I need know why guys dont want date a reasonably pretty girl who is in a wheelchair?

Question

I have Leukodystrophy

Answer 1

what is leukodystrophy? but yes can not see any reason why men keep away from attractive women in wheelchairs.there plenty of them out there so you are not by yourself.p.shambo,you are useless and tasteless ****.

Answer 2

Stardust,

Short answer is that most guys (I'm talking about 90%), see ANY form of disability as a layer of complication they dont need in a relationship.

Let's face it, even with Miss World as a partner, most guys will still make a complete botch of the relationship.

From a guys point of view, very few have had any exposure to people with a disability and have the ability to know what to do, and meet you needs - most will just `keep it as friend` -Shallow - YES, but that's where they are.

Then there's the competition - they also think, "Hey, I can get a reasonably pretty girl WITHOUT a wheelchair" with roughly the same effort in courting / dating etc. Again - shallow, but it's what they are thinking.

Then there is the details of your condition- long term, guys will think you will only go downhill. Now that IS parionoid, selfish and ignorant - but that's what they think.

Tips;
* Personality - girl... this has got to RADIATE out of you, which means good attitude, great sense of humour, confident, witty etc.
* Intelligent - always have something decent to say, smart but not a smart @ss. Let them know a pound of brains of worth a tonne of good looks.
* Looks - keep yourself looking good - if YOU give a damn about yourself (condition or otherwise), then this will show you as a caring and confident individual.

For what it's worth, when you do find someone - he'll be a real killer!

Good luck!

Brad M

Answer 3

Honey there are just some extremely shallow men out there, that are not worth your time. One of my close friends growing up had a simler condition to yourself my she was pretty but it took many years until she found a bf that appreciated her.

Don't be disheartened there are some very wonderful men out there who actually hold values and can appreciate a person for who they are. You will find him one day as we all hope to. Don't think of yourself as a pretty girl in a wheelchair what dose your wheels have anything to do with the person you are. You are just a pretty girl who can rise above others judgemental attitudes and show the world that you are better. I believe you are probably allot nicer and genuine than most girls are, so tell ya what let those shallow bimbos have there shallow jocks. Because when there single mothers living on welfare you will have the man of your dreams and all the success life can bring. Good luck honey, just have patience it will happen.

Answer 4

I would date a girl in a wheelchair, if we shared the same things in life, like we had similar goals and interestes and we became friends and there was some chemistry we both felt that we could be really good partners in life.

So if I am confident that I would date a girl in wheelchair, I'm sure you can appreciate that from a probability point of view, there are loads of guys who would do the same.

Don't worry too much, just get out and have some fun, if you wanna chat more, email me. Take care :)

Answer 5

Please dont take this the wrong way as I dont mean it in a malice way at all - but I think SOME, not all guys might see dating a girl in a wheelchair as somewhat more difficult than dating a mobile girl.
I think it comes down to the easy option really even though now adays with wheelchair access EVERYWHERE - I dont see the real difference it would make as to whether you were in a wheelchair or not!
You hang in there hun, you'll be swept away by some really great guy before you know it!
xx

Answer 6

It is not just guys, most people have some reluctance to get very involved with people with a degenerative disease, because they imagine they will become more of a carer, than a partner as the disease progresses.
I have known several women leave their husbands when their husbands become disabled through injury.
I have disabled friends, I am happy to spend time with them, because I can help them, or take one out in a wheelchair, but if they were not disabled, they probably wouldn't know me.
A person in a wheelchair, is seen as handicapped, and is a disincentive for a personal relationship, yet many people in wheelchairs do get married to able bodied people, because love crosses bounderies.

Answer 7

I don't know your condition...and I'm sorry to hear it affects you in that way....

But, no pretty girl in a wheelchair ever asked me out. Are you getting refusals, or limited acceptance?

If, it is something to do with your wheelchair, as you put it, then I can only guess that some men might see it as 'too much baggage', though I wouldn't necessarily agree. As a Thai boxing instructor, i met my girl as she was a student of mine, so I wasn't out looking elsewhere outside of the gym, I guess.

If its companionship you crave, might I suggest you find some club / activity whereby you can foster new friendships / relationships on common grounds. Because it is important.

Could you imagine me telling the gf I'm going to the gym 5 times this week - if she didn't care / see the point? Compatibility is sooo important.

Answer 8

Don't mind any of the people giving rude answers.You know if i really loved a girl and how she was i wouldnt mind if she was in a wheelchair or not.You just have to find that person that loves you for you and is willing to spend extra time to help you....which would make the two of you love each other even more

Answer 9

I have worked as a caregiver for many years and am familiar with MS which is similar. I would be glad to wear my navy blue suit and take you out to a mylin bar. I know how to dance with someone in a wheel chair.
Mostly I think people don't understand and may be intimidated because they don't know you as a person.
I have a wheel chair van and drive in a wheel chair, but don't need to use it yet, just getting older for now.
Rock and Roll!!!!!

Answer 10

Because, unless they happen to fall in love with you, dealing with a para or quadraplegic takes a lot of work and a helluva lot of dedication, both socially and in the patience department! Most people(both men and women) are far too shallow and self-centered to put up with that kind of effort for what they consider the 'payoff'...I'm sorry, I just have to be honest with you.