my fiance has a problem with pain pills?

Question

I do not do any pills at all she has back trouble but i can't understand why she has to do them all the time i don't think she is in pain all the time! i will not marry a pill head WHAT TO DO?

Answer 1

Your question really doesn't give enough info for a great answer because there are alot of factors to consider. Briefly, If she is taking more pills than are prescribed to her by a doctor, and/or doesn't have a valid prescription, it is a good sign that she has a problem. There should be no excuses, such as I can't afford a doctor or the prescription, under no circumstances should they be taken without a prescription. Reason being, doctors determine your dosage and can tell your tolerance levels so that you can function through out your day.
However, if she is a pain patient, I have to tell you that back pain can be more than you ever imagined. Until I became afflicted with chronic back pain, I didn't have a clue and honesty wasn't very sympathetic to how awful it can be. I simply cannot function with out some pain relief. I tried for a very long time to avoid this because I am a recovering addict and although I have over 10yrs clean, I was terribly worried about what would happen. My doctors have been able to keep me relatively comfortable without my walking around "buzzed". If you are in pain,the medication truely does go to the pain first and unless you are a severe patient, you should be on a medication that allows you not to be stoned.

So, I guess what I'm trying to say is if she is "high" alot then it probably is a problem, but if you want to tell me more about it i could probably help you a little bit more.
Good Luck

Answer 2

If your fiancee has chronic back pain, and has been taking analgesic medications for an extended period, then her body has probably adapted to the medication. After an extended period of narcotic analgesic use, the body will need regular medication just to feel normal to the patient. Some of this is due to physiologic dependence, and some is due to the body's ability to adjust the pain level to the medication.

Patients who have chronic pain are not as likely to become psychologically addicted to a medication as they are to become physiologically dependent. There is a key difference. Psychologically addicted people usually have drug seeking behavior and use the medication in excess of the prescribed dose. Physiologically dependent persons will generally take their medications regularly but do not seek additional drugs for the euphoric feeling provided as a side effect. There is also generally less feeling of the euphoria in patients with chronic pain.

Many patients with chronic pain are treated inappropriately by their physicians, due to the desire to keep the patient out of pain. If it is a concern have your fiancee see a specialist in pain medicine. They may continue the same medications, but usually will try to shift the medications to decrease the body's adaptation and also they will often add non-medication techniques to decrease the need for medication. This includes nerve blocks, electrical stimulation (internal or external) and other techniques.

It is also important to understand that all pain cannot be treated with analgesic medications. Back pain usually has a large component of neuropathic pain which responds better to non-narcotic methods.

Overall, discuss your concerns with your fiancee, get her point of view on her pain. Have her discuss her options with her current practitioner.

Pain issues affect the whole family, and have a significant impact on the patient's quality of life.

Answer 3

From what you have described he sounds like you will be one hell of a husband when you finally tie the knot. "wink" "wink". That was complete sarcasm by the way, he sounds like he is a waste of time for you. He obviously has an issue with addiction being that he drinks, does pot and now that you know of is doing pills. This just smells not good.

Answer 4

if you're concerned I would recommend you have her see a pain specialist. She may be taking the pills because she cannot resolve the back pain. Another good doctor to see would be a chiropractor as they use no drugs and are excellent at helping back pain. I've enclosed a link where you can find a qualified chiropractor in your area.

Answer 5

It depends on which pills she is taking, NSAIDs and paracetamol have no addictive potential. Also of course some people are in pain all the time. Why not give her some sympathy and also ask her what is going on!

Answer 6

It has been said that back pain correlates with stress since the spine helps to support the whole body. Has she been under extra strain lately? Also, you need to pay more attention to when and how many pills she is taking. My husband has a higher tolerance for medication and often has to take higher doses to get relief. Have you talked to her? We have resucesd severely how much medicine we take in our house. check out this site http://jwtpowerfuljuice.gomangosteen.net

Answer 7

If she's taking them for legitimate pain, she's not "doing" them. She's taking them. If she's not taking them as prescribed, then there's a problem, but if she's taking them as her doctor prescribed them, she isn't a "pill head" and you're being a jerk.

Here's my own personal experience: I've had pain off and on for 5 years. Two years ago, it began to be so bad that I couldn't get out of bed. Sex was unberably painful. I was in constant discomfort, it kept getting worse. I was in and out of the ER and saw a general practitioner, a urologist, and a gynecologist. They did lots of tests and couldn't find anything wrong. They would put me on narcotic pain medications and those medications would help, but after a few weeks they would stop giving them to me because they couldn't find the source of the problem.

Finally, they started telling my husband and me that the pain was ll in my head and nothing was wrong with me except I was addicted to the pain pills and was drug seeking. My husband believed them. He tried to plan an intervention and have me sent to inpatient rehab. When that didn't work he tried sending me to a substance abuse counselor who weaned me off the pills. I still had pain. I was furious at him for not believeing me, and we seperated. We were on the verge of divorce when he got a job offer in Virginia. He asked me to come with him and I agreed. We found a doctor in Virginia who did surgery to look inside my uterus to see if my pain was coming from endometriosis. It was the only test the other doctors had never done.

Lo and behold, the doctor found out that I had an extremely painful condition called Pelvic Congestion Syndrome. It explained not only my pain, but several other symptoms I had been having over the past 2 years that had been ignored or overlooked by the other doctors. The only cure for PCS is a total hysterectomy, which the doctor wouldn't consider because of my age. I am now in pain management and have a whole new life, and a stronger marriage than ever.

My husband didn't believe there was anything wrong with me and it almost cost us our marriage. My point is, you can never know how much a person is uffering. To look at me, you wouldn't know that anything was wrong with me. But without my medication, I am in constant agony and unable to do anything, even get out of bed and get dressed. I live in a world of judgement because people don't understand my illness.

I know from my own sad experience that it is almost impossible to get a doctor to prescribe narcotics, so if her doctor is prescribing them, she clearly needs them. I can also tell you from my own experience that it is bad enough to live in pain without having the person you love the most believe that you are a "pill head" who doesn't have pain.

Your question was "What to do?" My answer for you is, as long as she is taking the medication as prescribed by her doctor, stop jusdging her and thinking of her her as "pill head" who is "doing" drugs. If you could see her pain, you wouldn't have a problem beliveing her, would you? Your inability to believe anything you can't physically see may cost you someone wonderful. If she was diabetic and took insulin every day, you wouldn't see her as "doing" drugs. There's no difference between that and her having to taking medication for pain, as long as she's taking it as prescribed. If not, then there IS a problem that needs to be addressed. But if she is, and you're calling her a pill head who is doing drugs, maybe you shouldn't get married, because she can clearly find someone who is more understanding of her condition and isn't a judgemental asshole.

Oh, and by the way... my judgemental husband, who didn't believe in my pain..... He has to be in pain management now as well because of knee problems. Let me tell you, things look a hell of a lot different to him now when it comes to taking pain medication. The shoe may be on the other foot one day, and you'd do well to remember that!