Why is he being mean to me?

Question

I have/had a crush on a guy at work. The thing is we used be close friends and I started liking him as more than a friend. I got the since that he liked me too since he always flirted with me and cracked jokes, etc. But, he has a gf in the Phillipines whom he is engaged to since I helped him get the ring for her. He only gets to go back there once every 2 years and I think we started experiencing sexual tension since we had a convo about doing it. I called him a dog since I thought he was comin on to me but then he denied he was serious bout it and said he was kidding. Iwrote a letter apologizing to him but then he started ignoring me. He said I should focus on someone else and it's best that we no longer be friends since I was too weird & obsessive. I emailed him saying that we were both wrong for talking about sex, he blamed me for being weird. i got mad and told him not to b my friend. He told me not email/talk 2 him unless work relatd. I'm ignoring him and he's ignoring me.

Answer 1

He made it clear that he doesn't want to be friends so leave it alone. It doesn't seem like he's someone worth being friends with anyways. Move on. Friends come and go.

Answer 2

This man is going through some rough times. Once every two years? Give him a break. Give it some time because he is thinking out of site out of mind. He doesn't want to cheat so he figures if you're not around then the temptation will not be there. If you let him chill then he will either come around or not. Either way if you two did hook up he will always hold it against you.

Answer 3

Thats the best end result for both of u, just keep it professional, forget about him he's engaged, and since u started liking him as more than just a friend, u can never go back to being "just friends"

Answer 4

Most often the conversations will turn to a not so nice tone after a need has been met. your former friend has done this to push you away until he needs your help or advice again. he knows how to charm a service from you. you are not alone , this kind of business negotiations are often sexual lures by nature.either sex or service. The result is often painful because of mixed motives.

Answer 5

"I called him a dog since I thought he was comin on to me"

"i got mad and told him not to b my friend." I'm ignoring him and he's ignoring me.
Thats most likely the reason hes angry with u.

long distance relationships are hard to manage. I think this guy friend of yours is seeking a "fling" to keep him company.

Answer 6

You were both wrong. You shouldn't be flirting with him, he's getting married! It doesn't matter that he only sees her once every two years. He shouldn't be flirting with you either though. It's not entirely his fault, so stop blaming him. You can try to be friends, but definately don't take it any further than that.

To answer your question, he's being mean to you because you're butting into his relationship. Good luck, I hope this helps.

nicole

Answer 7

Sounds like the ideal solution to me, why not leave it at that?

There's 6 billion people on this planet - lots of prospective friends out there.

Answer 8

Sounds like you explained the whole problem yourself. You were both not able to deal with the sex converation. It sounds like you might be acting a bit like the person he describes you to be...a bit obsessive.

Answer 9

just talk to the guy you could be great friends but just leave the sex out of it because cheating on other people is wrong

Answer 10

i think that's just it...something that you said or did made him think you're weird and obsessive, you scared him away....i don't think he's being mean to you, he's just being honest, he justs wants things the way he said it. Let go.