my husband found out that he has a kid
the lady is asking for child support but he doesnt want anything to do with her or the baby he says that he told her to have an abortion wich she had 2 before, cuase he didn'd love her (it whas just sex) but he thinks she got pregnant on perpouse because she told her that "what about if she got pregnant"?, he told her from the begining that he didnt wanted nothind seriouse just sex and she agree but when he told her that she found someone that he really loved (me) and that he doesnt wanted to see her anymore cause he wanted to be committed to me she got mad!!!! NOW HE DOESNT WANT TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT WHAT DO YOU SUDJUEST?
2007-08-27 04:11:31 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
You: learn how to spell
Husband: pay child support and then die
2007-08-27 04:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 1⤋
Okay, so your man can petition for a paternity test to make sure the child is in fact his, other than that if he doesn't want to shell out money, don't waste it on the attorney, since he's going to have to pay, and he should. Now I can about imagine the string of obscenities that came from your mouth about the other woman and her situation. He's YOUR man and SHE want him, and THAT"S why she did this~ about right? Well duh she was going to be mad, he was using her! but if she wanted him she would've pulled the baby card while she was pregnant BEFORE you were married. your man was being a man-pig and using her for sex. he might have broke her heart, but that's not the point here. the point is that he wanted to get his willy wet so bad that he created another human being, and she should not be the only one responsible for that child. So tell your man to stop being a man-pig and pay up because it will save him the court costs and its the right thing to do. How would you feel if he got you pregnant and then went and decided he loved someone else, and told you to go get an abortion? No, he'll pay. even if he doesn't have the conscience to do it on his own, the courts will order it. sorry.
2007-08-27 04:37:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah L. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, get a DNA test. If he is the father weather he wanted it or not, he was not safe and it happen. He is not immune to child support because he did not have feelings for the women. Think about the child, he has to do the correct thing. If he is found to be the father the courts will mandate him for child support. There is no way getting around that, in less dogging the orders and then he end up with interest and debt. Unpaid child support can cause leans on anything own and loosing the license. Start with finding if he really is the father.
2007-08-27 04:18:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Should my husband get an attorny if he doest want to pay child support?
2014-12-15 23:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be a man and pay child support!
Sex is never just sex, and if he did not want to be with her then he should have used protaction. It is not the childs fault. This isn't jr high, where you can walk in and out of relationships, it is real life and he created a life, so time to step up.
Only way for him not to pay child support would be if he terminated his parental rights, but I also suggest that he have a court ordered paternity test done first to be sure that the child is his. That might solve all your problems right there.
2007-08-27 04:20:12 · answer #5 · answered by B4Me 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the child is his, no matter if he wants to pay child support or not, he HAS to pay child support. Is it the kid's fault that this woman got pregnant? No. Therefore, don't punish the child who had no control over his/her birth. If anything, insist the child support payments go into a trust fund to help pay for the child's education and nothing else. Then, the ex can't spend the money as she pleases.
Get a laywer either way though.
2007-08-27 04:18:42 · answer #6 · answered by Meg 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u said shes had abortions before so why didn't your hubby use protection? why would you want to be with a guy that cant be a man? a man is someone that take responsibility for his action. he made a child he could of used rubbers but didn't. no he can be a dead beat until she takes his poor excuse for man butt to court and they make him pay past and future child support. now all that aside how do you feel knowing theres a child out there thats fatherless because your husband wont step up to the plate and be a man
2007-08-27 04:20:47 · answer #7 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he needs a lawyer. But it will be to keep from getting taken to the cleaners if the child is his. If it is, he has no choice but to pay up. Plus some if the courts give her back support. Even signing over rights is no guarantee to keep from paying. Also any tax refunds or any other moneys like lottery winnings can be garnished. The damage is done and there is no going back, he either pays up or ends up possibly in jail. Also not paying could cause him to loose drivers license or any professional license he has. I also would think twice before having children with him cause you could end up in the same boat one day.
2007-08-27 04:46:33 · answer #8 · answered by SouthernRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is what's known as a dirt-bag. If he doesn't want children, he needs to start using condoms. He TOLD her to have an abortion? That suggests he's admitting he knows the child is his. If he didn't love her, he shouldn't have been 'dippin' into her. People don't get pregnant 'on purpose' especially when the sperm donor's an @sshole. Why wouldn't she get mad? How old are you?
It's "too bad, so sad" but he played, now he pays - that's the law and, if I were you, I'd keep him on a very short leash....
2007-08-27 04:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
well for the sake of the child i would hope he would want to get involved in his or her life. but if he honestly wants nothing to do with the child or the mother he can sign over rights to the child. that basically means he can not ever have custody of the child and i don't think the child will be able to contact him if they choose to. i hate to be harsh but if he didn't want to pay child support he should have been a bit more responsible and not had sex with some random women he didn't care about. if he doesn't want to sign over rights he can not just not pay child support. even if he gets joint custody he still may have to pay something to the mother.
2007-08-27 04:18:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesn't even have to go to court if she applies for child support - she will get it ...
he needs an attourney to minimize the affect this has on him and you, has a paternity test been done??
I feel bad for your position, however, if he did not want a child, there are precautions he could have taken ... it was a poor decision on his part and I am afraid he will have to be responsible for that decision, now ...
I'm sorry and I hope the attourney can help some ...
2007-08-27 04:22:09 · answer #11 · answered by slinkies 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋