My hubby and I are dual military, I'm an E-5 Sergeant and he's an E-6 Staff Sergeant, both active duty army and we love it! Anyway, have y'all ever thought about following in your hubby or wifey's footsteps? Why or why not?
*Before anyone gets offended, I'm not trying to say anything, it's just a question cuz I'm bored on night shift. That and don't you think it would help understand your spouse better. We have 2 kids by the way, we're both deployed, and we both are taking college classes, so it IS possible to do it all.
2007-08-26 17:07:26 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
AGAIN, because apparently I didn't make it clear....Hubby and I are both currently deployed to Iraq. He's been in 14 years, I have been in 4 years. But yes, currently deployed, and yes we do patrols, go on convoys, get shot at, we both have had our share of IED's, but I wouldn't trade this for anything else, because I get to experience what he does. I get to feel the extreme sadness when a fellow comrade gets killed, I get to feel the almost-paralyzing fear when an IED first goes off, I get to feel the adrenaline of going through a crowded market not knowing who's friendly and who's trying to kill you. I wouldnt' trade it all because it brings me and hubby that much closer, so when we get home I can tell him "Hunny, I know exactly how you're feeling"
2007-08-26 17:14:42 · update #1
Yes; I have thought about going into the Army. I think I would really enjoy it. But; we have three children and I have to put their needs first. My husband has been deployed twice and I see how it has effected them first hand. I could not do that to them knowing what I know. It's enough for them to deal with worrying and missing just him. I would love to understand what he goes through on a first hand basis. But, it's just not something I could do without feeling extremely guilty about because of them. And, as much as I may not understand that aspect of his life, he doesn't understand what it does to the kids or myself to wake up every morning and wonder if today is the day we have to figure out how to live the rest of our lives without him. He has never had to answer the question; "Mom...is dad going to die?" or; "I hate dad! He shouldn't have left us! Doesn't he love us?!" (our son,9) or; "Mommy, is daddy dead? I haven't talked to him a long time, so I just thought he was in heaven now." (our daughter,5). Or the pain of trying so hard to keep him "alive" for a toddler who can't name her father when she sees a video of him because she doesn't remember who he is after 15 months; but all he can talk about is wanting to come home and hold her. Can't exactly say; "Well; sorry honey..she doesn't remember you and probably is going to scream her head off when you pick her up because she's afraid of strangers." Or; "Honey; I know you're trying your best...but, could you please call more often even though the phone center only has 30 phones and you're in one of the most hostile areas doing missions...the kids think you're dead." I suppose we'll both just have to try and be as understanding as possible with each other despite not fully understanding what each has gone through. He talks to me about what he has experienced; I know I will never fully understand...but I'm okay with that. I will NEVER tell him some of the things the kids have said or done while he was gone, though. I know he hangs on to them with all he's got and they and I are what get him through when he's gone...it would crush him to know how much they cried, were really angry that he "left them",thought he was dead or didn't remember him because they were just too small when he left.
2007-08-26 17:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by april 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-18 22:58:55 · answer #2 · answered by jaimie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was once Navy and that is how I met my husband of 6 1/2 years. I miss the Navy and sometimes forget what it is like. I have never been on a deployment because I got pregnant before I was supposed (unplanned and was on BC) to. I miss the Navy and feel I didn't reach my dreams while in. I am longing to go back in but have excess weight to lose and trying to get my degree first. Yes I want to go back in so I can see al my husband sees and so we can live that dream of serving together. I like being an at home mother but feel ready to go and follow my dreams again. I know how you feel 100%.
2007-08-27 07:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amber M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only problem i would have is someone else raising my children(i don't have any yet). I don't want to take the chance of both of us getting hurt or killed and leaving our kids orphans or anything like that (there is family member but having your mother and father is better). I feel that they have to come first. Its like they say, the military might not be for everyoneat least not the whole 20 year than retire thing. The only thing I can say is your kids are probably proud of both their parents for being soo brave and doing what they love you have some people who always wanted to but just didn't take the next step. I feel you should do what makes you happy.
2007-08-27 05:36:28 · answer #4 · answered by msmiller m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I share the same thing with Marines.
The thing is, I didn't make it past boot camp due to my heart condition I didn't know I had.....which really irritates me knowing...that is something I wanted to do. Yet, I found new passions to persue.
So, I live it through my husband, who is a Sgt currently deployed in Iraq right now for the second time.
My concern is your children having both parents deployed for long periods of time together. It is tough on them with 1, but now two. Yet, it seems as though you both got things taken care of and I really hope the best.
That is wonderful you both get to experience it together. It can help the marriage and friendship among you two.
2007-08-26 18:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband is in the Marines and I have thought about joining (even before meeting him, but I didnt make the height requirement for ROTC). He knew many people (who also knew many people) whose wives enlisted after marrying them, then left them for another Marine. It was because of this fear that I decided not to join and continue with my own passion for psychology and going to school. I still love the Marines and if he ever changed his mind, I'd do it. But I respect his concerns and since he'd rather have me at home, then that's where I'll stay. But I still think about it every now and then... but who would want to take orders from a 4' 9 1/2" female? lol! It's good to dream...
2007-08-27 10:11:00 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny L. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was medically PDQd at 18 from serving in my dream job, the US Navy. Fast forward ten years later, and I met and married a man who decided to enlist in the Navy, mainly going by by my unabashed gushing over military life( I am a Navy Brat, both parents served during Viet nam) Not a day goes by that I don't regret not being able to serve.
2007-08-27 05:29:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mrsjvb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know, my husband and I are also dual military. I would like to stay in but with 2 kids. I feel it would benefit them if one of us got out. So I told my husband I would be the one. I just don't want someone else raising my children. I don't want to take the chance of both of us getting hurt or killed and leaving our kids orphans. If we didn't have children it would be a different story. Since we do, I feel they have to come first. Its like they say, the military might not be for everyone. The only thing I can say is your kids are probably proud of both their parents for being soo brave and doing what they love. Ive been with my husband through 3 tours to Iraq. I still cant say i know what he went through, but I can say Ive been very supportive. Being in Iraq you know all of the chaos that happens over there. Our military sometimes needs the support of their families to adjust when they come home. (that's putting it mildly) I admire that you two are doing what you love and have a family along with it. I just want to raise my family and not have to rely on my family back home to do that for me. To me nothing else matters more.
2007-08-26 18:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Rae 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Okay, I have thought about it but my calling is a stay at home mother. The toughest job in the military is to be a military wife/mother. I have not followed him because I have our children to raise, and more children to have. I don't think it would help in understanding him because I know that he wants me to be a mother and wife. I know that he needs to know that he has a strong homefront to come home to. So the answer is yes I have thought about it but no I would not do it. My children need me, so that they can understand why daddy is not always at home. I don't think I could do it because I need to be around my children, I need to know that they have at least one parent who is always there and personally it is my responsabilty to make sure that MY children are taken care of.
2007-08-28 05:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by Heather F 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if i would want us both in at the same time but there are days where i wish we could switch jobs, he be the stay at home parent and i go out for a few months.
2007-08-27 03:02:03 · answer #10 · answered by jalopina98 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋