Sad thoughts of dad?

Question

I am riddled with heartache still to this very day with thoughts of my dads last days in the icu,how can i try to stop these horrid images?They are a killer. =(

Answer 1

I know it is painful to have to watch someone close to you pass away. However, try and focus on the good times you had with your father while he was still alive. Our memories are there for a reason. You are only focusing on the end the painful ones. Start focusing on what made you happiest. Go back to your childhood and work your way up I am sure you will have plenty to think about. Things that only you and he share. This is how your father will want you to remember him. It was not his choice to leave the way he did. We don't get that but our loved ones do have the choice of the memories we leave them, good or bad. So start pondering on the good. Happy days are sure to follow. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

I was unable to see my dad when he died. I was a rebellious son to him for many years of my life and gave him much heartache and disappointments, most specially when i became addicted to drugs. When all of my my siblings loathed me he never gave up on me and spent money for my rehabilitation 3 times. When i finally became clean(10 years now) i was able to become useful and got myself a job. It was during my recovery that i really felt his love and remembered the happy times we spent together playing golf and going to the farm. I would write to him often when i got my job on a different island and express my love for him. I am glad i did that because i never expected him to pass away so soon. I miss him too. But i know that he will be happy that i have kept clean and have been trying to be a better person for myself and for the people i love. I am sure that he loved you very mich and you did too. You can tell him that you love him either verbally or writing it down and attaching it to a balloon and letting it go.
God asks no man whether he will accept life(or death).
That is not the choice. You must take it.
The only question is how.
---Henry Ward Beecher

Answer 3

Intrusive memories and images sound a lot like flashbacks to me. A good book about flashbacks is called The Body Remembers. It talks about why these memories recur, and gives techniques for healing them. I found it very helpful.

Talking to a therapist could be a good idea, too.

Good luck with this, I'm sure it's hard.

Answer 4

You might speak to a family or church member, or look for a grief suport group or even a pyschologist to help you get through this rough time.Talking about it will help you be able to cope with what you saw and maybe things that you did or do not understand. As a last resort, I would say if it continues to bother you, talk to your own doctor about it.
it is normal to have 5 stages of grief, and any of the people above can help you to understand and cope with what you are feeling and to come to terms with the loss you have.

Answer 5

Dear, it's been 10 yrs. since my dad died at the hosp. I can't get over it either, and I'm 56. I lost my sister 9 yrs. ago and my mom 3 yrs. ago. My older brother is in a rest home with schizophrenia, what kind of fun relationship is that for me/him? I miss them all.
It takes time for the major pains of these heartbreaks to lessen. I didn't say go away, but lessen. Your memories need to be of good times and what that person meant to you. Your thoughts need to be positive and try not to dwell on the negative ones. Crying is ok! It does not bring anyone back, but it does release our sorrow for their absence and helps us to cope. Please find a good grief-counseling group to share what you feel with others and learn how to step beyond 'today'. Take one day at a time and my best to you!

Answer 6

Sorry to hear about this, although it may be part of normal grieving process. I would try talking to your doctor to see if they can recommend you a counsellor/therapist to talk to. They can help you develop coping strategies that will make it easier to carry on day to day. Remember that moving on with your life does not mean that you are forgetting about your dad or leaving him behind...
Also, increasing your exercise level will help release endorphins that will make you feel a bit better.

Answer 7

omg! my dad died too.!! omg i feel like hugging you...well sorry about the advice. it might suck...BUT i have missed my Daddy for 9 and a half years and i still cry every night without him. and hug the little bear he gave me..♥ theres not much you can do to take these feelings away....though the only way to get the thoughts and horrid images out of your mind is to forget him and let go.! though the words, "LET GO", and "FORGET" kill me because i could not do that. good luck but i know how you feel.

Answer 8

Dig up every photo you can of your dad. Make a collage and place them on your wall. Stare at them and reminisce on all the wonderful memories you shared together. Talk to people who knew your dad and listen to the great stories about him. That's what you dad would want you to do. He wouldn't want you to focus on horrible thoughts of him. Focus on the positive and preserve the beauty about him.

Answer 9

Homeopathic Remedies for Anxiety / Panic Attacks / Stress / Depression(Bereavment) / Mood Swings :-

ANXIETY / PANIC ATTACKS & STRESS :-

Sudden with restlessness and fear of death, Panic Attacks, Aconite 30X or 200X,1/2 hourly (3 Doses)

Prolonged with periodic and panic attacks Arsenic Alb.200X, 4 hourly (3 Doses)

With fainting spells; profuse sweating; worse in the morning Sulphur 30X or 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Makes patient walk fast; due to anticipation Argentum Nit 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Worse lying in bed and closing the eyes Carbo Veg 30X or 200X, 4 hourly (6 Doses)

Anxiety aggravated by upward or downward motion; going in an elevator; worse till 11 P.M, Borax 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxious about business even when seriously ill Bryonia Alba 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Full of apprehensions in the evening Causticum 200X, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety and fears in the evening with restlessness and palpitation Calcarea Carb.200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety worse while lying still. Sad music ameliorates the complaints Manganum Acet 200X 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety due to fright, fear,exciting news; stage fright; worse while appearing for examination or interview etc Gelsemium 30X or 200X 3 hourly (6 Doses)

Mood Swings, Anxiety due to grief or shock in the subconscious mind Ignatia 200X or 1M, 3 hourly (3 Doses)

Anxiety; better after eating Anacardium Or 30X, 4 hourly.

DEPRESSION & GRIEF(Bereavement) :-

Severe shock due to sudden death of loved ones; restlessness, anxiety and fear Aconite 200X. 10 min (3 Doses)

Prolonged mournings; cannot overcome the loss of loved ones and/or Mood Swings. Ignatia 1M or 10M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)

When the grief is in the conscious mind; patient weeps; does not like sympathy Natrum Mur.200X or 1M, 6 hourly (3 Doses)

For chronic grief and indignation Staphysagria 200X or 1M, weekly (3 Doses)

Depression with suicidal thoughts feeling of worthlessness, Aurum Met 30X, three times a day half hour before meals.


Take the remedy which is similar to your symptoms. No side effects or complications if taken as directed, please do not exceed the given dosage and under any circumstances do not try to mix any remedies and avoid Chocolates, Mints, Coffee, Red Meat, Alcoholic and Carbonated drinks, Spicy Rich Food while taking any Homeopathic remedies, and keep the medicines away from direct sunlight, heat strong smells and perfumes and do not store them in the fridge.
Curing without any side effects or Complications Thats the Beauty of Homeopathic Medicine (Cures Par Excellence)

Take Care and God Bless You !

Answer 10

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