I showed a picture of a wedding dress I liked in a magazine and website to my fiance and he didn't like it. Last week, I had the opportunity 2 go shopping 4 a dress & i saw the dress. Everybody in the store & my friend said it was the nicest dress I tried on & I discussed it with my fiance who at the time said that he trusted the opinions of the people I was with so I ended up putting 50% down on it. Last night my fiance saw a photo of me in the dress & ended up admitting that he thought the dress was horrible & couldn't understand why I would have got it when he had already said 2 me that he didn't like it & it didn't suit the style of wedding we were having (originally it was a casual wedding & I picked a formal dress). I got really upset & he's tried 2 backtrack on what he said as he feels awful, but I want 2 cancel the order. Do bridal stores offer refunds? If not, what do I do? I don't want 2 wear this dress anymore as I want 2 wow him in my dress & I know I won't in this one
2007-08-26 16:57:32 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I just rang the store. She is going to try and cancel the order and she said that they'll give me store credit. It's a small boutique store so I hope they have a more suitable dress. I know I was an idiot by choosing that dress but it was the one I fell in love with and I had all the sales assistants around me and my friend telling me how it was "MY" dress and nothing else came close and I got too caught up in it and didn't think of it objectively. My fiance was only being honest as my dress changed what he wore, the flowers and lots of other little things and I can understand how he was feeling a little frustrated, he didn't mean to hurt my feelings and he feels awful over it. Next dress though I sure won't be showing him the dress but next time I'll be choosing a more appropriate dress and one that I know he will love.
2007-08-27 04:00:33 · update #1
ok, can I just say that my fiance is not a jerk and he's not controlling or anything like that. My choice of dress completely changed what he was planning to wear, the flowers that we had ordered and the colour scheme. He was only pointing out that the dress wasn't appropriate and was surprised and dismayed that I would pick a dress I knew he didn't particularly care for and didn't put proper thought into it and he's right. I didn't :( He feels absolutely awful about upsetting me and is willing to change his outfit, the colour scheme and the flowers just to make me happy. I'm just an idiot to have got all caught up in the moment and not take the time to really think about it.
2007-08-27 06:33:59 · update #2
You need to talk to the store you got it at. If they won't refund, maybe they will transfer the deposit to another dress. I would explain the situation and they should be understanding. I know you love the dress, but i'm like you - if it's that important to him I would want to please him too. Just make his issue isn't about cost or another issue. If it is,then I would keep the dress because if it's about cost, he probably really likes the dress but just thinks ya'll can't afford it. Find out that first. I think you will find out if he truly hated the dress or not because it sounds like if your friends and you loved it then chances are he does too. Otherwise, I would try to find one more to suit his and your tastes because like you said - you want to WOW him on your wedding day! He's the most important one that will be looking at you! Good luck!!
2007-08-26 17:08:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Store credit should take care of it -- but honey, a fiance' that would TELL you that you look bad in your wedding dress is a SKUNK!! I'm glad he's upset, because what he did was really, really . . . hmm, shall we say, "ill-advised"?
On the other hand . . .
I don't really go with all the responses that say, "It's your dress, you're the queen, whatever you say, goes . . " Two people get married at a wedding. If you and he were planning and paying for a casual wedding and he saw the formal gown, I can understand why he would be a little confused and put off. He may be afraid that you are escalating the scale of the wedding, and wonder who in the heck this woman is that he is marrying that just recently claimed to want a casual wedding . . .
Talk to him, without all the drama. When all is said and done, it's a dress that you wear once. Your marriage is the centerpiece of the day -- not what kind of dress you were wearing. Keep your eye on the goal, here, and don't get distracted by the petty stuff.
2007-08-26 17:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I'm answering LATE - it seems to have worked out - the store is being real nice & letting you change it. Sounds like your guy is OK & you made a rash decision & jumped at the "wrong dress" one that was ill-suited to the setting of your wedding. I'm glad it will be okay - hopefully, dress #2 will be better - perhaps he should go dress shopping with you, as he seems to have a better handle on things than the friend you took last time. Sure was nice of the store to let you do this - very few of them would - you owe them a big thank you!
2007-08-27 08:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to check the receipt you signed.
When I signed mine, it states no refunds and all sales are final. Even if that means you put half down (like I did). Will state you will loose that half if you cancel.
If you don't want the dress: Cancel or pay it and try to re sell it. You won't get back what you paid for it, but at least you can get some back to put on another dress.
He shouldn't be picking your dresses. It is one thing to go with some things he likes, but it is another for him to hurt you on the choice of dress you really like.
I showed my husband two dresses I tried on. One dress is very close and similar to the dress I bought. He really liked that dress, so I know I did really good at picking the other. Yet, he doesn't know that. (this dress is for our renewel. I didn't have a wedding dress when we got married almost 7 months ago).
Guys might say they don't like the dress. but hun, let me tell you this. Once he see's you walking toward him, all made up, that dress that he thought was ugly, can actually be the dress he finds most beautiful on you.
It is not the dress wears you. It is you wear the dress being an all made up bride ready to become a wife.
So, get some of his "interests" (does he like fluffly, curvy, silk, long train, ties/straps in the back) etc. But don't let him choose the dress for you. This dress isn't just to woo him. It is also to make you feel good too.
2007-08-26 19:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
they might not refund you, but maybe they would let you use the money towards another dress from that store. I just dont understand why you would put a deposit down on a dress you know he didnt like if you care so much what he thinks. I hope for your sake they give you something back on it becuase it would be a shame to be out that money. I would however not ask his opinion on dresses anymore. if you want to wow him then surprise him when you walk in wearing a beautiful dress. you wont wow him if he knows what your going to be wearing.
2007-08-26 17:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Regarding your comment: "I had all the sales assistants around me and my friend telling me how it was "MY" dress and nothing else came close and I got too caught up in it and didn't think of it objectively."
They say that to everyone about any dress you try on. They want you to buy it! Do not listen to the sales assistants or anyone who works at the store.
Make sure you give yourself a good 24 hours to really think about the dress and buying it before you do so.
I saw one this weekend that I LOVED and was thinking of getting it, but after really thinking about it I realized it would be too heavy and cumbersome for me to wear (Summer June beach wedding). I was all caught up in the hype that the sales assistants brought on.
2007-08-27 05:41:16 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your fiancee is being a jerk, if he makes u change your wedding dress now, then u will have a controlling issue with him when u get married. the dress is supposed to be a surprise to him and if he doesnt like the dress then u have no choice but to change it to something he hasnt seen. but u need to find out what they deal is with him giving u such a hard time with the dress. after all he isnt going to wear it u are and he really doesnt have a say in it .
2007-08-27 06:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the first place if you feel good in that dress and it's what you want--stop worrying about the small stuff!!!!
It's your Wedding Day and you are the Princess--The Queen of the day however you want to put it.
Even if your dress is formal your wedding plans can work around it!!!
Last of all, it's not his decision on what you wear and not to hurt your feelings but, you shouldn't have shown him a picture of the dress let alone with you in it.
2007-08-26 17:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by Mignon F 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First, try to get your money back. Beg them to cancel the order. Then, instate a wedding-dress gag order! There is a reason that brides dont show their fiances the dress. They want to totally surprise them, and also, men dont know what makes a great wedding dress. A dress in a magazine and you wearing it are two totally different things, and men just have no idea. Leave him out of it!
2007-08-26 17:06:15 · answer #9 · answered by fizzy stuff 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am sure the money put down on the dress can be transfered to a different one. Tell the store what is up.
2007-08-27 03:36:25 · answer #10 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋