I went out with freinds and got a little too tipsy.. i missed my bf's phone call and i missed it again in the morning... Well by the time i came to my senses, it was 830 am. I was rushing home and i decided to call him asap. well i lied to him and said i was at home... He said that he didnt see my car when he passed by! I WAS CAUGHT IN A LIE! I immediately said "look i'm sorry i lied, i just didnt want you to get upset becuz i was too tipsy.. i'm coming back from my gf house..." OOH he understandlby didnt believe me... and said he doesnt want to be with a liar. .. i know i lied: i tried to avoid him getting upset over nothing... but it backfired. He broke up with me...i'm hurt. I kno i did wrong.. but i somehow feel he is using this situation as an excuse? Not only that but he is totally out of character 2 come & see if my car is there...as far as the past... i have lied about going out cuz he gets upset...,.(all the time) I'm 22 i wanna hang wit friends sometimes. i need some help.
2007-08-27 05:01:32 · 10 answers · asked by Abstract Expression 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did let him know what i was going out with my freinds that nite... I just didnt know where we were going so didnt give any details...
2007-08-27 05:20:26 · update #1
If you ask me, he could be lying or doing something bad behind YOUR back, and using this as a way to take the heat off him, try not to worry, if he really cares about you he will understand you had too much to drink and get back together with you, if you have him!
2007-08-27 05:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is probably best if things remain as they are. Obviously you are not ready to be in a relationship.
When you have grown up a bit more, and start another relationship, keep in mind. Relationships are built on honesty, trust, communication, and respect. Lying in order to do as you like and then lying again in order to cover up the first lie does not fall into any of these.
I personally think your ex-boyfriend made a very wise choice.
2007-08-27 12:18:23 · answer #2 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is driving by your house to see if you are home, that worries me! I would not want that kind of immaturity in a guy I was seeing! sounds like he was insecure to begin with, maybe it's a good thing your not together any more. It's normal to want to spend time with your friends, it's a little thing called independence! It is also a healthy thing to have! I think it was wrong of you to lie, you obviously feel bad about it. But I also think you can do better than him. Best wishes!
2007-08-27 12:08:12 · answer #3 · answered by j c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say he is not the best guy for you. You should be able to enjoy going out with friends and it not be an issue. It is understandable and inevitable that this relationship would have to end. You should not have to lie about what you are doing and where you are going if it is a good relationship. Keep that in mind in the future.
2007-08-27 12:10:45 · answer #4 · answered by Adreamed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to be a downer, but i think that this turn out is prob. better for you, i mean you dont want to be with a person who is gonna get mad at you every tiem you wanna go and have some fun with your friends, that just isnt fair, your freinds were your friends before he came around ( i assume) and so he has no right to get mad at you for wanting to hang out with ppl who have been around for you much longer then he has been around for you.
also it does sound like he was using it as an excuse. studies show that when ppl ar ethinking of breaking up with their partner, they will make huge deals out of nothing in an attempt to get the other to break up with them first. (sorry if none of that helped)
but i do honestly think that you are better off without him
2007-08-27 12:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree you should not have lied to him. But in your favour you should not be in a relationship where you feel like you have lie about going out with girlfriends. You have a right to friends of your own and he should trust you.
My gf goes out with her friends sometimes and I dont have a problem with it, just like I go out with my guy mates.
I think you are probably better out of this relationship anyway and this could be a blessing in disguise.
2007-08-27 12:09:24 · answer #6 · answered by regaloid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honesty is always the best idea, and if ur bf cares enough and wants to make it work he should understand u made a mistake, maybe since he does get so upset he mite not b the guy thats right for u
2007-08-27 12:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by Ericka C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone who stops you from hanging out w/ friends, you shouldn't be dating...BUT, if those friends are bad for you or you hang out w/ them doing bad things (drinking can lead to cheating, not saying w/ you, but it can), then it's understandable he doesn't like u hanging out w/ them that much...for him to "pass by your house" that's just creepy! so honestly, after that i wouldn't fret over him, b/c that sounds like he cold be stalkerish, so just let him go and move on, and go have fun w/ your g/fs and not have to worry a/b s/o else while you have fun
2007-08-27 12:09:14 · answer #8 · answered by VWBeetleBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he gave you great gift, he left you.
you will meet a man who will let you get drunk with girlfriends and you will realize how bad he was.
lying is wrong, but any man who checks up on you when he knows you are out with the girls, then checks for your car, is nuts.
he knows you were with another guy. in his head, he will abuse you for being with that guy.
move on.
2007-08-27 12:10:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jr. is angry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not worth to be in a relationship that you can't be yourself. If you are always lying than maybe that should tell you something is wrong.
2007-08-27 12:09:31 · answer #10 · answered by YssiK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋