I dont know how this works...I have only been w/ one guy seriosuly,my whole life, before my fiance I am with now... Me and that other guy waited 2 and 1/2 years to have sex, and he was my first. we did it 2 times. i was 18 then.I am now 21 and I am happier than ever,and my fiance is 23. He has been with 3 other people, had sex with them each about 5 or 6 times a piece he said, but I am just so hurt, and I think its so unfair he doesnt have to worry about a sexual past w/ me and worry about me thinkin about it or comparing him to past men. i know he hasnt "done" anything to me, but his past has hurt me. i dont know how to handle it, i dont want to be compared. yes, they had bigger boobs, yes, they had brown hair, i have blonde.they had different qualities than i do.he says i am gorgeous,&that they were trash all the time.i just dont want him to ever miss anything, mainly physically, that any of them have that i dont now?i just want to feel special sexually w/ him, and i dont b/c of them
2007-08-27 03:24:04 · 4 answers · asked by greeneyes211 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have the major female desease... you "Think To Much"
You are the one in the relationship right now.
The only thing on your mind should be "How to please this guy ,Right Now"
If he was still interested in the previous ones, he would be with them, not you.
If you will quit asking about them he will forget all about them, that's the way guys work...
2007-08-27 03:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sophie B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making this a big problem. If you don't build a bridge and get over it, your insecurity is gonna kill yopur relationship. No one can convince you that your beautiful and loved, not your boyfriend, fiance, or husband.
Not always but alot of times feeling of insecurity and not measuring up comes from a lack of affirmation of beauty from the father.
If your hurt by his past, then this is your issue. It's not fair to make him feel like he did something wrong when he did not know you.
You need to get real about why this bothers you and deal with it, or learn to let it go and get over it.
2007-08-27 10:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by ~MB~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short and simple: The past is the past. Everyone has a history and the sooner you learn that you can't change that with anyone the better off you'll be.
2007-08-27 10:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by whidbilly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jeesh....you gotta get over it....just think...the older you get the more partners you and a new partner will have....imagine ...someone who has been with 10+
2007-08-27 10:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋