daughter public bathrooms?

Question

she refuses to use public bathrooms or go to the bathroom outside. so she would keep wetting her pants and she did ask that she could just wear diapers on car rides and at 1st i did say no but about a month later she asked again and i finally said yes even though i wish she would use public bathrooms and stuff and i once tried carrying her to a public bathroom and i did make it but then after that she wouldn't hold it and would just let it come right out.
what should i do?!

ok my daughter is 10 years old. she does use bathrooms at other peoples houses. and if we're at a hotel she'll also use the one only in our room. she just won't use bathroom that are open to any of the other public. and she says that she hates how they are, smell, other people can come in, and unclean.

Answer 1

Is there something that happened in a public bathroom that is making her fear them? You did not indicate her age. Has she gone alone?

Answer 2

Hum, well does she say WHY she doesnt want to use a public bathroom? How old is she? If she older than 3, I sure
wouldnt let her wear diapers just so she didnt have to go to the bathroom. I would speak to her doctor about it, and see what he/she thinks is the problem. Most behavior is learned, therefor, she may have picked up on something that you didnt realized bother her.
Like me for instance,, I've always told my kids not to touch anything in the bathroom unless the could help it. And to make sure they washed there hands good, and to use the paper towel they dried there hands off with to open the door when leaving. Of course they ask me why, and I said nasty germys. So maybe she's picked up on something like that, and is now afriad of public bathrooms. Good luck, Hope you can get it worked out!

Answer 3

When my son was four years old, we went in a public restroom that had overflowed. There was gas, liquid and solid matter all over. For the longest time (about a year), my son would not enter any public restroom.
The tip given to us was to slowly start with the cleanest of the public restrooms:
On road trips - First, we started going to first to second class Hotels whenever he had to go make a pit stop. Then, work your way to Motels, Today, at 8 years old, he is able to enter gas station restrooms, but only after an inspection.
We're still working on portable potties, making baby steps along the way. Someday, he may work for our City Sewer System as a goal! Good Luck and enjoy.

Answer 4

What age is your daughter? If she is in preschool, be patient, it will come in time. A little bribery never hurt anyone in this situation- if she uses the public bathroom, buy her a little, inexpensive toy. Not candy though- candy/food should never be used as a reward. Its not good for children's health.

If she is older than this, it might be a different problem. Did something happen to her in a public bathroom? Or maybe its a physical problem? Consider these things. Also, don't literally drag her into a bathroom- that will just make her not want to go in there more. And don't listen to notnaked.

Good luck!

Answer 5

try practicing a trip to the restroom. Go to the store just to use the bathroom. Go somewhere like Target that has a food area near the bathrooms. Get a soda and a snack and wait. Ask her every few minutes to try the bathroom, and encourage her to try. when she succeeds, take her to the toy dept and let her get something small. Drop the diapers 100%, any step back will be hard to recover.

Answer 6

You know, public bathroom can sometimes be nasty...maybe she's just not comfortable. Have you asked her WHY? And outside? Are you kidding me? Good for her for refusing to go outside! Shame on YOU for expecting her to. Children have minds of their own and SOMETIMES, not always but sometimes, you just have to "go with the flow" so to speak. As parents, these are the kinds of sacrifices we make. Until she can express to you why she has a problem with it, you just have to accommodate her. My daughter would never sleep anywhere but home. We'd be visiting and all of the kids would fall asleep watching tv, on chairs, couches, the floor, anywhere. My daughter simply would not. When she was ready to go to sleep, our night was over. We left and took her home because she was a LITTLE GIRL and wanted to be in her bed with her pillow and having her miserable so we could chat with friends and/or family into the wee hours of the night just wasn't right. So, please, be patient with your daughter. If she's old enough to give you a reason then ask. She might not know why she can't, she just doesn't feel comfortable. I know I've walked into a few public restrooms and walked right back out. Good luck...give her some time and your patience. It's inconvenient for you but surely not the end of the world..we are parents, we do these things for our children.

Answer 7

Try offering a reward for using the toilets like a big girl, maybe?
If she's insisting on staying in diapers, I think you should probably just leave her in diapers and tell her fine, you don't have to be a big girl yet, you tell me when you are ready. ... Soon enough, she'll come around and be ready to lose the diaper. From all I've read, toddlers almost always resist any kind of pressure and prefer to decide independently when they'll use the potty.

Answer 8

Depends on her age. If she is still little newly potty trained, just be patient. It will come with time. Keep encouraging it and always go with her. If she sees you going it might help too. I am a preschool teacher and each year we have kids come in that are afraid of our bathroom. We are just patient and encouraging and eventually they come around. You might try a reward system. Tell her if she goes on the potty at Wal Mart she can pick a small toy or something to that affect. There are times when bribery does pay off!

Answer 9

i does no longer circulate to the girls' room together with her, as somebody here reported. the two take her with you to adult adult males's bathing room (i does no longer difficulty too plenty approximately what she would have the capacity to make certain there. She in all probability is going to toddler care and has seen what boys do in bogs besides. adult adult males in there might sense uncomfortable although.) Or deliver her on my own into the girls' room and wait below the door. If she does not come decrease back from there for an prolonged time, ask some lady that may assist you get her out of there. that's what I used to do while my son replaced into youthful.

Answer 10

Hi,
My daughter was the same way. She wouldn't use any bathrooom exept her her, no friends, family, or anything. It was pretty hard on us. As soon as she had to go we had to run home.
There may be several reasons why. She might be afraid of those big potties. They can be really loud and some of them flush on their own when you are still on it. My daughters thing was she thought all the other pottys were dirty. And wouldnt use them. LOL!!
Try not to go to far from home. She will out grow it. Thats how it was with us. Also don't force her to do anything she doesn't want to cause that will make it worse.

Answer 11

Talk to a MD. Doctor if she afrid of a public restroom. the diaper idea is kind of a so and so idea but that means that you have to change her if she is wet or has a crap in her diaper. with lots of baby wipes, and try changng her diaper in your car. try talking her in the men's room when you go in a have yourself change her diaper. good luck Please up the good work tell you daughter it going to be okay you can be in a diaper as long as you would like unitl you ******* potty **** trained