PLEASE PLEASE give advice!?

Question

my ex of almost 3 yrs dumped me a few wks ago and said he didn't love me anymore and I got upset and ran out the door he came runing to me telling me he was confused, that he does love me and can't live without me. We have makeup sex. now for the second time this monday he said he doesn't love me and doesn't care if were together. this was a shock because the week before we had sex and he told me how much he loved me. i cried and he sat on the phone yawning. i go to his college and give him his stuff and follow him to his house for mine, the whole time i bravely acted as though life was fine and he kept asking me how long and where i was staying and i blew him off by saying i dunno. and I left his house saying okay, bye. well the next night I just really needed to talk to him and of course i ruined it and got emotional showing him how upset i was and he tells me he doesn't love me like that, and that the last time he took me back he felt guiltly and that makeup sex was a bonus for him

STUPID ME! I shouldn't have called him but I wanted a better explaination. He was yawning the night he dumped me telling me to get over it! he said he loved me last week, just not now, that our spark died while we were apart, but how does he know that if we were apart? WTF? I'm not saying I'd take him back, but I want him to come crawling back, and I want him to realize how stupid he was. When will he?

im so miserable and don't understand how he can just get over this so quickly. he treated me so badly and i loved him through him using me and i just want him to realize what hes done. I can't keep my mind off him, he gets offline when he knows im on, deleted all my emails and is a heartless jerk to me. i of course still love him and don't understand!

theres no1 else.

Answer 1

WOW!!! This is gonna be real hard on you, so get prepared. Does someone who truly loves someone treat them this way? NO.. Love does not hurt like this. Don't put yourself out there to be kicked to the curve again, your way better than that! Right now, your dealing with a real bad case of rejection, the number one worst feeling any human could feel. Let alone the three years you two had together. So, lets get this turned around. From is minute on, you plan to ignore him completely-the worst thing anyone could do to another human! Do not give him the time of day, even if he is on his death bed!! I know you still care, but you have to care more for yourself!!! Cry, until you can't cry anymore! It will help...Good luck to you! Sorry, he's not the one!!!

Answer 2

Here's a hint-stop having sex with people that don't make a commitment to you and then think you are in a relationship. You both sound like you need to grow up. If someone gives you that I don't love you anymore, suck it up and get over it. At least keep a little pride. If they have hurt you, why do you want to go back for more. I get that you are hurt and want some type of ending but it isn't going to happen and you just feeding his miserable ego and letting him know how immature you are. The only thing you can do is gather friends around you, go out and try to start putting your life together and just stay very busy. Be glad you are out of the relaionship now before you wasted any more time.

Answer 3

I am guessing it is probably so easy for him to get over because he already has somebody else(probably why he wanted to know where and how long you were staying) filling up his time so he does not have time to think about you. That is just a guess however. Guys usually get that cold for two reasons either they have cold feet because the relationship is moving too fast ie you were talking marriage or babies or something or he is seeing another girl and he cant find a good way to be a man and just tell you the truth. So don't expect no emotions or tears on his end because emotionally he is already over it and has moved on. The sex as you said is just a bonus do yourself a favor and move on find yourself someone who is not so immature and emotionally challenged. Good luck.

Answer 4

Its time to move on and get your own life togther and don,t worry about losers like him becouse you did everything you could to make your relationship work and ill bet he will never find anyone that treated him as half as good as you did. don,t worry yourself to death and before you know it Mr. Right will be waiting right around the corner and sweep you off your feet.
Good luck........friend

Answer 5

This man doesn't love you. He would probably still like to have sex with you, but not if you are going to get emotional with him, because this makes him feel uncomfortable. I know its hard, but you have to move on.

Answer 6

Rather you want to or not, you are going to have to move on and find someone who really cares about you. Also, it sounds as though there is a strong possibility that he is seeing someone else.

Answer 7

He won't come back.You need to let it go.You don't want to be with such a jerk. If you give him another chance, he will only end up hurting you more than he already has. Don't give him that chance.

Answer 8

if he was with someone when he said that he loved u then that person might not want him to be with u so he is being controled by his friend or parent or some1 who dont like u

well good luck

Answer 9

Sorry but he wont love you just play with you do sex time passed that's it . its better you leave him . And search a person Who really love you and be honest with you and loyal . be patience its life

Thanks

Answer 10

Let it go.