act all sweet and then when you start dating them like the sweetness goes away and they act like jerks?
my bf use to be sweet all the time more before we started dating. now he is a jerk sometimes and hurts my feelings and i tell him and he's like im joking i love u..but why cant he just be sweet like it use to be?
2007-08-26 18:48:46 · 24 answers · asked by Rayray 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok all the men i've met and talk to are like this...So if your a guy and not good for u..
i'm dating him cause i love him and he loves me.. he makes me happy and laughs..he's the only one that makes me happy and laugh and helps me through the bad times
2007-08-26 18:54:21 · update #1
all he says is i need to joke more and not take anything he says serious cause he's not a serious guy. But i'm a serious person...And the other day he was messing with me and i started picking on him and he got all mad
2007-08-26 18:58:27 · update #2
i love him and he always says i love u and like if he says something mean and i get all quiet he does say i'm sorry but still ends up doing it again.
2007-08-26 19:00:43 · update #3
Sounds like he can dish out the crap well enough but he can't take it.
True, it's good to have a sense of humor, and you shouldn't take EVERYTHING seriously. However, if you are obviously upset and he keeps on going at you, then he is crossing the line and you need to let him know. A halfhearted "Stop it" won't do; you need to sit down with him, be serious and say "When you do ----------- it hurts my feelings a lot, and I'd like you to stop." If you really does love you more than he loves himself, he should consider that an important request and follow it. If he doesn't, then I'm sorry to say he's simply an a*shole and there is nothing you can do to change him except to leave him.
As far as most guys being sweet and then later become *****: yep, that sounds very accurate. Many guys may be nice at first because they want the girl to think that of them and become attracted to them. After a while though, they will drop the facade when they know the girl can't so easily get rid of them. Sad but true; the best way to avoid this is to date "nice guys" (the ones that are nice to EVERYONE, not just you), but I'm sure you know that most girls prefer the strong, handsome alpha-male types, so that's why this problem is so frequent (aside from the plague of rudeness among most guys).
Sorry that your guy is treating you bad, but you need to think of yourself before you think of him, so stand up for yourself, TELL him what's wrong, NOT hinting, and make a smart decision after.
2007-08-26 19:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by TheHonorableReese 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd sell off him asap. If he likes yet another lady and he or she him, WHAT ARE YOU DOING??? Real love does not play video games or have wandering eyes, it is dedicated and tough paintings. You MUST see this as a purple flag, a deal breaker, strike 3. Your younger, i am guessing, you should not also be since a SERIOUS courting that's going to purpose you lack of confidence. Have a laugh, do not turn out to be overly invested on this, WHAT? you cannot flirt? Move on, the writing is at the wall and it spells problem. Do your self a desire and reduce the man unfastened, whether it is destined to be, it's going to run it is direction and he's going to be again. But why you might take him again best you'll reply.
2016-09-05 15:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by sowden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all guys act like that, but your bf doesn't deserve you from what i can tell.men start out sweet to get your affection and when they get it they feel they no longer have to impress you or try to keep you ,guys like that give guys like me a bad rep just because i am a guy.but i will also say that women could work as hard at pleasing a man as a man does his woman. if he hurts your feelings keep telling him he does if doesn't say sorry or try to show his love for you then give up on him he is more then likely looking around anyway
2007-08-26 19:00:28 · answer #3 · answered by terrell suttles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They think they don't have to be nice to you because they think they own you.
If you are too "available" or clingy, they don't want you.
If you cop an attitude and are not available all the time, you become more attractive... understand?
Learn to cop the right amount of attitude. You have to be a little more like a guy in being aloof.
2007-08-26 18:54:12 · answer #4 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys are like that. Those guys ARE jerks and there are quite a few of them. For some reason girls can't see them for what they are or refuse to see.
If a guy doesn't respect you and put your feelings first, then he is a jerk and dump his sorry butt.
2007-08-26 18:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by One Voice In The Day Rings True 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he was not sweet he was acting so he can have you,but now he know you and meet you and he have you,so why he have to act again,but the reall sweet honest guy always he sweet he never change meybe once a while but again he will be sweet like he was.
2007-08-26 18:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
they are all sweet when you first meet them some are jerks you will have low self esteem beore you leave him it sounds like he will never be the sweet person u met. Your better off to find someone else.
2007-08-26 18:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Gail G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys act as sweet as can be so you will go out with them. then the second you say yes its like someone flips the jerk switch in their head and they become rude and insensitive. they make you mad and are completely mean to you, and the second they think you might break up with them they drop the i love you bomb. so you say awwww, he loves me.... i cant break up with him. its all just a way for guys to be completely rude and mean without loosing their girlfriend. its happened to me before... it really sucks.
2007-08-26 18:54:55 · answer #8 · answered by danielle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well....im guessing he found a new chick or he does really like you alot...cause you know guys really felt comfortable with their g/f and tends to do jokes and yea even tried to things that would never hurt their g/f but doesnt know that its hurting, or he is just testing you on how youare and how's your attitude so yea jus stay calm and act cool so he would think that you have a big heart and probably even like you more.
2007-08-26 18:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by WILD_V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, same goes for girls, they act all inocent then they stab you in the back as soon as another guy shows interest in them, why do girls flirt with other guys while there in company with there boy friend, why do girls ask 4 trust but never trust us, or why do girls think its ok to tease her guy or make fun of but the guy cant do it back cause she gets upset and then threatens to dump him if he does why do girls think its ok to be bitchy 4 no reason? i think its just called judge mental darl if you look 4 faults you will see them the more you think about it the more you seem to find so dont, just be happy and dont take things to heart to much darl,
2007-08-26 19:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋