I've been training at a job where only one other employee-- a sweet 87 year old lady--- was working. She passed away about a week ago (It's been very hard to deal with) and we've had a purple bow on the door of the business. How long should I wait before I take it down? I don't want to seem disrespectful of her memory, especially since her family frequently passes by or comes in. She ran this store for over ten years; it was her life. Help would be much appreciated.
2007-08-27 03:33:01 · 8 answers · asked by piratewench 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
One to three months on the door would be appropriate, unless you have the kind of business that people frequent often. One of the ideas behind the bow is to let the customers know what happened, so if your 'regular' customers come in on a weekly basis, say, then they all should have had the opportunity to see the bow within a month or so. If, on the other hand, they come in less frequently, then consider leaving it on longer (maybe 6 months).
When you're ready to take the bow off the door, consider putting it somewhere in the store. Is there a place that especially reminds you of her? Her desk? Her register? A particular area she particularly liked to spend her time? Putting the bow on the wall near there, with a picture of her below it, would be appropriate. If you choose to do that, leaving it there for a year after her death would be fine.
~Kyanna
2007-08-27 04:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Kyanna S 4 · 29⤊ 1⤋
Aww I am sorry your lost your co-worker. I drove an 84 year old lady to church and I just lost her. She died of pneumonia.
I would leave the bow on the door a month at least. You can even leave it longer if you want. When it gets tacky looking you will need to take it down though.
2007-08-27 06:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Since she was a part of the business for so long, I think it would be respectful to leave it up for one month. That gives everyone the opportunity that might just come by on a monthly basis to see it.
What might be really nice is to frame a photo of her and put it somewhere that people can see it with
her name
1920- 2007
In Grateful Memory
- the words could be put on the frame, a little plaque, or just a typed piece of paper put over the bottom of the photo. If you do that - as soon as you put it up you could take the purple bow down.
2007-08-27 04:11:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 0⤋
Don't call her. She may be too grief-stricken to talk or may not want to or she could have a house full of people. Calling her just gives her another thing to deal with when she is overwhelmed. Send some flowers to her home or stop by her house with some food. At the very least, send her a note expressing your sympathy.
2016-05-19 01:13:28 · answer #4 · answered by hildegard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will that's up to you how long it stays up.But its about 4 weeks after its called the months mind.But if its a good friend 6 weeks.Everthing moves on and it sounds hard but you must move on with life.Good luck
2007-08-27 04:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
A month.
2007-08-27 03:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should just keep the bow on the door. Yeah, leave it on.
At least leave it for a while longer.
My condolences.
2007-08-27 03:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by peace turtle 4 · 5⤊ 6⤋
i find a nice card says it all, i know sometimes im at lost for words, hope this helps
2007-08-27 03:43:25 · answer #8 · answered by LINDA C 2 · 2⤊ 11⤋