look for some one no in relationship or on the rebound. I know its tough to find them.

Answer 8

Well first and foremost if you already have an answer to your own question then you already know what to do. You just want someone to tell you if that is the right thing to do. You know you were wrong for assisting with adultry. That was all the was wrong. But no, you should not continue this any longer. Let it go. Let her go. Be done with the whole ordeal.

Answer 9

Get your own woman; stop stealing someone else's.

And yes, getting involved with a person of such low character that she would cheat with you on her husband, you can almost bank and set your watch by the fact that she will cheat on you too.

Relationships take trust. This is not a trustworthy person. You don't strike me as very trustworthy either, for that matter. Work on being more trustworthy before expecting trustworthy partners in your life.

Good luck, I think :-)

Answer 10

I think you already know you're making a big mistake; you shouldn't be helping her cheat on her husband. I suggest leaving her immediately - she's playing all 3 of you! I'm sure you deserve much better than a cheating liar who sleeps around. Best of luck finding someone else who's NOT already in a relationship.

Answer 11

You need to break it off. She is obviously in a messed up situation right now if she is currently with 3 guys (including her husband). She isn't marriage material because you know she would cheat on you. Unless you are just in it for fun, I would break it off and tell her you know everything so maybe she will learn a lesson.