Have I Done the right thing.....????

Question

I have returned all the money (infact Double amount) of what she helped me when i was in search of job because she was from a well off family but i'm from a middle class family. She rejected me because I was unemployed. So I have returned double amount of what she helped with........Have I done the right thing.....?????

Answer 1

That's for you to decide. I see no need to have felt obligated to have returned more than the amount borrowed, plus a reasonable interest rate.

Answer 2

seems u only gave her back double money to prove u make it now . I dont blame her for rejecting u , no objective girl would like to marry an unemployed person , would u marry ur daughter to an unemployed person ? No right ?? had u only returned her exact loan with a genuine thank you ( coz she did help u in ur time of need ) that would have made u a better person among the two.

Answer 3

I'm not sure who "she" is. But I would say paying the amount she loaned you plus a reasonable amount equal to what interest would have been had you borrowed it elsewhere is perfectly respectable. I believe by paying back twice the amount (if we are talking a sum of money larger than a few hundred) is an attempt to prove your worth to her. That is unnecessary. If she is a person who only values superficial and material things - she isn't worth your time. To answer your question, you have gone well beyond the right thing.

Answer 4

You a sweetheart....but you really only should have given her back what you owed her. Why you ask? You weren't good enough of a person for her to be around when you were out of work.
Just kinda wondering something. After you paid back twice as much as you should have what kind of a response did you get from her? Anyway, not that this is a contest or anything, but you have shown her 2 things. One you treat people much better than she does and second she's not a person I'd like to be stuck with when the ship started sinking, she'd bail on your a*s in a second.

Answer 5

I don't think I would have given back double the amount, but I understand why you did. I just hope you didn't do it in order to win her back. If she rejected you because you were unemployed, she obviously didn't care about you "for better or worse" and you should find someone who will.

Answer 6

Yes, you have in fact that was an honorable thing to do as a man. You see there is more to just being a man and going around saying it. Your actions say a great deal, no doubt it probably was not the best feeling for you because you were judged based on your not having employment. But do not allow that to hinder you from growing into someone who has integrity as it sounds like you have.
Stay focused now.

Answer 7

You did beyond the right thing.
You should have only given the loan amount back. I'm glad you could get a loan to tide you over.
You are now employed and doing fine... congratulations.
Sounds like she will always hold your class origin against you. You can't make this woman happy. Move on.

Answer 8

I guess. I don't see the point in returning double. The money and perhaps a dinner or a gift basket etc would have done the job.

Answer 9

No. You haven't proven any point, you've only short changed yourself. Move on. Forget about her and the money, it obviously wasn't right. Do what you can to get past it and not be bitter. These things never come out even.

Answer 10

So your trying to buy back her love. Or you're trying to prove a point. Honestly, sounds like a waste of money either way. Pouring money into a shallow people does not build depth.