See, there's this girl who I have known for about a year now and we are decent friends who always go on group dates and the like, but for the past few months she's acting pretty strangely. Like one day we can talk and she can be as cold as ice, and then the next day she professes that she loves me and can't keep her hands off me [which I don't mind at all.] Yet whenever i ask just to take her out casually as friends either to a dinner, a movie, or to the beach with just the two of us, she declines, yet she gets extremely pissed and aggressive if she sees me hanging around other girls, even if is meaningless. She has me totally confused since no other girl I've dated has ever turned a date down, and judging by the way she acts around other gals especially, and since she isn't dating anyone, it leads me to believe that maybe is it possible that she is lesbian, or something? Still, when the times for us to return to college, she hides, shuts off communication and refuses to say gbye
2007-08-26 17:23:46 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You ask her to go out as friends she wants more than that. As far as her being cold one day hot the next she is trying to turn off her emotions for you because she feels as though you only want to be friends with her and she wants much more . If you are serious about this girl why not ask her to commit on a trial basis and see how it goes if I"m wrong and she is whacked or something then just tell her you're no longer interested and get rid of her.
2007-08-26 17:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by COLLEEN M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are interested, the both of you will need to sit down and have a serious talk. Seriously, I knew someone who had a gf who acted the same way and she was bi-polar. Even if she's not, you have to consider the possibility that when getting into a relationship with her that her behavior will more than likely be the same or worse.
She could be just a very immature person.
Why put yourself through all that, when you can have an enjoyable, healthy relationship w/someone who doesn't play games or have issues?
2007-08-26 17:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by A G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she may have had a bad experience with someone before you and she's afraid of getting hurt again. Talk to her about it. Show her that you really care how she feels. Date rape is an all too common thing these days. If this has happened to her that would be the reason for not wanting to go out alone with you. It sounds like she likes you, but is having a hard time with her own feelings. Let her know how she is making you feel in a nice caring way, if you really want it to work out.
2007-08-26 17:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by slw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was like that when guys would ask me out on single dates. its cause i was nervous.... shes not a lesbian. well i dont know her... but i dont think she is if she touches you. just let her know that you want to take her only on a date... or when you are on a group date mention that you would like to take her to a movie or the beach some time. and just see how she reacts.... but good luck!
2007-08-26 17:30:14 · answer #4 · answered by hannah l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that actually sounds like something I would do, if I were any more outgoing
For me it'd just be that I like this person (you in this case) so much and I'm scared to let them know exactly how much because it might scare them off.
So, that's nothing more than an opinion.
2007-08-26 17:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ask, tell her to quit playing the Push-You-Pull-You Game, and make up her mind whether or not she wants to have a relationship with you. Tell her to pick one way or the other and be quick about it.
Doc
2007-08-26 17:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is confusing. Have you tried just asking her flat out why she won't go out with you? Is she not interested in you or is she?
2007-08-26 17:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is having a bi polar moment. I don't know what to tell you, that is very strange. She'll come around eventually maybe.....
2007-08-26 17:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her about it.
see why shes acting that way. then ask her what you could do so that she doesnt act that way with you.
2007-08-26 17:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by RUBY<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋