I met a guy a while back, we went out for about a month and a half. Things were going pretty good, so I thought. We saw each other, on average, two times a week. Then suddenly it was like he just magically disappeared. I tried to call him several times, and left a couple of messages, but never heard back from him. So, I figured he was just no longer interested and it was time to move on. Then suddenly tonight (about three weeks later since I last heard from him), I received an e-mail from him stating, "Hope your weekend was good, and hope we can meet up sometime this weekend. It would be great to see you again." How should I interpret this? What should I do? See him again? Part of me wonders if there maybe was another girl he was interested in and it didn't work, and now he wants to see me again, or maybe he just didn't, or doesn't, know what he wants. Anyone else ever have this, or similar to this happen? What did you do in your situation? And what should I do?
2007-08-26 17:49:38 · 14 answers · asked by kelly825782003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Part of you is right. He met someone else and when that didn't work out, he came running back to you.
2007-08-26 17:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You seem pretty smart and it's sounds like you already have a good idea of what might be going on. I would concur on your theory that he maybe got interested in another girl or simply tired of you, and now for some reason he is alone and you are becoming a "last resort". It is even a possibility that he was dating you at the same time as another girl, and decided to follow that relationship instead of yours. Then since it has ended, he is coming to you as a backup.
Of course, nobody likes to be second best, so if a "backup" is all he considers you to be, I don't think he is good enough for you. You seem to understand the dating game, so you know there are plenty of other guys out there to meet; you might as well just get rid of him and find another one. Since he decided to give you the silent treatment, it wouldn't be unjustified for you to do the same. Just don't call him back and forget about it. At least you had fun when you were dating though, so it's no big loss.
2007-08-26 18:01:45 · answer #2 · answered by TheHonorableReese 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without knowing him, or you, it's hard to say for sure so I'll give you several theories that I would explore before hitting a conclusion:
1.) He was on a power trip... your calling him near every day, texting him and he's shining knowing that he's got a girl chasing after him. Then suddenly it stops... then he realizes your not calling him back. So what's he do... he calls you back.
2.) Hey what's this phone number...? Oh yeah... that girl that I talked to couple of weeks ago... well damn it's a boring night I guess I'll give her a try, I mean after all shelly and lisa didn't want to go out...
3.) What do I say? What if she thinks it's stupid... oh god did I put on deoderant? I hope my phone doesn't die -- Maybe he's just too damn shy to return a call until the clear and present danger arises that he might have lost you for good.
Best way would be to directly answer him and confront your issues (if you have any)
Tell him how your weekend went, don't overexaggerate it, but don't underplay it either. Make it known that you survived perfectly well without him being up your butt.
Then, throw the ball back in his court and ask him why he just has got around to talking to you again... and of all things, an e-mail?
Hope this helps, best of luck to you.
2007-08-26 17:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by untamed_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a few days, time heals all, if he can't deal with that, I guess it's his problem. But what you shouldn't do is get into another argument about how you're feeling now. Trust me, arguments won't get you anywhere, they'll only make you drift further apart. Also, the more you talk to him about it (even though it may seem the right thing) the worse it will get, trust me, take advantage of the space you have and take the time to recover, trying to sort the situation out between the both of you will only cause him to become defensive. I'm sure you both need time, and if he's a good enough boy friend he'll give you that time. But don't worry about it, things will turn out fine whatever happens; one boy isn't your life after all, there's plenty more fish in the sea! Hope I've helped. :)
2016-05-18 23:13:32 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're interested, go out and ask what happened. All kinds of things could have happened that took up his time. Only one way to find out. Be sure he looks you in the eye when he answers the question. I hope you get the answer you're looking for. I had it happen to me and I knew he was getting over a messy divorce and was in a dead end job he hated. When I finally ran into him again and he had straighten his life out, I really didn't want to get involved again. All he would have had to do is just call and say, I have problems and I need some time. He didn't care enough to call and say anything. I wasn't going there again.
2007-08-26 17:57:53 · answer #5 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a wierd situation. Before you ho meet him this time, I would advice you to email him and find out the reasons for his absence. Talk to him over the phone. Then after a week or a couple and if you think you convinced, go ahead meet him. Since you already said you have not been in touch with him for three weeks, it shouldnt be big deal for you.
2007-08-26 17:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by kiddo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you got it right the first time -- he met someone else, had a quick fling, it didn't work out, and now he's back. Or maybe he got busy at work . . . who knows? And really -- do you care?
If he was a fun date, go ahead and go out with him again, but now you know not to expect too much more. You don't have to "interpret" it -- he's asking you if you want to go out. Either you do or you don't. He isn't asking you to marry him, for heaven's sake, just to go out and enjoy each other's company. If you don't want to bother, say no. If he was fun, say yes.
2007-08-26 17:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough. Ask him why he hadn't answered your calls. Make sure he answers right away or soon, it's fishy if he takes a while to answer (like he's thinking of an excuse maybe?) and if he hesitates who knows what that could be. Give him a chance if he has a quick and good reason why. :) hope that helps.
2007-08-26 17:54:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i'm a guy and i've never done that and never had a girl do that to me but that sounds really messed up and i would suggest getting to the bottom of it if you really like the guy. if you are over it then i would either ignore him or tell him to take a hike. but if you do really wanna try i would find out what was the deal first and i mean come on what kind of excuse could he really have for that unless its a mental condition or something but i would probably freak out if i was you and holler at him a bit and tell him to go or something. but its your call do what you wish.
2007-08-26 17:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by pan_clock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was in this situation once. i was interested in him and i thought he was interested in me because he said he liked me. he called me and texted me a couple of times but then he didn't. and after 2 weeks he texted again. then he didn't. on and off. so i always wondered when he was gonna call me or text me or ask me out. then i got tired so i thought what the heck!?!?! so i say forget about him. it's not like he's the only man alive. There’s plenty more fish in the sea
2007-08-26 17:59:48 · answer #10 · answered by Schatzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋