My boyfriend told me he has cheated on me but it was a mistake. That he was drunk and it didn't mean anything.. I don't know what to do.. I love him so much.. I can't believe he did it..
2007-08-27 02:10:55 · 31 answers · asked by Saffron 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should talk to him about it.. He was honest he didn't have to tell you.. But if you think you can't cope with that. Than I suggest move on because hes destroyed the trust you have. It could take forever for it to come back and if it does it will never be the same again.. It will always be there. You'll always wonder what hes doing & if he'll do it again. So if you forgive him you have to move on from it and never mention it again but if you can't do that then i suggest you move on. Theres plenty of other fish in the sea.
2007-08-27 02:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Thats a tough one, i know that you love him but ask your self if you will ever be able to trust him again. If the answer is no you should end the relationship as there is no point in being with someone you dont trust! But if you do believe it was a mistake and that he would not do it sober then try to forgive him. He obviously cares for you as he has come clean and is obviously feeling guilty. So just do what you thinks best. I can only give you advice in the end the decision has to come from you no one else.
2007-08-27 09:18:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear that, sweetie. No-one should have to suffer that. You have given maybe years of your life to this person and this is how they repay you?!
Harsh reality time - I know you love him but if he loved you in the same way, he would not have cheated on you. He obviously has no respect for himself or you. At the end of the day, if he knows you'll take him back the first time, what's to say he won't do it again? If he was really THAT drunk, he wouldn't even have been able to get it up.
I think you should go your seperate ways...
All the best for the future, sweetie xxxx
2007-08-27 09:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever feels right. It may be hard to dump him if you love him but you will get over it in time. If you stay with him you cannot keep bringing up this incident, you have to put it behind you. Being drunk is no excuse and he should be very ashamed of himself, only you can know the right thing to do. Dont allow him to treat you like this. Have a long chat with him, tell him your worries then have a long think before making the final decision.
2007-08-27 09:17:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am sorry but he didn respect you be telling you... being drunk is not an excuse..i know that this is not what u want to hear but its the truth, what if he does it again and says that he was drunk??? will you forgive him every time? I'll tell u something: you will be hurt for very long and the pain will never heal if u stay with him..but if you leave it would heal a lot faster.
2007-08-27 09:16:47 · answer #5 · answered by ஐ♥P u S s y CaT♥ஐ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Getting drunk is not an excuse, however, life happens. If he has never done this before, I think you should at least give him the opportunity to prove that he cares about you and is committed. Everyone messes up at some point or another. It will take time to trust him again but you should at least give it a try if you care about him so much.
2007-08-27 09:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lucy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thats up to you. Some people are very forgiving. Cheating is something I dont accept. You can steal from me, beat me, and lie to me, but NEVER cheat on me. I would not be willing to forgive that. However a lot of women do and thier men never do it again and it really was a mistake.
By the way I would NEVER let a guy hit me either! LOL!
Good Luck sweetie and just follow your heart! Big Hugs from NC! I know your little heart is hurting!
2007-08-27 09:15:00 · answer #7 · answered by A little Southern Comfort 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well...lets look at the facts...He's man enough to tell you this...which I think is really cool.
He could've just kept it a secret, but he didn't. In my books, that means that he cares about you and probably didnt mean it.
Plus he was drunk...You have to know whether he's sincere or not...and whether if he means what he is saying....I think you should give him a second chance being that he had the courage and feelings to tell u...
Good Luck doll
2007-08-27 09:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by LadyLucious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a tricky one for you hun - no matter how much he tells you that it was a mistake and it'll never happen again etc etc - hes broken your trust and Im telling you now, as a person whose now ex boyfriend cheated on her, you will NEVER forget the betrayal and you will forever be wondering who hes with or what hes doing when hes out without you.
If you think you an live a life like that then stick it out, but I found it too hard after a year of trying to stay with my ex, and ended up dumping him - therefore wasting a year of my life trying to fix something that I just couldnt.
Think long and hard about it.
xx
2007-08-27 09:16:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is hard. I believe in second chances and forgiveness but if you are going to be that good of a person he needs to make sure he knows the gravity of the situation and by all rights, you could dump his sorry butt.
2007-08-27 09:14:37 · answer #10 · answered by One Voice In The Day Rings True 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋