If he does, how do you handle it? Or do you just take those free drinks and deal with it. DO they seem possesive after buying that drink? MEN::::: Why do you think you can do that? Where is the balance in your head? I have asked several women this question and tend to get the same answer. Talk back to me and tell what you think!
2007-08-27 05:46:50 · 15 answers · asked by GNJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This isnt for me to figure out if I need to take the offer. I just want to see what other folks think. We have talked about this at work and I wanted to know what others think.
2007-08-27 15:57:51 · update #1
The short answer is that you are the reason he thinks this. Because you do allow the 'right' guy to buy you for the night.
If you have any self respect why let yourself be bought? Why are you at a club playing the games then criticizing the games you're playing? What you're saying is you want to be a politician but you don't want to be in politics.
You know that there is a meaning behind it. It's a means of breaking the ice and essentially asking "can I spend some time talking with you and getting to know you?" Accepting the drink is you saying "yes"
Having said that I also have to say I think it's as outdated as most gender social politics. But of course like much of the archaic social politics it survives just as the man being expected to approach the woman first, pay for the date etc.
I would say don't be a hypocrite. Either abandon old social politics or not. Don't pick and choose the ones you like. Either have some dignity and self respect or not. If you're going to accept the drink accept the drink accept what comes with it.
Sorry but there is no other way around it. As low as you may think the guy is if you accept a drink you are the lower of the two.
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2007-08-27 05:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by elurle 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, they think you're their walk-around-with-woman when you walk around with them. If you're concerned about receiving gifts, then make this announcement each time, "Due to the common assumption that receiving gifts entitles privilege, I want to let you know that I do not offer any kind of promise of attention or social accompaniment. I make no promises of any kind upon receiving a gift. This gift in no way implies that it is exchanged for any service or requirement. I am in no way obligated to you. Please sign here." And then, after they sign your contract, they are no longer under the wrong impression you owe them something.
Otherwise, don't take the drink, or buy them a drink.
2007-08-27 05:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by CHARLES T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I quit drinking 13 years ago but when I did most of time if accepted drink from man in bar he thought that was is cue to move in..... so i never accepted drinks from men I didn't know.....men have different way of seeeing things than woman......and paying a drink most feel leads to bed ssssssdon't accept drink if don't want man to get wrong idea
2007-08-27 05:53:47 · answer #3 · answered by joyce s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, one i don't know what the hell you mean by his walk around with women for the night means. But in all honesty if a guy buys a drink for a girl its a conversation starter and initiates it the conversation with an act of kindness. Or if the guy is a prick he is just trying to get you drunk tap that and thats that.
2007-08-27 05:54:13 · answer #4 · answered by Keith 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men HOPE that you'll be with them the rest of the night if they buy you a drink but you are not obligated. If you choose to accept the drink, be polite and if you're not interested just let him know.
2007-08-27 05:53:12 · answer #5 · answered by c 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Men buy drinks as an icebreaker. Some thing buying a drink gurantees a conversation or maybe more.
2007-08-27 05:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by daddynard1010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When a man buys me a drink, it's just a drink. Thank you. That was nice. But I never feel obligated to do anything with or for him.
The only thing you owe a drink is a "Thank you" and maybe a little conversation.
Sometimes a drink is just a drink, dudes.
2007-08-27 05:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by edepillim 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't accept drinks from other guys unless:
1. I'm interested
2. I"m really thirsty and don't have any $$
If i have accepted the drink, i'll sit down and talk to the guy and thank him for it, but that doesn't mean i'm his walk around for the rest of the night.
2007-08-27 05:59:08 · answer #8 · answered by Erica S 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
If you aren't interested, don't allow him to buy you a drink. It's that simple. When you accept his offer, you are letting him know (in a tacit way) that you are interested in him.
2007-08-27 05:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by beautifulirishgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i buy a girl a drink hopefully she isnt just trying to score a drink off of me thats cheap! at least talk to me for a minute damn! ;)
2007-08-27 05:52:38 · answer #10 · answered by Balrog 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋