I have had many dreams of my deceased mom suffering. It is almost like she was still alive when she was very ill. It makes me very sad to dream of her this was. Why am I having these dreams? I also have good dreams of her, but many of them are of her still suffering. Why? Is she tring to tell me something?
2007-08-26 18:42:28 · 4 answers · asked by Samantha L 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
You didn't say how long your mom has been deceased. When my mom passed away from pancreatic liver cancer I was devastated. I took care of her for 5 months before she died. I saw her suffer in ways I never even knew a human could suffer. I too had nightmares for a year after she passed away. I did have some good dreams of her, but the most of them were from when she was so sick. She's been gone for 22 years now and I don't get those dreams anymore. They just subsided after a while and never came back. I was told that it was my bodies way of getting over the shock of her illness and death. I came to believe this as I haven't had any bad dreams of my mother in a long, long time. That is why I asked you how long she had been dead. I'm sure, in time, the bad dreams that you are having of your mother will cease. I hope this advice helps you out a bit. God bless....
2007-08-26 18:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our dreams often help us work things out, Or they reflect what your mind is working on understanding.
These dream are probably exhausting you.
I was having counseling when my dad died & I got divorced. The dreams were always different- but always had the same meaning.......the loss, the feeing unsafe- feel I have failed the family and so on. My counselor told me to write down a short afirmation to read everynight before I go to bed. I wrote something like "I can take care of my self and my children, I no longer need to have bad dreams about this. I am strong and I know I am safe" I worked the first night. Although I on ocassions wil have a bad dream. The next night I repeated my afirmation. I have gone years without the nghtmares.
I don't think your mother is trying to tell you somethig, because she is in a place where there is no pain or suffering.
She will show herself in different ways. Ways that are positive-- unless she has a warning for you.
You will see signs like....on one day you find many pennys. That happened to me one day and I said outloud to my son who has passed....ok ok if you are leaving pennys for me to see then I need to find one today in a very unlikely place.
I then when to my window. the window goes low close to the floor. Right after talking to my son - I went to the window to open it. There to my suprise was a penny just outside the window. It is an abscure place, I can't imagine how it got there. it not my son. I have had feather days. And a variety of ways that he or my dad connects with me.
Two things....talk to yourself before laying down to sleep
#2 Expect little miricles now and then. They most often are subtal, which means you have to be open to seeing them.
2007-08-26 19:04:12 · answer #2 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the beginning, sorry for the shortcoming of your mom. for the reason that this may be a cutting-edge journey, dreaming of it is not any enormous ask your self. initially it ought to indicate you nonetheless won't be in a position to enable bypass the indisputable fact that she left you. in spite of the indisputable fact that, Projecting her being in hell and suffering could mirror your helplessness incredibly. for the reason that your mom did have "first" husband, it is a reflection of helplessness in you. The absusive habit which you already know of can even have some thing to do with this dream even however you won't be the only that became abused. She being in hell truthfully shows some guilt experience of right and incorrect in you. it is not approximately how accountable to reason her loss of existence, yet accountable approximately no longer something you're able to do in her existence on a similar time as she became alive. What further on is truthfully the question. possibly, at the instant, you experience helpless and accountable and for this reason you had her vent out on your subconscious recommendations.
2016-10-09 07:36:08 · answer #3 · answered by grzech 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned, it is quite normal. I went through the same thing when a person close to me died.
You just need to remind yourself that the thoughts are irrational, and do not dwell on them.
Time will help.
2007-08-26 18:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Livvie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋