Need help with a letter of guilt, to a one night stand.?

Question

the last year my life has been a black hole that i continue to fall through. Many times i thought i have hit rock bottom. i have always been a good girl. i was not intimate with any guy until i was 18 then i was with him for 4 years. I thought i would marry this guy and be with him forever. I was into my career and my life rather than partying. we broke up a year ago. I have watched my life fall apart. i started drinking heavily an popping pills. i would down tequilla like crazy. I am a tiny girl to. the last year i have went from one guy to 12 if i count all of my one night stands. this is NOT ME! or well, i would like to think it is not me. Iwant to change. I want a good guy. I thought maybe i found one, having trouble breaking free from the routine that i have lived i slept with him. grrr! i told myself i would not do that. he knew i didnt either. I am tring to be good again and go to church. I want a letter to wrt saying i am ashamed and it was wrong! i am bad at this stuff. THANKY

Answer 1

Really you need to understand that this guy really didn't keep your moral compas from going crazy. And understand that your not a bad person for going a bit crazy. I did sorta the same thing when I broke up with my ex. I didn't hit the bottle but I did have a few one night stands. I think it was just my way of getting her out of my system and beeing free from relationship pressures and being managomous. So don't be ashamed of who you are, and how you reacted to all of this, it was a hard time and I am sure a turning point in your life when you did break up with him.

I would suggest that you take a step back and re evaluate your situation. Look at everything in your life up to this point and where you want to go. When you do that you will realize that you do have control of everythig in your life, and how you choose to live it. You need to know that you are the one who calls the shots in your life, and though you did break up with someone that you really loved, there was a reason for it. And I'm sure you are much better off without him, also that no man dictates who you are. You are who you are and no dude will every change that. So I really think you are a good person, but you were in a confused place, and really we all go there sometimes, and to be honest there is nothing wrong with you. And I want you to know that by hitting rock bottom you can only go up from there. Hope this helps.

-Ty

Answer 2

Okay im gonna give a shot at this cause this seems a bit mixed up. Okay so im assuming you are writing a letter to one of ur one night stands. The letter she be who you are but thats the thing i notice is that you seem to be lost but you are not truly lost. The loss of your long relationship with your bf has obviously killed your hope that you can be happy, DONT! No matter how dark things can get it always gets darker before dawn. Instead of writing a letter get a hold of him in person if you really liked this guy then get some coffee or somthing. If it truly was ust a one night stand that you feel guilty about just write a note saying that you felt bad about it and your going through some things at the moment and that your're sorry, just write how you feel there realyl isnt a certain way to go about this just say what you feel its the best thing you can do

Answer 3

Just tell him it was a mistake and be more carefull from now on. What bothers me though is why are you choosing to make all thease bad descisions. If you dont stop you will end up with a disease or who knows what. Turn the corner. Dont do something that you would not want your daughter to do if you had one. I can tell you are a good girl but you have opened the pandoras box. The difference is you can close the lid with Christs help but you might have to change where you are hanging out and eaven changing some friends. It is not easy but it will be worth it. You are too valuable to do this.

Answer 4

tell him the truth in the letter tell him u are very ashamed of what u did and u feel it was wrong tell him u wanted it to be perfect for u too and u are sorry and u hope that u 2 are ok and just say u jumped into it to quick and u are really hurt by what u did and if he likes u he will understand that u wanted it to be special

Answer 5

Just tell him that you've made some mistakes over the past year that you'd like to take back. One of them is sleeping with him too soon. Not because you don't like him, but because, you'd like to take time to get to know him better before you get into a sexual relationship and you don't want this to just be a meaningless sexual thing. Tell him about the way you lived your life before and that you want to return to that.

Answer 6

I've read through your post a couple of times, but have trouble understanding who you are sending your letter of guilt to.

From the jist of things, I think you should forgive yourself and move on. You're obviously a good person who is just too hard on themselves.

Answer 7

Apologize for making a bad choice.
Ask for help, you want to respect both yourself, and him, and you blew it.


After you write the letter, talk to him about it.



Luck

Answer 8

don't be a coward and write a letter, just talk to him straight up.. but if you must write the letter, just pour your heart out. tell him everything u told us on your question.. and how you feel.

Answer 9

Action speaks louder than words.
Just do it and the world will see a change in you.

Answer 10

well just atart if off with how u enjoyed staying with him and how nice he was to you and then slowly introduce what you want to say and then go back to omplimenting him again