I have been seeing my wife for a total of 3 1/2 years. we are recently married, and she has never given me oral sex, while I have no problem giving it to her. She says she does not like it. Is there anything I can do to change her mind?
2007-08-27 05:36:52 · 23 answers · asked by Janus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TRICK HER!!!!
2007-08-27 05:39:25 · answer #1 · answered by ~Your Greek God:God Of Advice~ 3 · 3⤊ 6⤋
Good luck. Short of a brain transplant, there's a high chance you're gonna be high and dry for a good long while. I mean, you knew she didn't like it before you married her. I mean, "never" getting it BEFORE you married, would logically create the assumption that you'd "never" get it AFTER you married, either.
Your wife over time might change her attitude. But bugging her, pleading, making her feel inadequate or guilty about her choice won't help your cause. Be patient and try to find out how to introduce the activity, all the while keeping yourself aware of her comfort level mentally and physically. Trust earned over time, as with anything, can soften even the harshest attitude, creating an emotional intimacy that supercedes most biases and prejudices. Give her time to figure out if her dislike for the activity is something she can get beyond.
2007-08-27 12:45:21 · answer #2 · answered by dangerouspoet 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think its very fair that you give it to her but she wont return the favor...all I can suggest is that you make sure you are clean before sex, trust me, there is nothing that is a bigger turn off to oral sex...really talk to her and tell her to just try it for you because it would really turn you on and make sure you tell her that if she truly doesnt like it then thats okay too, maybe when she sees how much you are enjoying yourself she will get more into it and start to enjoy pleasing you.
2007-08-27 12:42:26 · answer #3 · answered by sweet girl 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, Maybe shes afraid you'll squirt in her mouth and will not like it. Try bringing that up.... Maybe shes embarrassed and don't want you to think less of her. Talk to her and ask, you will not know till you get into more detail with her as of why. From there you too can figure the rest out. Good Luck, I hope shes able to make your toes curl.....
2007-08-27 12:42:36 · answer #4 · answered by Charley 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she doesn't like it. If she thinks it's gross maybe you could start by showering and just have her kiss the general area. Let her know how it turns you on. Also, some women are taught it is "bad" if this is the case show her medical articles. Most will say it is perfectly natural. If she is afraid of the sperm or the taste just don't let it get to that point. Ask her to just to lick and kiss the shaft and around the head. Just depends on WHY she doesn't like it.
2007-08-27 12:44:39 · answer #5 · answered by dobeys2 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Have a few drinks and get her to open up about her sex life and, tell her some of your hopes and dreams about what you can do together in the bedroom . Let her know that you are open minded(if you are) about naything and see where it goes from there.
2007-08-27 12:45:18 · answer #6 · answered by Rapid Robert 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What, did you think that once you were married she would feel compelled to give it to you?
Brother, do you have things backwards.
If she didn't do it before you were married, there nothing you are going to do to change how she feels. You knew the score before you tied the knot.
Man, what were you thinking?
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2007-08-27 12:43:24 · answer #7 · answered by lunatic 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Well - try flavored oral lubes, tastes good for her and helps her take you deeper ,its a win win
2007-08-27 12:40:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait till she falls asleep and..... No just kidding just talk to her some girls just wont do it and that is that. I wish you all of the luck in the world if her mind is made up it is made up.
2007-08-27 12:45:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask her specifics (can't go into details here) and try to overcome any objections.
2007-08-27 12:44:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to a porn type store and get her some 'how to' books & movies. Hustler has such books.
My GF was married for 20 years to a guy who thought it was gross. She read the books and practices with me daily. Nothing better than a woman that swallows.
2007-08-27 12:42:01 · answer #11 · answered by T Man 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋