Okay, ever since we have been together he has told me that I am nothing less than the most gorgeous thing to him. We love each other more than anything, and are now engaged. He loves me for who I am. I know this might sound stupid, but do guys lie about saying stuff like " oh , your boobs are perfect" or " your so and so " or your so amazing in bed..." i mean no matter how much a man loves a woman, wife or g/f, do they lie to their woman to make them feel good, or for any other reasons? i want to know 100% that he means everything he says... i mean if he says " your boobs are perfect" i want it to be the truth about the size/shape and all!and if he says " your sexy" i want it to be the truth done to the smallest detail! no lies? im not a insecure PERSON! i just wanted to know if men do this....
2007-08-27 03:08:14 · 21 answers · asked by greeneyes211 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some guys do, but if he truly loves you then to him you are perfect. Just like I love my girlfriend and think everything on her is perfect. But I may not think your perfect. you know? Thats why they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
2007-08-27 03:15:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The answer to the first question is yes, many men make false compliments for many reasons: to get in a woman's pants, or to make her happy, or to make her feel loved, or to shut her up, or for many other reasons.
Instead of wondering whether or not his answers are 100% true, you should be wondering about WHY he says what he says. If he truly loves you, does it matter? If he says, "Your boobs are perfect", you could question it, but perfect compared to what? You know you're not perfect - no one is. Would you rather hear , "You boobs are pretty good, well, except that they aren't exactly the same size, and they are a little big for my tastes, and I'm not a big fan of the mole on the left one, and I get the impression from your mom that you'll have to stick them in your socks when you are old." It might be perfectly honest, but who wants to hear that? If you know he cares enough about you to tell you you are perfect, why do you care if it's 100% true?
Most women don't want to know the truth. In fact, "truth" to them has a different meaning than it does for men, because it tends to vary depending on the emotional state of the woman. She could easily say "I wish I had never met you!" and mean every word of it - AT THE TIME. That feeling could change in five minutes.
If you truly want to know the truth, stop listening to what he says, and look at what he does. That is where the truth lies. Be careful though, because sometimes the truth is hard to take.....
2007-08-27 10:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by LT Dan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this, how many times have you lied about something to him- big or small? When we love someone we want them to feel secure and happy, and sometimes its necessary to bend the truth a bit. It sounds like you really question him about lots of things and down to the smallest detail. You cant honestly expect to be perfect in every single way though. And then what is he supposed to say? He can't say no, and hurt your feelings, because he loves you. There is a difference between being "perfect" and being "perfect for him." Trust that he loves you and everything about you but give the guy a break. Giving him the 3rd degree about all of your characteristics will eventually force him into little white lies, and if you don't want that then you have to stop asking.
2007-08-27 10:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kristi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes guys lie. Us women do also. You have to know when he tells you all those nice things yes he does mean them. He asked you to marry him. Duh. That should say something. He might tell you your boobs are perfect but they might not really be. What's the big deal. Have trust issues do ya??? You have to know in your heart he does love you. That's like if a chick was over weight. She's gonna ask her man "honey do I look fat in this dress?" Now someone else might have told her yes. But the man she loves n who loves her isn't gonna say that. Out of love and respect. Things like that happen ALOT. Lil white lies here n there no biggie. Stop stressting just know he loves u and ur marrying him. End of story. Live happy ever after.
2007-08-27 10:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Kimberly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer? Yes.
Long answer is that there are many really good reasons to lie about these types of things. Like for example if he wants to make you feel really special.
Think about it... He just isn't going to say something like 'your boobs are really average, and you could stand to lose a few pounds." What would be the point?
2007-08-27 10:18:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like maybe you do have a bit of insecurity just like we all do! If you were really secure, you would not need his opinion as to whether or not your boobs or anything else on you were perfect, you would know it already! We all need reassurance sometimes, but Why do you have to know if he is lying? This indicates to me that you either ARE insecure about the way you look, or you do not trust him enough to believe that he loves you the way you are. In either case you need to relax & rectify it!
It does not mater what "all guys" do-only what this one you are engaged to does. Focus on that and building your relationship instead of worrying if he is only trying to make you feel good. talk with him about it if you want to but please relax and start looking at yourself the way he sees you.
Hope this helps. Peace and Good Luck!
2007-08-27 10:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by BodyLogique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes we do for many reasons and just to confuse you completely we also mean it sometimes as well! We may do it to make you feel good, because we believe it to be true, to avoid an argument, to end a particular conversation and change the subject and most of all because we know you like to hear these things
2007-08-27 10:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by jonnyneedshelp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is telling you these things, he is speaking to you from his point of view. He is not speaking for the rest of the world and he really has no reason to lie about his feelings. You say that you are not insecure, but you sound somewhat insecure.
2007-08-27 10:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by fangtaiyang 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok from a guys perspective not sucking up or anything!! yes guys do sometimes lie about things like that because we dont want to hurt your feelings or we really do like you the way you are!!! we also lie because if we said the opposite such as your boobs are to small or big it would make you feel like **** and we dont want to hurt someone we like or love!
2007-08-27 10:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by redneck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur engaged!!ok...so d thing is he likes what he has...n he finds u whatever he says...it may not be that u r the most beautiful girl in d world..but the thing is he wants 2 make u feel like that...so what is d prob...after all beauty is a matter of opinion....gypsies used to find FAT...means really fat women what we call...hot...so there u go...hope it helps...n u guys try n BE happy
2007-08-27 10:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by kill_all_flies 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋