what is the treatment if you have misdirected anger or rage? and you take anger out on people who didnt cause?

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you anything? i have had alot of trauma and victimization and abuse throughout my life. iam 30 now and have ptsd, bpd and rage and anger problems, iam now, waiting for therapy. but the biggest problem above the other problems i got, is anger. and misdirecting it. i know that it originates from my traumatic past and supressed anger and unresolved anger due to bullying......so i know of where it comes from.....i have improved greatly with it over years, but as an adult i still struggle with the feelings, rage feelings, that if your not carefull, control you..
things can easily trigger these feelings, if i feel certain people are getting at me personally, mind games, insinuating indirectly at you, condesending behaviour from certain people...a percieved hostile glance, my perception about the world caused from trauma...all these things can trigger misdirected anger & rage feelings..& basically i want to learn how to finally defeat this problem..
can anyone relate or advise?

iam franch nationality and cherokee indian to.....and once ive worked on these problems, mainly the rage, im going to emigrate from uk....so im eager to deal with this problem so i can move on...
regards

'french sorry' mispelling

im aware of the problem and i want to deal with it..
.thats everything i would add. there really is no other thing i can say sorry

thankyou for your answer, i appreciate, but i dont want to do this ' alone' as you put it, no man is an island.
regards

Answer 1

it is all up to you..you can let them go, dwell on them, or get angry at the right people and tell them off once and for all...misdirected anger can be a bad thing and you may end up exploding...on the wrong person...you are a great person,..with a lot of insite..and you recognize, that there is a problem brewing here..but I think that you are going to be fine, because you are tryihg so hard, to overcome it...you will overcome it, because you want it so bad...good luck I know you are going to be fine.

Answer 2

You seem very interested in finding reasons why you are the way you are. And that is good.

You are certainly on the right track trying to find some professional help.

You will never find the answer through Yahoo answers, but suffice it to say that everything you are feeling is coming from your own brain. The thoughts are your own - you are generating them yourself.

I hope the victimization you experienced as a youth is over. And if it is over...then you MUST let it be over. If you hold on to it then you are going to ruin the rest of your life. And WHY? Already the early part of your life sucked. Why allow anyone else to make the rest of your days suck? And here is the rub. IT IS TOTALLY YOUR CHOICE.

You can choose to live the rest of your life without this **** or you can continue to wallow in it. And sometimes we have done something for so long, it is hard to change!

But if you decide to do something to make your life easier to live, it will be tough at first, and then it will get WAY easier than what you are living with every day, right now.

Answer 3

I can relate with the pain and anger because I too was once a victim of sorts. I had to tackle things on my own and even take care of others. If things went right, others took the credit. But when they went wrong, I was blamed.

However angry this makes us, it's all really an inner insecurity that causes misdirected anger. Anger is the response of our lack of control over things and situations. The only way to relieve it is start taking control of small things. Try solving the smaller problems and try not to get distracted by the bigger issues that are obviously overwhelming you. One step at a time to take control of your self and your life.

Peace.

Answer 4

Good for you that you recognize this problem.

I would suggest writing it down - make a bio of your life for your own personal emotional release meaning this is for you - you don't have to share it just release it!

Start by writing things that bothered you growing up - then how things could have been differnet - next how you dealt with it - last - what you can do to change this for someone else. (Especially if you have children (of your own nieces/nephews etc.)

Write a garbage letter - a letter to those who hurt you tell them how you felt then and now and what affect it has had on you - then throw it away (or put in a safe place).

Darling don't let those people win - they are the ones that had the problems not you - while they overcame their problems now you must to.

Keep your head high and you can do this on your own if you try!

God Bless

Answer 5

treatment misdirected anger rage anger people didnt

Answer 6

Therapy will certainly help you but while you are waiting. Try meditation or if this bores you. Go to the gym, try a punching bag, go for a run, take some deep breaths before speaking in anger, walk away if someone appears to be trying to upset you. These methods have worked for many people who have consulted me. Try to identify your triggers and write them down, this will help you take control of yourself.

Answer 7

Anger management would help alot, probably as well as regular therapy to deal with the traumatic issues in your past.

Answer 8

ANGER MANAGEMENT: Whenever I find myself in a situation where I would have formerly allowed myself to become angry, I count backwards form 20 to 1, as it interrupts the process. Ask yourself the question: "Is this worth upsetting myself over?" Another technique that can be applied in such a situation is to put the tip of your tongue between your two front teeth, then slide it down over the gum to where it begins to dip:- this is your feelgood switch: put your tongue there, maybe sliding it backwards and forwards a little, and say "calm" to yourself, in your mind. Or, breathe in to the count of 7, and exhale to the count of 11. If you regularly practise the following, you should find yourself needing to employ your anger management skillset less often, and quite possibly enjoying life more, as well. 1) Sit comfortably in a quiet room, which is neither cold, nor too warm, with your spine reasonably straight.
2) Allow your eyes to rest comfortably downward, gazing softly, but not focused on anything.
3) Without closing your eyes completely, let your eyelids drop to a level that feels most comfortable.
4) Continue gazing downward... the act of gazing is your primary focus (rather than the area at which you are gazing). You may notice your breathing becoming more rhythmic.
5) It's ok to let your attention drift a bit. If your eyes become very heavy, it's ok to let them close. If you notice you've come out of your relaxed space, simply bring your attention back gently to your relaxed downward gaze. 6) This should be done for at least 10, and preferably 20 minutes. Maximum results come from practising 3 times daily, some hours apart. There is an audio meditation instruction at: http://www.secretsofmeditation.com/demo.htm Also see http://www.meditainment.com/free_guided_meditation/ Try the EFT, at http://www.mercola.com Always remember that much of life is about the choices we make, and you have within you the power to CHOOSE whether or not to MAKE YOURSELF angry. Some people keep a wide (but loose) rubber band around their wrist, and stretch and release it whenever they find themselves backsliding, as a means of speeding up the reprogramming of their minds, but this is completely optional, and depends on the individual. I like the approach at: http://www.freemindware.net/quickhelp4anger.html Also see http://www.mycounseling-site.com/anger-counseling.html and http://www.apa.org/topics/controlanger.html and http://www.coping.org/ and http://www.angermanage.co.uk/keepcool.html and http://www.uncommonforum.com/ where differing viewpoints are available. (FROM: YAHOO! ANSWERS): Tell her to call this hotline & let out her emotions 1(800) 448-3000.[U.S.A.] Somewhere in the above, there should be something that works for you. If not, I strongly advise anger management counselling, for not to develop an effective coping strategy is certain to have a negative impact on the rest of your life.
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I found that changing the way I think helped me to get rid of my anger issues. It sounds too simple but with practice anyone can do it. You simply stop yourself from thinking the kinds of thoughts that make you angry. You make a conscious effort to stop your mind from allowing those kind of thoughts. You switch your thoughts to something you find pleasant. After a while it becomes easier and easier to tolerate what used to make you angry. You learn to see life in a different way and in time you will find that anger you were trapped in will be gone.

Negative thoughts lead to poor physical health . Your body is greatly influenced by all those fight or flight chemicals that flow when you become angry. Eventually it will lead you to serious health problems if you don't learn how to control yourself.

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There is a technique being taught by some practitioners, I recall. I do recall it's not NLP or anything known.
It doesn't require you to know precisely what triggers your anger, you just focus on those feelings while visualizing some symbol to temporarily represent them. Then you manipulate the imagery like doubling it, tripling it, making all but one vanish, then bring them back.

I cannot recall all of it, but it produces the most amazing, instant and lasting results. Some guy named Douglas or something was showing it on campus and folks were all about it.

Sorry I don't know more, but reduce your emotional state through convincing your subconscious mind that you can control (manipulate) the "symbol", and the feelings will reduce each time

Answer 9

I would say counseling-it helps me
esp cause then you can vent to them