I have been involved with my boyfriend for about 9 months in this on again off again relationship.
I want out now, but I have used all possible excuses and he still comes back; I even said I met someone else to no avail.
I stopped taking his calls, but he comes over. Neighbours think we are related .
Now I want out of my life for good.
2007-08-26 18:56:05 · 15 answers · asked by field mouse 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, there's no such thing as a fool proof plan, but it seems to me that you haven't been firm enough. Are you still dating him? If so, tell him over the phone that you're done. Short and sweet. Just say you can't do it anymore , and you'd appreciate it if he didn't contact you, and mean it. Just because he calls or comes over doesn't mean you have to answer. As long as you give him a tiny bit of hope he'll continue to pursue you. Don't say anything about being friends. Just end it. If he continues to call, change your number. He should get the hint. If not, consider a restraining order. Good luck.
2007-08-26 19:01:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop using excuses and tell him the the truth; that there will never be anything between you two and you do not want any kind of relationship with him and to leave you alone. Make sure he knows that you absolutely mean it and you will never change your mind. If that does not work then you get a restraining order or call the cops. If you really truly want him out your life you have to take these steps to show that you are totally serious.
2007-08-27 02:05:41 · answer #2 · answered by Leigh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be honest. Tell him why you feel it's over and stick by it. Don't make up stories about other people if they're not true, and why is he still coming by? You need to be FIRM, letting him know you are serious, and if you are, that if he continues to come by that you will not speak to him. If he keeps pestering you after you've asked him not to, you can tell him you're feeling unsafe and will get a restraining order if he continues to come over. You could also move so he won't know where you are. Perhaps the reason he still comes over is that you are wishy-washy to him and he doesn't believe it's really over? Since you've broken up before, he may just think this is another temporary setback and not a real break up. Good luck, it's can be hard to be firm but not hurt his feelings.
2007-08-27 02:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem once. It took a while but this is what I did. I was a bit afraid of him because of his obsessiveness. I made an appoint to go to places where there were other woman and watched him closely to see if he found anyone a bit attractive. I then found out who the girls knew and asked them on the QT to set them up with my boyfriend. It worked and I was FREE. Be careful though, make sure that you don't ever make eye contact with other men at these places or he will be way to busy watching you. And don't dress sexy. Dress down so he won't be too busy looking at you. Most men who won't go away is because they don't have a place to go to. Help him find someone else without him knowing your doing it. Good luck. Learn to play this game, sometimes it is the only game that will work.
2007-08-27 02:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by Robert 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him this letter, tell him that you are desperate and you want to be single again. You don't want a boyfriend any more. You don't want him to come over, call, or write e-mails. You need a clean break from him. Tell him that you need a clean break from him. If he does not give this to you then this guy is a stalker and you need to tell him that you will report him to the police and have a restraining order put on him. Some people need to be hit hard before they understand.
2007-08-27 02:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to, tell him you'll file aTRO {termporary restraining order} against him for harrassing you.. In no uncertain terms tell him it is OVER and for him to MOVE ON.. If he continues to annoy you, file the TRO..If he breaks it, he goes to jail.. It's a drastic measure, but if all else fails, you may need to do this.. Good Luck..
2007-08-27 02:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Joanie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it is over and to leave you alone. This time you mean it. If he doesn't listen....restraining order. He'll get the point then.
2007-08-27 01:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by Sunny Flowers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth from the begining,and just say i'm done we are over,and i'm going on with my Life without you because that's what i want!!!!!!!
2007-08-27 02:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Gail G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Restraining order.. he sounds borderline obsessive.
2007-08-27 02:00:20 · answer #9 · answered by Wolf Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anytime you want to get rid of someone, it is very easy to get rid of them. So I guess you are getting off on playing with this guy. . .or he would be gone.
2007-08-27 01:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by towanda 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋