Are you allowed more than one baby shower? What about wedding showers if its a second marraige?

Answer 1

Two baby showers is OK in certain situations.

If your children are 5 or more years apart, I think having a second baby shower (for you second baby) is fine.

Baby items/safety features are always changing. I would not expect a second-time mother to use the same items she used over 5 years ago with her first. Products for babies change quickly. Everyday they learn new things about safety for newborns.

As for your wedding shower, again that depends on the timing.

If you get re-married within 10 years of your first marriage. Then I would say, it's not allowed. Anything after 10, might be OK. But, on a smaller scale.

Answer 2

Of course if your friends want to honor the second or even third baby I think that is fine.The second and third babies are not less just because they were not first. I don't see anything wrong with more than one baby shower. The only "old etiquette" thing I think is still in effect is that family does not give the shower; a close friend usually volunteers to give the shower and the family members (such as cousins, sisters, etc. can help).

I just realized that you may not have meant a second shower for a second baby; you may have meant more than one baby shower for the same baby. This is correct. Many people have had a "work shower," "church shower," friend's shower," this is perfectly fine. You don't invite the same people to each shower.

I don't really think a second bridal shower is appropriate. A bachelorette party is modern and fun and it is completely acceptable for a second wedding.

Answer 3

When I had my first baby, my friends from work threw a shower for me, inviting my work friends. Someone from church gave me a shower for church members to attend. A third friend gave me a shower for close family and friends. I had three showers and didn't have any guilt or issues with it, because none of the people were invited to more than one. Having one huge shower with everyone would have been inappropriate in my situation.

When I had my second baby, a friend did have a shower for me, but we kept it to close friends and family. The first baby was a girl and the second was a boy, so I appreciated the shower very much. My third and fourth children did not get baby showers.

So, yes, having two baby showers is more than acceptable.

A second marriage wedding shower seems inappropriate to me, but I guess the situation and the time since the last marriage would help answer your question.

~Kyanna

Answer 4

I think yes it would be tacky! And being a bride and pregnant, even though my baby is not due until 7 months after my wedding I would hate if someone did a joint party for me! First off the wedding is suppose to be about them! and the shower is for them and what they need to start their lives together. And a baby shower is all about the baby! And the shower is what they need to start their family together. Just do a small shower at the house for either one and do something bigger for the other. Have her family and friends cook a dish and bring it for the shower at your house, and you would only have to buy decorations. Then for the other shower you could pay for it all and go all out! I would much rather have someone do that for me than throw a joint shower. And for all of those saying its tacky to have a baby before your married, why don't you wait and see what your kids, or best friend, or family does/has done before you criticize others.

Answer 5

Sure, why not? Showers are usually given by friends or family, so if more than one person wants to give you a shower why not? I, however, wouldn't invite the same people to the same shower or if you do, tell them a gift isn't expected since they will already have given a gift. Nothing wrong with a shower for a second wedding. I didn't have a shower for my wedding or either one of my children. But I'm thankful for what I have. Good luck. 2D

Answer 6

More than one baby shower for the same pregnancy - absolutely fine. You may have one thrown by family, and maybe another one at work from your co-workers. I don't think another baby shower for another pregnancy is ok, if you've already had one for your first baby.

A wedding shower for a second marriage - I don't think so.

Answer 7

As for baby showers, A friend of mine had 2. I think it is appropriate if the following is true. It's a different gender, and there is an age gap. Say you have a 10 year old boy, and are pregnant with a baby girl. Seems appropriate!

Answer 8

i know someone who had a second baby shower. her mother didn't want her to have another one because she thought it was tacky. so my friend had it with one of her friends.

I can see having another one if your first one was a boy and second was a girl or vice versa. Or if it was some time between babies and you might not have the items anymore.

As for another wedding shower, wouldn't you have the items anyways? Why need more? Just have people bring items to the wedding reception itself. You can have more than one shower on the first wedding, for different sides of the family, one for yours and one for his if you are from two different places and would be a hassle for travel.

Answer 9

I think if there is three or more years between baby showers, then I think it is alright. I have 4 and have had two showers. There was 6 years between baby2 and 3.
I think in case of divorce that a bridal luncheon without gifts is recomended, but in the case of a widow being remarried that it is acceptable.

Answer 10

You mean by the baby-shower police?

Of course, you can have more than one shower! Sometimes people don't (it's a little trickier figuring out what gift a person might need), but if your friends and family want to throw you a party, I wouldn't say no.