Do you think i'm a Worthless person?

Question

OK. I'm a stayhome mom, i don't have a job, i totally fall in love in highschool, and get married so i did't attend college, and the worst of all i'm 22 and don't drive i'm extremely nervous and i just can't move the car, so i depend totally of husband, and i don't like my life... I was just wondering if I'm that worthless. I really feel so deppressed . What would you do in my place?

My only baby is 18 months

Answer 1

First things first...YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. You have children that love and adore you. Second you have a husband which again tells me you have tons of worth because he loved you enough to marry you and have children with you. That in itself makes you FULL OF WORTH!!!!! As for the stay at home mom business...I'm a stay at home mom that IS my job. Did you know that if you combined all the jobs you do as a "stay at home mom" your net pay according to OUR government would be around 165 THOUSAND or more dollars a year. Not bad for a woman with no degree. I am a stay at home mom with no degree 4 kids I'm 26 and I'm happy because I know it takes a LOT to do what I do. You and I are fortunate enough to have the privilage of seeing every waking moment of our childrens lives. There are women who would give EVERYTHING to be able to do that.

As for the not attending college that means nothing. There are tons of people who didn't attend college, and are amazing. My mother for example she had six children worked 2 jobs and she didn't attend college. I admire her for everything she did and still does for all of us.

Driving for you sounds like it is anxiety related. Try practicing with a friend or someone you feel safe around. Not all at once. First try just sitting in the car (turned off at first) by yourself for a little bit and move baby steps after that. Ask yourself if its the car that's part of your anxiety or if it's leaving the comfort of your home that's the problem? Answering that question first might get to the root of your problem.

You also need to ask yourself what is it about your life that you don't like? Try and change the things you can and except that this is not all gonna happen at once.

You are extremely full of worth. You have to have confidence in yourself. There are people who love and adore you keep their opinions close to your heart and the rest aren't worth hearing.

If nothing else do it for your children. You'd be suprised how much love a child has for their mother.

I hope this helped. =)

Answer 2

You're not worthless at all! Don't let anyone tell you that you are. There's nothing wrong with not working & being a stay at home mom. Lots of moms would give anything to be able to stay at home with their kids. You'd be surprised how many people don't go to college...you could always take night classes or online classes. As for the driving part, I know the feeling. I'm 20 & I just got my license a few months ago & it was only because I got a great job offer, but it involved running lots of errands for the office so I had to go get it finally. I was so nervous when driving that I would totally space out & not even know what I was doing. I have really bad anxiety & driving was one of the things that made me bounce off the walls in fear. I started out by just driving around the country & the less busy streets around town before I went to take my driving test. I finally went & I was extremely nervous, but it was so easy! For the first month or so, the only time I would drive was to & from work. Now I'm so comfortable driving, it's unbelievable! You definitely get used to it. You are NOT worthless!

Answer 3

Honey, first of all you are not worthless. You DO need a driver's license. I wish I knew what your nervous condition was, because I assume they've got many different levels. If I were in your place I would work on overcoming my nerves about driving a car...especially where you've got kids! You should not feel that you need to depend on your husband. From what I see...marriage does not always last. I'm in a committed relationship, but I feel confident that I could also make it myself with 2 kids and myself. You are still young and if I were you I would get some online schooling! It's becoming much more popular and you can stay home with your child(ren).
Do something now...pls don't get depressed...if you started school or working part time right now, within a year you'd feel like a different girl...totally empowered - give it shot!

Answer 4

Nah, you're fine! You've done very well up to now, and you're just starting out! So, now you feel that you want to do more? No problem! It doesn't have to be a problem that you don't drive - many people don't drive, and of those who do, most drive very, very badly. You're probably better off, in that (1) you don't have to fight with all those idiots, and (2) you're not adding to the road congestion and traffic jams. The key thing is to find ways to _not_ totally depend on your husband - like public transportation if you live in an urban area, or car-pooling if you have friends who drive where you want to go. You want to go to college? There should be one near you that offers evening or part-time degrees in almost anything you might want to learn. You don't have to have any particular goal, mind you - pretty much all of us just got a Bachelor's in "General Knowledge" (it may have been called a BA or BS and had something like 'Natural Sciences' or Philosophy' attached to it, but it was basically just general stuff. College is the time you figure out what you want to do and what turns you on. Doesn't really matter that you would be doing it a couple years later than most; I bet you'd actually do a lot better than most - most of the high school kids have a hard time adjusting to the way college works, but you've been running a household for several years. If you decide you want to do something else, there are schools that handle training in a variety of trades; just make sure as best you can that they're good places and not just scams to take your money. Check around with places that hire such people - do they ever hire students from those schools?
Try not to feel depressed - that just makes it harder to do things. Decide what you want to do and give it a whack! You're still just a kid, so even if you find it wasn't quite what you wanted, you've got loads of time to try different things. Be daring! Have fun!

Answer 5

you aren't worthless. i don't know you at all, but i can tell you that you are loved soooo much more than you seem to know. Yes, you do seem to have some problems that you should probably straighten out, but you are not worthless. Remember that God loves you, no matter what you do. In His eyes, you are of the same worth as everyone else. Just like Hitler wasn't any less worthless than Winston Churchill.
and with the whole stay-at-home mom, i have a lot to say. That is the best job anyone can ever have. i personally believe that if a mom doesn't have to have a job, she shouldn't. she should be home with her kids. these days, stayhome moms are looked down upon and as you say, worthless. That is not true at all. By being a mom, you are doing god's work. And just think of your kids, would you really trust them with anyone else? some lady at a daycare center? they want you - their mom.

You are not worthless

Answer 6

For what it worth, I don't think you are a worthless person. Value is often times in the eye of the beholder, not unlike beauty. If one person thinks a silly rose is beautiful and another doesn't, is the rose beautiful or not? Maybe your are a moron, or and idiot, but you wouldn't be the first as we have thousands in institutions, so what to do? I don't know, but try to see what you can do, talk with your family, friends and/or spouse, try to do your best, try not to do bad things that would get you in bad trouble-stealing, lying, or worse, Then see if the dawn comes the next day, if it does give it a try again, it can only get better or worse as it rarely stays the same. Good luck on dealing with your situations, many of which have been successfully dealt with by others so there may be some hope for you also. .

Answer 7

First of all, you're a stay at home mom so you do have a job. In my opinion the hardest job. I do not believe anyone is worthless. You do sound depressed, though. Perhaps you need to see a professional. Believe me there is no shame in that. As far as driving, I know several people who never learned to drive or even wanted to learn. That's okay. sweetie, you are only 22 you have lots of time to do the college thing. I did it at 32 and kept it up until 42. Please do not be so hard on yourself. But, do consider speaking to a doctor about your feelings. There is help out there so why not take advantage of it. I wish you the best of luck:) Just found out your baby is 18 mos. Your hormones are probably crazed right now. post partum depression can be severe I know this from experience. See a doctor okay? It will get better:)

Answer 8

No, you are not a worthless person. You do have a job; being a stay at home Mom and there is no job more important. Everyone doesn't go to college and many who don't do very well in life. You fell in love in high school, got married and had a child (or children). That is all positive. You can get your license; you just need to have a very patient person teach you and help you to gain confidence. If someone helps you and you start slowly and drive on quiet roads where you can learn and gain confidence, you will be OK. You just haven't done it and have to build up the courage to start driving. Maybe it feels bad to you to depend on your husband for everything. It sounds like you have some self esteem issues and that is why you are disappointed with your life. You are depressed because you don't like yourself. You need to find out who you are and look for the good things about yourself. Everyone has some talents and gifts and you need to find yours and use them. I would bet that you are a good wife and mother but that you are feeling kind of isolated by not being able to get out and do things because you are limited because you don't drive. You want to be independent and are frustrated because you have to depend on other people to get out and go places. I would sign up for some driving lessons or ask someone that you trust to help you to learn. It can't be someone who will criticize you and make you more nervous; it has to be someone who will be patient and instruct you so you will feel OK about it. I might also suggest that you get some counselling so you would learn to see the things that are special about you. You will be much happier when you learn to love yourself. You are still very young and you have many responsibilities. Don't judge yourself so harshly. You can do anything that you want in life if you are determined. Believe in yourself and when you do something, do it to the best of your ability. I would guess that your husband is very proud of you but would really be much happier if you could feel some pride in yourself. Go for the gold; you are worth whatever it takes!!

Answer 9

Don't be so down on yourself. You're doing a very important job...raising a child. There is nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home mom. I think your problem is that you don't drive so you're feeling very isolated. Tell your husband that you want to learn to drive. Since you say you're nervous about it. Start slow. Just sit in the car and start it up. Do that for awhile then go on to learning how to shift and so on. Your husband should be able to show you how. Once you learn, then you can go to the grocery store, the mall, the park with your baby. It will give you something to look forward to. Then when your baby gets older, think about taking a night class and your husband can take care of the baby while you go. You deserve to go something for yourself as well. I hope this advice helps you. You're too young to feel alone and depressed. You have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck and stay strong, sweetheart.

Answer 10

The glass seems half-empty the way you describe it, but to me you are...
a young lady who fell in love with her high school sweetheart. You're happily married, have a beautiful family and a supportive husband. You're only worthless if you think you are girl. You've gat a beautiful life and have so much to be thankful for. You're young and have so much more to look forward to. Get in control of yourself. If driving's not your thing then so what. My boss has never driven a car in 62 years he's been alive. Everyone loves him. I'm sure many poeple love you too. Focus on the things you can do in life!

Answer 11

No you're not worthless! I do, however, think you need to take some steps to become more independent. I think learning to drive would be first on the agenda. Do it for your child. Think of all the places you could take him/her if you could drive. The park, the zoo. It would make him/her so happy. If you let that be your motivation, you might could overcome some of your fear or driving. Perhaps a friend or family member (not your husband) could let you drive their car. Go to an empty parking lot and don't even put your foot on the gas, just take it off the brake, little by little, until you feel more comfortable. You can take such tiny baby steps in driving to become more independent. Think of the satisfaction you would have seeing your progression. and how happy it would make you. Take a year, learn to drive comfortably. Then conquer your next fear. Maybe get an education. Just take one class. An easy one, like a PE or history class. The next semester take two classes. By the time you're thirty you would be a totally different person and probably much more happy with your life. Good luck!