i have been told that am pretty, but i find that overtime or before they get to know me, some guys begin to ignore me. I don't have a poker face. I can have that emo look i guess. What are some of your reasons. I think i start to make guys feel uncomfortable. What is it about me? i'd like to be more normal.
2007-08-26 17:04:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think my personality may come off as unattractive. That time of the month is pretty deadly. Stay away from me.
2007-08-26 17:14:53 · update #1
Some guys are just intimidated by beautiful women. Being rejected by a woman is bad enough, but when she is beautiful, and highly socially desirable, rejection can set a standard that others should treat the guy poorly as well.
So, guys avoid that rejection as much as possible. Also, many guys have been rejected in the past, and don't want to repeat the emotionally unpleasant experience. Put another way: it's not just you. All women encounter these issues.
The best solution, is to smile, laugh, and enjoy life in general. This will make you seem like a nice person, who is less risky to approach. Also, have some cool interests / hobbies, and just appear cool in general, so guys realize that if they DO approach, and you aren't interested, that there will not be a big to-do when you politely reject them.
A different strategy is to approach the men you are interested in, without waiting for them. This shows an enormous amount of self-confidence, which is very attractive.
If you have already known these guys for some time, then you just have to be more aware of yourself in the moment, when you are talking to these men. Notice what you are saying / doing, as well as what their responses are. If they suddenly seem uncomfortable, then notice what you did prior to this, which might have caused their discomfort.
Good luck!
2007-08-26 17:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Marc M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason I'm answering your question/rant is because I'm waiting for some software to install on my computer and am quite board right now... I know what you're talking about. There isn't a guy in the dating world that doesn't. First, I think you should realize that you just made a huge generalization which is that all women are as you say which is they ALL ignore the nice, quiet and reserved men. When you say women only go for those arrogant overconfident bastards, one question I can't help asking is: how old are these "women" that you are talking about? If you are talking about women in their 20's that would explain it. Most women (and I must emphasize my use of the word "most") in their 20's are pretty stupid. Fast forward 10 years and you get the exact opposite. The difference? Experience. Most women in their 30's I've encountered seem to want nothing to do with the overconfident, arrogant man. In fact they seem repulsed by it. I think it has everything to do with them just wising up a bit, and when it comes down to it, that's really what you want in a woman anyway. However, I must come half way with you on a point you are making: women do like confidence in a man. I liken it to being the same thing with men being attracted to women with big boobs. I really can't help but feel bad for all those frustrated women who don't. Do you think only women with big boobs are worth dating? You'd be stupid if you said yes. Bottom line, it is what it is. If you are into the young-20s-type women then it gets real simple: get yourself some confidence. There is no shortcut. But if you want a women to accept you for who you are, both the good and the bad, you'll need to, again, become confident in yourself, be yourself and don't give a flying crap about those "other" confident men, most of whom, when it really comes down to it, really are the most insecure people on earth who are just putting on a good show at the bar... but would never admit it. Most women in their 30s have all that figured out...
2016-04-02 01:06:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most of the time, most men wont ignore an attractive woman so that could be your problem right there. Personally some reasons that I have ignored an attractive woman is because of personality, or like a bad vibe that I get from them..or if a girl is very very open..I guess I'll say that if they seem "easy" or something like that, trying to be nice. If a girl is like that its just a complete turn off and they will come across as overbearing, intense or generally unpleasant. Another, more unreallistic reason for an attractive woman to get ignored is if a man with no confidence finds her altogether TOO attractive and sees her as way out of his league..so stay positive that could always just be it. If I were you, then I would just be outgoing and happy and pleasant and BE YOURSELF and things will come as they will.
2007-08-26 17:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lord Marquís Quincy Derbyshire V 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your beautiful, sexy and probably have a beautiful body also and your worried about some idiot who doesn't know how to take care of a woman. Well your noral and it's normal for a guy to ignore you some but if he did he is an idot because I don't ever ignore beautiful women. I like tlaking to them, going out with them and also satisfying all her needs. SO IM me anytime if you want a real man not a boy or someone who thinks he's a man.
2007-08-26 17:13:14 · answer #4 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not a guy...but i can give you advice lol. I had the same problem, but i can relate it to a story type thing. I'll give u the jist of the story.
Women are like apples. Men will go for apples that are on the ground or on the lower branches because they are easy and there is little chance of getting hurt. There are a few men, who will have the courage and strength to make it to the top of the tree to get the more difficult to reach and more beautiful apples.
2007-08-26 17:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons a guy won't give you their time. (1)You could come off in away that is not attractive. (2) Maybe its hard for them to show interest. [You might show a tough guard]
There are a vast majority of reasons why they don't come to you. Just show them the person you truly are and they show interest.
Best wishes,
Mike
2007-08-26 17:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Michael W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never ignore a good looking women.
It just that average looking men(like me) are intimidated by beautiful/attractive looking women. I would love to get with a beautiful women, though.
2007-08-26 17:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
One reason is that she ignored me, or seemed to. Another is if she dressed poorly. The only other reason, and it's rare, is if I want to see if she likes me, so I ignored to see if she would pay attention without provocation from me. Once she did, I paid attention back.
2007-08-26 17:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by Robert B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're way to beautiful girl....Thats why it'll never work
You'll have me Suicidal.....Suicidal
I've had that damn song in my head for 3 days......
But hey I finally got a chance to put it to use.....Thanks
*******Just thought of something to add***********
Thats called being snubbed, not paid any attention to......
Did that make you More or Less interested in at least having a conversation with the guy????......Seinfeld Episode
2007-08-26 17:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by dick_ache 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most 'attractive' women know it and act like it.Often un approachable and usually with personality flaws that overcome their attractiveness.
2007-08-26 19:17:55 · answer #10 · answered by G M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋