he won't admit it, but i know he doens't like having me around unless we are having sex. i really think that is all he likes me for. I feel like he is always holding his breathe around me. he's liek not "emotionally there" for me.
is it time to break up?
2007-08-27 04:51:45 · 40 answers · asked by pookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it is. get out of this relationship. he is only using u as a sleeping partner, nothing else. but do talk it out with him before making tht decision. tell him how you feel and hear his part of the respond.
2007-08-27 04:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by ehsaas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you haven't mentioned the, "L" word, I would think that the two of you have found a new and exciting toy, (sex), that takes you away from the everyday doldrums and transports you to " A whole new world." Don't become a sex addict and since you are the most aware that there is something missing, you have to take the initiative and make a break! Run! get your intellect on and quit succumbing to the "temptation of the flesh". (sorry if I sound a little "preachy" there, but, it kinda fits.) Don't fall into that trap that is very apparent to you now. Good luck and do the right thing.
2007-08-27 05:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop spending every waking minute with him and learn to have some independence.
That's the difference between an immature and mature relationship--you don't have to spend 100% of your time with him to feel important.
It sounds like you two need to talk about your relationship. Together.
Also--what are you expecting from him? Write it down and then write why it is important to you. How long you have been dating will determine really what to expect from him physically and emotionally.
If you've been dating less than a year, expecting him to be there for everything and be your shoulder to cry on and always there when you need him is fine but unrealistic. He shouldn't take the place of your best friend. I know with my husband I can't just whine constantly and expect him not to be upset at some points. Learn to lean on friends too.
2007-08-27 04:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by FaZizzle 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
When i see myself spending all of my time with my boyfriend ill take a little break. I will go a week without calling him just to see if he'll call me. If you feel your boyfriend is using you for sex nine times out of ten he is. A woman's instinct is ALWAYS right!!! What you need to do is let your boyfriend have space. Give him time to his self to miss you then he might realize i feel different when shes not around. You are spending all of your time with him it sounds to me like your neglecting your friends for a man. Hang out with your friends and if they know your boyfriend ask then how they feel about him. Dont let them in on your business but see things from their perspective. If you dont get from under him you might be handicapping the relationship instead of helping it. I dont know you but that doesn't mean i want to see you get hurt because if anyone knows how triphlin men are its me. Keep your head up cause your body is to precious to be letting a guy use you at his convenience.
2007-08-27 05:02:20 · answer #4 · answered by meka g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't wait to get rid of you after sex, then that is an awful feeling to have hanging around you. Then there is that 3 day absence while he builds up desire again and starts being nice to you, then sex, then the disappearing act. Get someone who enjoys your company as much as you enjoy his. This relationship is not doiing your self-esteem very much good. He might have a low libido and can only do sex when he wants it and he may be afraid you might initiate it if he was around too much and he might not be able to cope. He could be gay, or a woman-hater.
2007-08-27 05:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by wemblania 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should spend less time with him. Go out with your girlfriends or something. If that doesn't make him seem happier when you two are together, then maybe it is time to break up. Also, he might be able to sense that you think something is wrong and that only escalates the problem. Those are just some things to consider, but it really depends on what you are willing to try before breaking up. Maybe it's not worth it anymore.
2007-08-27 04:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by Alli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, if i were you, i'd definatly give him a bit of space. nevermind him being 'emotionally vacant', think how stifeling and difficult it would be 2 hav sum1 who wanted to spend every waking moment with you. it cant be doing you any good either, your probably losing your friends a bit. if i were you, i'd starts spending more time with your friends, it will do you and your relationship good. also, i know this sounds really cold and calculating, but if your relationship is on the rocks, you need your friends, they might not take you back if you ditched them for your boy friend, and then came bake only after you split up. you'll have a better chance if you go back b4 u break up. also, if you see more of your friends the relationship wil go a lot better, ppl need ther space, it wud b 2 intence if u spent like ALL ur time with eachother, no wonder he wasnt talkin about how he felt, he was probably runing out of things 2 say. maybe thats why he seemed only interested in sex conversation dries up LONG b4 sex dus.
2007-08-27 05:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by bojanglestothemax 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you feel like you're being used definitely move on. He doesn't deserve to have you then. No one should be used just for that. If he can't be there for you emotionally, then you have no need for him. A boyfriend should be someone who can be physically and emotionally there for you. The whole point of relationships is to find that someone that you can always turn to for either a hug or advice. If you feel in your heart and your intuition is telling you to move on, chances are it's time to move on then.
2007-08-27 04:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by lauren s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most people will tell you to dump him...but i am realistic...you need to sit down and tell him exactly whats on your mind. if he doesnt know he cant work on it right? how long have you been together? how long have you been having sex? and how old are you both? these questions may help people to help you out. i myself have been married for 8 years but i have 4 best friends that are males and i seem to know alot about the male perspective on sex etc...lol....alot of marragies-relationships end because they think that the person doesnt love them anymore, because that initial feeling you get when the relationship is new isnt there...they mistake that for not being " in love", but actually its just a new kind of love...and a respect that grows between you both...analayze these things and talk with him about them....i hope everything works out for you sweetie...and remember..." what is meant to be will always find a way"!!!!!
2007-08-27 05:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by justme26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to speak to him, all men love sex and want it all the time. Are you sure you're not holding your breath around him? Remember- absence makes the heart grow fonder, make yourself 'busy' eslewhere-with a good friend or spend time with your family- particually on the day when you usually see each other. May give him a jolt he needs.
2007-08-27 05:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by D P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not going to be easy but move on. You're not feeling that way for no reason. You deserve someone who makes you feel like you're his everything. Trust me they're out there. He's not one of them. We've all been there with that one as*hole that has broken our hearts..most of us for too long. Have more respect for your self...don't let him bring down your self confidence...and question yourself, "whats wrong with me"? Because it's not you. It's him. Now don't waist your life with this Prick, you have better things to do with your time and better people to meet. Don't have sex with someone who doesn't appreciate you. What is he giving you? Nothing you want. So don't give him what he wants. Share that with only guys who really care for you let a guy work for that kind of thing. I'm talking from experience, you are more of a prize than you know. Good-Luck hun! I hope you don't waist years of your life the way I did trying to change yourself for this guy.
-Alli-
2007-08-27 05:08:04 · answer #11 · answered by AlliK 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋